In April 2021, China will announce the results of the census, which is the result that the whole country and all walks of life have been eagerly waiting for. The central bank has released a paper saying that the country's population will decline faster than imaginable, suggesting that full liberalization and encouragement of childbearing should be provided, and that women's difficulties in pregnancy, childbirth, childcare and schooling should be effectively addressed.

Many people are skeptical about this recommendation, after all, China's population base is large, and a shift in the thinking of a small number of people should not lead to rapid population decline. However, I think the central bank's prediction is possible. Young people nowadays have several problems: they are afraid to have children, unable to have children and unwilling to have children.

Don't dare to give birth to the economic pressure

Let's calculate a marriage, birth of an account: to the second-tier city of the ordinary spending, leaving aside the dating during the relationship, gift spending, the house of the down payment of 200,000, the car of the down payment of 50,000, the wedding banquet, wedding photos, wedding car wedding spending to 50,000, the bride price of the average of 50,000 yuan in various regions. The daughter-in-law has not yet married into the door, the bottom of the 350,000 has been spent, ask a family how many years can save 350,000.

Then again, the cost of childbirth, the preparation of nutrition during pregnancy 30,000, the birth of the example of childbirth costs 20,000 (some people can be reimbursed), 30,000 postpartum maintenance, which is another small 100,000.

The entire family savings are spent, and the young couple is burdened with a mortgage and car loan. Funds for the child's education is a big expense just by watching various parenting TV shows.

Just to calculate a simple account, how many people have retreated, so much economic pressure not only will not let become a couple of two people snuggle warm, but also will make the already difficult life worse. Marriage for more ordinary people is not two people **** the same for a family to work, but to reduce their quality of life to pass on.

The time cost of not being able to have children

China's labor laws do protect the rights and interests of workers, but ask how many people can actually enjoy the protection brought by the labor laws. The majority of people who work in large formal enterprises and state-owned enterprises are not even able to implement the five insurance and one gold, not to mention the so-called maternity leave.

Pregnancy is unemployment - and that's the reality for most workers. During this period and the first year or two after the baby is born, most women can't work and have to stay home with the baby, and even when they do work, it's not because they have nothing to worry about, but rather because the family's financial pressures force them to go out and earn money.

Pregnant women not only have to spend a lot of money on their children, but they also have to take on the pressure of their careers. After all, most women who return to the workplace after giving birth will be ostracized and questioned.

From traditional Chinese thinking, most families place the responsibility for childcare on the woman, and women bear the pressure of the workplace and the fear that they will be abandoned by society; they also bear the pressure of childcare, which is also known as "widowed marriages" and "widowed parenting". This is also known as "widowed marriage" and "widowed parenting". Outside the work will be blamed for ignoring the family, stay at home for the family to sacrifice social values and was said to be at home to enjoy the welfare of the husband's money, this two-sided rhetoric and how many women are not aggrieved.

The mental stress of not wanting to have children

Why do young people not want to have children? For fear of not being able to deal with the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, in-laws and the mother's family are treating themselves as outsiders; for fear of parenting concepts and the elders when there is a conflict, the husband will always be on the side of the mother-in-law; for fear of their own life to the child as the most important thing, a "fake vaccine" and other news about the child on the fear; for fear of the child's own hard work for the family, the husband is not a good idea. I'm afraid that while I'm working hard for my family, my husband is out on the town, drinking and cheating on the United Nations.

Our parents' generation was too confused, and their whole lives were spent in confusion. Our generation is too smart, all decisions are made after weighing the pros and cons and thinking clearly before deciding. Young people are willing to be brainwashed by all kinds of poisonous chicken soup on the Internet, and they are not willing to go to the walled city of marriage to see whether it is a flourishing city or a blazing oil cooking.

Repeating the same things day in and day out, following the same routines as yesterday, if we can avoid the violent joys, naturally there won't be any of those sorrows to come.

We avoided the onslaught of grief when we had the choice, and at the same time missed the violent joys. I think young people are more like a salted fish in their current state, having made it clear that they can't escape the whacks of society and just want to go with the flow and not die.

Whether childbearing is a social responsibility or a matter of self-selection

There was a joke on the Internet that same-sex couples are in love, and that opposite-sex couples love each other only for the sake of reproducing offspring. Think of all the policies that are now pushing marriage and procreation and making it harder and harder to get divorced. I don't know when it started, but it seems like getting married is really just for society to reproduce offspring.

We are just the most ordinary members of the human race, and one person's decision can't affect the whole history, but everyone who holds the idea of not having children will make a civilization upside down. If you think about it, life is a hundred years long, and in the blink of an eye, dust will return to dust, and earth to earth, so it's just a matter of time.

Whether to have children or not is a matter of personal choice, and every choice should be respected.