First of all, a sense of security is a feeling, a kind of psychology; It is the feeling brought by the performance from one side to the other; It is a reassuring, dependent and trusting behavior.
Second, whether you can have a sense of security comes from many factors, both subjective and objective. Your question is objective, so let's talk about it mainly. To make the other person feel safe, you must first make the other person believe in yourself. It's not easy to make the other person believe in himself. You must be able to show it in words and manners, such as: keep your word, do what you say, and don't promise if you can't do it; Talk to her often, talk about your thoughts, and always greet and care about her life; No matter how busy you are, don't ignore her and often give her some surprises; Don't be too nice to other girls, talk and do things the same; Willing to get rid of your bad habits for him. . .
Third, the sense of material security. If you really want to reassure her, you must also have a specific sense of material security, that is to say, you must make her feel that you don't have to worry about what you need in life and you don't have to worry about living without money. This is actually a very important factor.
Finally, there is one thing that must be done often, that is, always say "I love you" to her!
To tell the truth, if a man asks you for a sense of security, it is very sad. Because this means two possibilities, one is that you don't give him enough sense of security, and the other is that he is an insecure person.
The first one may have two situations, or there are relatively cold factors in personality, and there is no way or habit to fully express their enthusiasm. Or, you don't love this man that much. Think about it. When two people are together, only you can have sex with me every day. I will love you sooner or later. I miss your love. Is it a good state of love? I think the most comfortable state in the final form of love is similar to family and friends, or as Ma Weiwei said, true love is like being alone. Everyone has his own life. You have your dreams, your career and everything you need to be busy with. You and I are not everything in each other's lives. After all, no one can live in Qiong Yao's Korean dramas forever, whether it is a woman or a man. After the love period is over, you should start to consider whether you are suitable for this person, and you can spend the next long decades together. In this process, whether we get along comfortably is the most important consideration. It is absolutely impossible if two people lack understanding together and can't go to each other's point. Love and poverty are two things that cannot be concealed. If two people in love can clearly feel that love is gone, they will try their best to save each other and feel insecure. If this is the reason, I really advise you to leave each other alone. Because one-sided love will make you feel very tired, and finally bored, making him very helpless and painful.
The second possibility is that he is a sensitive, fragile and insecure person, and falling in love with this kind of person is a very tiring process. Because you will find that you can never meet each other's requirements for your feelings and life. Because the other person has no sense of security, he will want to master more details of your life. When you can't meet each other's requirements, or you can't fully respond to each other, you will find that you have become a villain. He loves you so much, loves you so wronged, even condescending and so humble. Why don't you respond, and you become a selfish person. You who can't respond to each other are actually very wronged. After all, love is not love when it becomes debt. We don't love someone to make ourselves feel guilty and make each other suffer.
To put it another way, when the other person feels insecure, it is often when he doesn't feel expected, needed or relied on. However, everyone's life often has so many mess to solve. Some people like to rely on others, while others are naturally emotionally independent. They don't like to rely on others, and they don't like to express their pressure. Do I have to play a disgruntled woman to tell my partner that I need you? It doesn't seem right. I seem a little tired. When a person needs to rely on another person, he often knows that the other person can be relied on. When I am tired, I know that the other person's shoulders are strong enough and the other person's psychology is strong enough, so I want to rely on the other person. If the other person is too fragile to take care of his life, then why should I rely on him? Besides, even lovers have no right to ask each other to bear the vulnerability of others unconditionally, and I can't cope with it myself. Sadly, there are always some people who feel that they can ask others for tolerance for various reasons, such as the shadow of childhood and the pressure of life. Where is your mother? It is doomed to be a tragedy that an immature person falls in love in an immature way. After all, there are no virgins under the blue sky, human nature is selfish, and everyone has the right to choose a person who makes them comfortable. Please, no one has an obligation to be the savior. A sense of security is a hateful thing, which often puts a beautiful coat on selfishness and control. A person who always wants others to give him a sense of security is an impure person, a noble person and a person close to low taste. In the world of love, a person's sense of security comes from each other's feedback. It is more from the affirmation and trust in yourself. You know you are an interesting and charming person. Why not have confidence? Why are you worried that the other person will not love you and will leave you?
It turned out to be a long-distance relationship.
If he feels insecure, it has nothing to do with your beauty, whether you have many friends or not, and whether you can communicate. That was his life before he met you, which made him feel insecure.
If you are too lively and outgoing, you often have some friends he doesn't know, just like a running mat, you should restrain yourself. After all, you are in a long-distance relationship. Who can stand it? You have so many friends? He is not around, so many friends, what a terrible guess!
In order to reassure him, you will arrange a time, several times a day or a week, to have a video chat. Not late, not perfunctory. If his parents live near each other and both know about your relationship, he can call his parents during the video, so that he will feel more at ease.
The second is how to give men enough sense of security. First of all, marriage is the best cornerstone to keep love young. You get married first, which is the greatest sense of security. Second, take care of his parents after marriage, take care of your parents and teach each other. Moreover, you have to form an interest in thought. Citizens in the traditional world often sit together and, er, stick together. Don't let some of your ideas affect his career. You can think of it as a man of noble character. It's good to dress up as a partner. Well, I feel that a man will feel safe enough. In a word, you should give him enough consideration and care. People's hearts are all meat, and you are the biggest backing at home. At the same time, a woman can manage three generations, that is, the family situation of this man depends on you, so you are still a role with very important responsibilities. We are Yantai Dahan Catering Snack Training School. We have a very nice couple. His object is to open a milk tea shop. His embossed sedan chair has gone from two twins, usually five or six years, and has never come out to work, and has been at home, er, taking care of the children. So their relationship is very harmonious. Well, men and women love each other. One is Chen and the other is Dai Mingjun. They have a good relationship, and their families and children are in harmony.
First of all, I want to ask you a question. Where does the boyfriend's sense of security come from?
Your boyfriend's sense of security comes from your enough loyalty and warm and comprehensive love for him. The so-called loyalty is all you have for her, and the love you give her is pure love without any impurities. From now on, you should hold hands for life. One more thing, you should give him all your love. This is what the so-called "love me, love my dog" means. Since you like and love her, you should accept everything he likes, including his parents and brothers and sisters. Of course, so do your parents and brothers.
In this way, your boyfriend will feel great psychological satisfaction. Why does he feel insecure? What is returned to you is 100% loyal love, pure love, all love!
Your Xiaoxiang is probably very beautiful. Your friend is eating and drinking in the sun, which makes him a little scared. Your intimacy makes him feel unreliable. . . .
If you want to reassure him, you can make an appointment for daily video chat and 24-hour online inspection, including the audit of his family.
Also, you should often go to his house, take part in his housework, organize two families to travel together, or eat together.