In the eyes of many people, housewife is a career with no future and no contribution, especially in recent years, the development of women's independent consciousness has almost demonized this unpaid job.

Housewives, in the eyes of the world, are mostly unkempt and angry yellow-faced women.

A few years ago, I also quit my job and joined the housewife's team because there were not enough people at home.

At that time, I was exhausted by my children every day. I always wear a wrinkled pajamas at home. When you go out, your hair is tied at will for the convenience of stepping on flip-flops. My bangs are skyrocketing, so I don't care.

Finally, I have some free time to talk about plays, read novels and brush the internet. Every night, I fall asleep with ambition and swear that I will never do it again the next day. It's a pity that I woke up the next day in the same decadent and empty way, which is the case all year round.

I often had a cold war with my husband this year, and I didn't like him everywhere. Of course, I'm not that cute in his eyes.

Whenever I see the colorful lives of my friends in my circle of friends, I feel particularly lost and even inferior.

Husband's office staff can bring their families to dinner. Other people's wives and girlfriends are either doctors or civil servants, and they all have jobs anyway.

His colleague asked me where I worked, and when he learned that I was taking care of the children at home, he immediately said, "A housewife is good. Women should take care of their children at home and be more meticulous than the elderly. "

Good girl! Well, why don't you ask your wife to go home and take care of the children!

I feel ashamed and inferior. The world is full of malice.

Not only men embarrass women, but even women embarrass women.

Several female friends sent me chicken soup articles about women's economic independence all day, and persuaded me with a very convincing attitude that women can't live without their own economic income. In the future, when I am old and have no money, my husband will definitely divorce. Without income, even children can't be born.

I was said to be flustered. They all meant well, but the chicken soup was too hot and my blood pressure soared.

Everyone says that children are the flowers of the motherland, but this society is particularly harsh and mean to housewives and mothers who raise these flowers. Stay-at-home mothers are struggling to survive in this family square, and officials are also struggling.

When a woman makes achievements in the workplace, others will praise her as a woman. A woman who works while taking care of her baby, others will think that she is grasping with both hands at home and at work, and both hands are hard; A housewife, no matter what she does, seems to have achieved nothing. She can't show off my baby's fat, strong and cute, can she?

A woman who becomes a housewife may have no financial resources, no free space, no communication space, no social recognition, and even some more serious may not even have the respect of her family.

02.

One night, I stayed up late to talk about drama. The bell rang at three o'clock in the morning, and a strong sense of emptiness hit me. I was caught off guard and felt like a walking corpse at that moment.

I went to the bathroom to wash my face and looked at my swollen face and dark eyes in the mirror. I felt a deep disgust. This kind of life smells of dead branches and rotten wood; I look down on myself, how can I expect others to look up to me!

I bought a lot of books, bought some on any subject, and chewed them one by one. I applied for a vocational certificate and learned slowly; Bought a pen copybook and practiced word by word; I became a keyboard man again, sorting out and classifying those words written intermittently in the past; I bought recipes and tried the dishes I wanted to cook again and again. I will save some money in the past, take out some places I want to go, and then record my feelings in words.

As the days passed, although I didn't make any outstanding achievements, miraculously, my husband and I got along very well, and there was no quarrel or cold war because I was away; My cooking skill, which used to be only fried vegetables, has now developed to cook ten exquisite dishes and one soup in two hours; My mood has become very good and my complexion has gradually improved.

I finally understand that a housewife's unhappiness is more due to her spiritual emptiness, because she gives up on herself, so she is grumpy and emotional.

Now I look back at the confusion, depression and irritability when I just resigned. I feel a little funny and melodramatic. No one likes to live at home without a job or income. There is no way out. Since there is no way to change the reality, you have to try to change yourself.

Every day we live now is a microcosm of our life. If we don't change, we will live like this all our lives. It takes a good day to live a good year and a good life.

03

Many people think that being a housewife is easily abandoned by men. In fact, there are many reasons why women are abandoned. Not all abandoned women are housewives.

Some women gnash their teeth at work and say that leaders scold leaders, read the privacy of gossip stars in newspapers, and say a series of mahjong and bloody battles in shopping malls when they get off work. They are equally empty and have no progress.

There are also some housewives who live an ascetic life while taking care of their children, but they return to the workplace a few years later and get along better than many women who have been working. How much loneliness they can endure, how much prosperity they can maintain.

There is a stay-at-home mother named Qingqing in our group. She signed up for a baking class while taking care of the children. At first, she baked cupcakes and cookies for us to eat. Later, she went further and further on this road, and now she has opened her own bakery.

Isn't she tired? I must be tired. I finally put the baby to sleep. Who doesn't want to get some sleep? But she just keeps trying her favorite baking again and again. It is precisely because she is willing to take up other people's time watching soap operas to study, and it is precisely because she is more tired than others that she can live better than others.

An excellent person, no matter what occasion, no matter what position she holds, she is excellent. On the contrary, an enterprising person, even in the workplace, just goes with the flow.

I remember reading a metaphor before. Men and women climb stairs together, men climb to the fifth floor, and women slow down and only climb to the third floor. The man climbed while waiting for the woman, climbed to the tenth floor, and the woman reached the fifth floor; When he climbed to the fifteenth floor, the woman got lost in the scenery outside the window and wanted to have a rest. When a man climbed to the twentieth floor, he met a beautiful young girl with a strong posture who wanted to climb with him, so he took the girl by the hand and climbed up. The woman who didn't want to wait did not appear.

Therefore, whether a man abandons a woman has nothing to do with whether a woman is a full-time housewife, but has something to do with whether a woman indulges herself and does not want to make progress when she is a housewife. He gave her up because she had no strength or mind to accompany him to climb again.

As for some men, he doesn't care whether women want to climb up or not. He just wants to push his wife down with one foot so that others can hold hands. Such a man has nothing to do with whether a woman is a housewife or not, but only with the woman's vision of choosing a man.

There are many housewives who gnash their teeth and feel that others seem to look down on her housewife career, look for a sense of existence everywhere, and even tear people up online, but at the same time indulge themselves to kill time.

Even if you give up on yourself and look down on yourself, can you expect others to look up to you?

Day after day, they tortured men's visual nerves with unkempt faces and men's spirits with anger. Such a woman, don't say that a man wants to sleep with her when he comes back, just don't hit her.

An insecure person can't give her a sense of security even at work. A determined person will come back one day, even if he is temporarily trapped at home in the name of love.

Housewives don't need to be swayed by considerations of gain and loss in marriage and family. They should learn to affirm their own value and not give up their muddled life. It is better to live better than every day and make yourself stronger while waiting.

Then, wait for the next counterattack and accumulate.