In the trouble of "receiving multiple invitations in a month, I can't hold on", "not accepting gifts" is a bit strange, but in Fuqing, this is nothing new. After investigation, the reporter found that not accepting gifts began more than ten years ago and became a new local custom.

The red bomb is sadness, not joy.

The red bomb has now become a topic of discussion. Xiao Weng, who is in her thirties, complained that in 2007, when she first entered the company, she met colleagues from another department, and they sent invitations to invite everyone to a wedding reception. "I have no idea. I have a feeling of being robbed in disguise. " Since then, invitations have increased. "For a long time, I received six' penalty tickets'."

As friends step into the wedding hall one after another, the "post-80 s" found that sometimes half of a month's salary should be contributed to the wedding reception. "Everyone just worked soon, and their wallets were flat. With the ceremony at least 200 yuan, a lot of pressure. If you have a good relationship, send 800, 1000, which is a hidden rule. I think it is a happy thing for friends to get married, but when it comes to gift money, it is disappointing. "

"Exemption from inspection for wedding ceremonies has gradually become a custom in Fuqing.

Compared with most post-80s embarrassment, Chen Xiao, whose ancestral home is Fuqing, breathed a sigh of relief. "In 2006, I began to attend the wedding of my hometown classmates. All I have to do is sign my wedding book. Newcomers don't accept gifts. " He complained sweetly. "I have played four games this month, and I am so tired of eating."

65438+1October 12 Xiao Wu, who just held a wedding in Fuqing Qiao Rong Hotel, thinks that marriage is doomed to burn money, just a matter of how much it costs. "Not counting drinks now, a table of better dishes costs more than 2,000 yuan." Xiao Wu thinks it is right not to accept gifts from guests. "Fuqing began to acquiesce in this custom very early, drinking so many free wedding banquets from colleagues and classmates, and collecting money for his own wedding. Is it reasonable? "

""Free gift money originated more than ten years ago.

Ms. Wu clearly remembers that the first wedding reception without gifts was in 1999, when the parents of the couple crossed to China and invited their close friends and colleagues to hold a lively wedding in Haiyang Building, Chantang Street, Fuqing City. In the end, all the gifts were refunded. The first thing she said after returning home was: "It's really fresh, and some people don't accept gifts."

Later, Ms. Wu found that the free wedding banquet was not new. She said that in the early years, people with better families did not accept gifts, and later it gradually became a custom, and people with ordinary families began to stop accepting gifts. Now she attends more than a dozen wedding banquets a year, and all of them leave happily empty-handed. "If you want to accompany the ceremony, you will spend thousands of dollars every year. How nice, everyone is happy. "

Even in rural areas, many people hold wedding banquets to celebrate. In 2006, Xiao Xie tied the knot with Xiaohe River in Xietang Village, Jiang Jing Town. The invitation was marked "No Gifts" and a mobile banquet was held in the village. Seven aunts and eight aunts just gave Xiao He a red envelope as a gift, but Xiao He "resolutely refused to accept it" and relatives said it was "something". When I got home and opened it, I found one yuan and two yuan, and five yuan and ten yuan in the red envelope. Xiao He said he didn't intend to accept it. They are all family members, and happiness is the most important thing.

""new customs become new pressures?

Well-off families can bear the pressure to avoid giving gifts, but what about ordinary family conditions?

At the end of 2009, my father was an ordinary worker and my mother was a housewife's Xiao Wang. According to the custom, she did not accept the bride price, which had certain economic pressure. In order to save costs, she hosted a banquet in her father's hometown in the country. "Don't spend too much, discuss not to accept a gift. In Fu 'an, my husband's hometown, I also held a party, and the gifts were confiscated. He felt so good that he used it. " Xiao Wang said.

Xiao Wang said that whether to receive gifts in Fuqing depends on the situation of each family. "Is the default new customs, but didn't say must do so. I attended 7 wedding banquets last year, and 2 of them were still collected. " Some wedding banquets will receive gifts for some guests selectively.