After school, the children were playing in the small square, and I was chatting with the mother of my child’s classmate.

I’m not very familiar with her, but within ten minutes from greeting her to chatting, I could tell that she was a very troubled person.

For example, while emphasizing the difficulty of raising two children full-time, she also envied working mothers.

While emphasizing that the value of stay-at-home mothers is not recognized by society, and worrying that they will be eliminated if they cannot keep up with the changes of the times, they also say that working women will encounter career crises at the age of 35, and it is not easy to build a career.

While secretly glad that she is well-off and able to take care of her children full-time, she is also envious of the independence and freedom of women in the workplace~

Speaking of excitement, she kept saying: This era is too harsh for women. Not friendly anymore! Not fair to women!

Actually, I can understand why she would have such an idea.

After all, the current attitude of the self-media or other public opinions towards "full-time mothers" and "working mothers" is not friendly.

After a woman becomes a mother, no matter you are a full-time or a working mother, as long as others want to find fault, they will always pick the right one!

For example, if you are a stay-at-home mother, others will add jealousy and say: "Oh, you are the one asking for money, be careful one day your husband cheats and you leave the house!"

< p> For example, if you are a working mother, others will also say: "Look, your work is not as good as that of so and so, and you work overtime all day long, 996, and you don't make much money! The children are taken care of by the elderly, and you miss the golden opportunity to educate your children. You will regret it in the future!"

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In fact, just hearing or reading these words will pass, there is no need to take them to heart.

Whether a woman chooses to be a full-time mother or a working mother, she must actually make the best choice for herself, her family, and her children based on her actual situation. This is called rationality.

Just like a pony crossing a river, someone tells you how deep the water is. Yes, she did not lie to you, but that was what she said based on her own situation.

If you keep listening to others, it will be difficult for you to find a path that suits you. You can only stand on the shore and dare not take a step.

Of course, once you make a decision, you must be firm and generous!

Many mothers have made a choice, but they cannot let go of the benefits of the path they did not choose.

So, I chose to be a working mother, worrying about my children’s education while working, and began to blindly get involved.

I chose to be a stay-at-home mother. While taking care of my children, I was worried about the loss of my self-worth, and began to feel low self-esteem inexplicably.

Actually, this is all very ridiculous.

The truly sensible approach is to try your best to do your best now that you have made a choice!

In the final analysis, whether working mother or stay-at-home mother is just a title, the topic that needs to be considered is still the same: how to strike a balance between self-development, taking care of the family, and raising children.

Balance is the key!

Being a stay-at-home mother does not mean that you have to abandon your self-growth and stagnate.

Being a working mother does not mean that you can ignore your family and your children's education.

In the final analysis, no matter what your identity is, risks and opportunities coexist. They all need to continue to grow themselves and become better selves.