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People often compare home to a tree. A family with many children is like a towering tree. In the eyes of outsiders, only the branches of the tree are flourishing, but what they can't see is that the trunk is already empty and nutrients have already been supplied to other branches.

People envy those big families with children and grandchildren. In the eyes of traditional China people, this symbolizes the prosperity of a family, and it is the blood inheritance of a family.

Every Spring Festival, the children come back from afar, and the family get together and feel the rare reunion moment.

But every family has its own problems, and in a big family with many children, there will also be various contradictions, which will constantly consume people's feelings for home.

In a family with many children, the sharing ratio of housework determines the atmosphere and happiness index of a family.

Home is an emotional sustenance and a person's ultimate destination, but many people don't know how to pay and share their obligations in the family, which leads to the closest family members becoming inseparable.

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Recently, I heard an old lady in my hometown say. She lived for her children and her husband all her life. In order to facilitate understanding, the following is expressed in the first person:

The calendar on the wall reminds me that the Spring Festival is only one month away. On TV, in shopping malls and on the streets, the joy of Chinese New Year is being played up, but I am not happy at all.

I am 60 years old and have raised two children. Now they all have their own families, work hard in big cities and come back to see me every holiday.

My relatives and neighbors all say that I am lucky, my children and grandchildren are full, and my family is harmonious and beautiful. Only I know that these are superficial. In fact, the bitterness and fatigue in my heart are invisible to others.

Preparing new year's goods is a very detailed and troublesome thing. The eldest daughter-in-law told me on the phone early that she wanted to eat my crispy meat, sweet and sour pork ribs, and the kannika nimtragol was used to delicacies, and always wanted to taste the taste of childhood, such as grinding bean curd's hands.

In order to satisfy the tastes of my two daughters-in-law, I have to go to the food market once, but they have never asked me what I want to eat most.

We should prepare some fruits after meals and snacks and refreshments in leisure time, but we are afraid that we can't buy their favorite flavors, otherwise a lot of them will be wasted.

The empty room at home should be cleaned up, put on new quilts and four-piece sets, and the toiletries should be ready, so that it can be as comfortable and convenient as coming home.

But since my two daughters-in-law came in, they complained every year that the house I cleaned was not good and the quilt cover was not easy to use ... When my two sons and daughters-in-law came home with big bags and small bags, I was really happy. I haven't seen you for a year, and everything is a little different.

After settling them down, I went back to the kitchen to prepare for the New Year's Eve dinner. They chatted and watched TV in the living room and laughed loudly, but no one came to help me. Both sons are "shopkeepers" at home, and both daughters-in-law seem to go home as guests, and there is no one at home to help.

When the family sat around the table and began to raise a glass to celebrate, my waist began to ache faintly, but no one cared.

They began to talk about this year's harvest and next year's plans, and said something I didn't understand. The enthusiasm at the dinner table seems to have nothing to do with me. No one cares about me, and no one cares if my back hurts.

Later, I sat on the sofa watching TV, and they continued to drink and chat at the dinner table. Children often fight because they are fighting for toys or snacks.

The eldest daughter-in-law heard this and said to me from a distance, "Mom, help me look after the children!" "

I'm really not a person who can stay up late. I can't compare with the young people now. The clock has turned to the early morning, and I am already very sleepy. When the New Year bell rang, I saw that they seemed to want more.

There is only a mess of cups and plates left in the restaurant. The little daughter-in-law said, "Mom, just leave them there and I'll clean them up later!" " "People are still lying on the sofa, motionless.

The eldest daughter-in-law said that she had booked a room outside and would not live at home. She took a box of milk with her when she left, saying that children like to drink it.

My two sons have been drunk for a long time. They know nothing and can't do anything. I think there will be relatives at home tomorrow, so I have to clean up by myself.

Everyone is looking forward to China's New Year reunion with his family. However, at this time, I only feel deeply helpless. I have worked for my children all my life. When I get old, I still can't escape this fate.

This is the case every year during the Spring Festival holiday. When the children came back, they all said they would come to see me and spend the holidays with their families, but in fact they didn't understand me. I was just a nanny who took care of them.

I helped the eldest daughter-in-law, and the youngest daughter-in-law said I was partial. There is always a comparison between them. I have to be careful when I get home, or my two sons will blame me for not doing well.

When their holidays ended and they were ready to return to their respective cities of work, my heart really relaxed. In my heart, the Spring Festival is my doom, and it is finally over. I never thought my son would come home.

After cleaning the house, I called my neighbor and made an appointment to go dancing together. I greet them these days and have no time for myself.

In my spare time, I have tea and chat with my friends and neighbors. When the weather is fine, I go out for an outing and take care of the flowers and plants on the balcony. I feel that such a day is the most comfortable.

Probably, when people get old, they should learn to have fun by themselves, and learn to kill time and live by themselves.

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In all the lights, several families are happy and several families are sad. How many families seem to be happy, but in fact they are undercurrent? How many families still have hope in poverty?

The profound meaning of a family may not be realized by some people for a lifetime. Happiness is always within reach, but it is difficult to satisfy.

In a family with many children, the construction of a family can be better guaranteed through division of labor.

In a family with many children, there may be many contradictions hidden because of their different temperament and personality. Everyone has his own interests to protect, but he always cares about how much he pays.

In fact, in order to get more happiness, every child should know how to give, not only to repay the kindness of parents, but also to consolidate the friendship between brothers and sisters.

Parents spend their whole lives trying to train their children to succeed. What they want is not the return of children, but the integrity of a family.

Only when children have a deep attachment to the extended family and an unshirkable sense of responsibility can they sincerely express their filial piety and make their parents feel a little gratified.

Harmony and love are envied by many people. If in a big family, every member knows his own division of labor and takes the initiative to assume a responsibility and an obligation, this family will always be full of love.

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Today's topic:

At home, do you help your parents with housework?