But it was really irritating! Of course, it is right to nip in the bud, but you don't have to worry about what will happen in a few decades, do you?
Besides, everything in the world is nothing but good and bad. Everything can't have a good result, as long as we try. In case the result is not satisfactory, it is definitely beyond our control. What's the use of worrying?
Years ago, I told myself not to think about useless things and simply put down the impossible. With this sentence, I spent that difficult time.
Teacher Wang is still deeply troubled in this respect. He often thinks about something repeatedly, but the result is not satisfactory because he thinks too much. I often think that this is because he doesn't like reading, so he doesn't listen to anything, so he doesn't care.
This will happen from time to time like last night, which will make me not gentle enough. Fortunately, I don't care, and he doesn't care about me. I soon convinced him that there is still salvation.
Then I went for a walk, but he slowed down a little and stayed on the sofa for a while before going out. Really helpless.
In life, we have a lot of helplessness to each other, but we can also compromise and tolerate each other. It is not easy to think about it. How proud we used to be!
He likes to collect all kinds of useless waste in my opinion, such as a small piece of wood, a small pipe, a small tile, even beautiful-looking packaging boxes, various plastic bags, and many small objects that can't be named.
He always said, if it helps ...
I don't know how many times I've said this, and I've tried to throw away some of his so-called "treasures" when he wasn't paying attention, but nagging is useless. But I just threw away the "treasure" that he seemed to have forgotten, and it was soon discovered. Then I asked sadly if I wanted to throw it away with him!
It makes me laugh and cry, and then I dare not throw those "babies" away easily. But what should I do if I feel uncomfortable? You can't always be angry with him about this, can you? Besides, there is no absolute good or bad, wrong or right in the world. Can I say that everything I advocate is good and right, but what he does is completely wrong? So why don't I turn a blind eye? What's the big deal? More importantly, I really have no intention of telling him who is right and who is wrong.
Of course, I can't help worrying about it for a while. Later, unconsciously, I had immunity and could ignore his hobbies. Maybe it has something to do with him hiding those things in a secret place. I'm out of sight, out of mind, too.
However, sometimes there is an idea in my heart that those "waste products" are still in a corner of my house. How can I pretend not to know? Well, one day. ...
Yes, it is often that one day, that is, every once in a while, I will take the opportunity of cleaning up, dig out those "eyesore" and put them in a conspicuous position at home, so that he can watch his unconscious "harvest" occupy so much space, and then consciously clean up.
Although it's not thorough every time, it's better than not throwing it at all. Every time this time, my heart is proud. After all, I have the upper hand in this silent "battle"!
Now I occasionally think, a few years later, looking back at what he and I have done in this matter, am I better than anyone else? Well, what can we do? What if it breaks down?
Come to think of it, not only this matter, but also other aspects seem to be the same.
He used to be active and I was quiet, which caused a lot of disharmony. I wanted to read a book, but he insisted on taking me out for a walk. He wants to go out for a walk, and I always hope he can watch TV with me.
Finally, I often go out with him reluctantly, but I always pull a long face and think he is wasting my time. He finally sat next to me and watched TV together. In less than five minutes, he said he was going out.
For this reason, we don't understand each other very well, and we can't figure out why you are not like me, but mine is more meaningful!
Not surprisingly, I told my friends about my helplessness, and my friends all laughed, and then agreed that most couples in the world are like this.
At that time, his mental state and optimistic smile were often much inferior to mine. A friend once said that I should learn from his young mind.
Slowly, sedentary life has affected my body, and my neck and lumbar vertebrae are not good, forcing me to pay attention to exercise. In the days of yoga, running and Baduanjin, I realized the benefits of sports more and more. Dopamine can really make people happy, and only exercise can do it.
In the past two years, I have tasted the sweetness of exercise, my physical problems have disappeared and my mental state is getting better and better.
On the contrary, Mr. Wang is not very active, nor is he as optimistic and cheerful as before. He likes to get stuck in some trivial matters and can't break through.
I think the reason why he is like this is because he has been too idle for two years, so-called much ado about nothing!
So I advised him to read books or listen to lectures, which can not only kill too much free time, but also cultivate a hobby, change the inherent prejudice, broaden his horizons and increase his knowledge.
However, my advice has so far been ineffective. He can't calm down when reading, and he finds it troublesome to listen to books. He belongs to the practical type and feels that the lecture hall of life is his own world.
Never mind, I quite agree! I never think that couples must have the same hobbies. It doesn't matter who has a good hobby and who has a bad hobby. That kind of intimate and independent relationship is the healthiest relationship.
But at present, there is not much for him to practice, so he feels that he has no goal in life, and the sense of loss once controlled him.
After some adjustment, I finally reached a tacit understanding with him. When I am reading and writing, he tries not to disturb me, but often reminds me to pay attention to my health. He was passionate about many things for three minutes, but he never cultivated a stable hobby. I'm in no hurry. Let him adjust himself and take his time.
Fortunately, the morning exercise that started in the summer vacation has influenced him, and he gradually insists on exercising every day, and his state is developing in a better and better direction.
It's just that some aspects are inevitably nagged by me. For example, it is good to have a hobby of learning to cook, but I always read recipes before going to bed, which makes me hungry and sleepy. This seriously affects sleep. I can't get up in the morning, and I have no appetite for breakfast.
For another example, after dinner, he always likes to stay on the sofa and go out for a walk, but he is too lazy to move. I finally got up, but I couldn't bear to walk a few more steps to the park outside. I always like to stroll around the four walls of the courtyard of the community, and I can't be too depressed by high-rise buildings.
I can't help nagging him about these phenomena, but he ignores me every time.
I laughed at myself afterwards. What's the big deal? What's going on here?
Yes, what I said above, and many things in my life, are actually no big deal, but we artificially exaggerate its negative effects and add a jam to ourselves and people around us, which is really not worth it!
However, the reason is clear. Speaking of the situation at that time, who can really be free and easy? So, can you learn from your experience and stop being stubborn? Not at all. Whenever I face it again, it will still be very troublesome, even if I laugh at myself afterwards.
This is life, the life we have to face every day. Maybe no one can escape the customs!