I slept a little last night, probably because I didn't sleep the night before. My former mother stayed up all night because of the pain last night, because the child drank milk every two hours, so once when I was sleeping, my mother tried every means to wake me up, because she couldn't move at will. When I finally appeared in the crib half asleep, talking, milking and changing diapers, my mother was obviously excited to vomit and complain. Actually, the parturient is not used to me being too quiet around. And the second night after a sleepless night, I really need to have the will to sleep. So I was a little out of shape last night, and I couldn't open my eyes after feeding several times.
After Xiao Xianna eats a lot, the frequency of drinking milk begins to be regular, so whether she drinks milk or defecates, there is a sense of regularity to follow, which also means that as a suckling person, time is unbearable. Drink milk several times every night, and every interval is boring. If you fall asleep, you will miss the time. A child's crying will make you in a hurry. Many times our panic is infected by others. The emotions of colleagues at work will be affected, and Xianna's current state is that she will cry when she is not full, and her maternal emotions will also cry when she cries. So last night, because I didn't milk in time, Xiao sinar cried several times, mainly because I was still sleeping. ...
This morning, I finally photographed her opening her eyes to look at me. The most rare thing is that she finally opened her eyes and greeted us. Although it was not the first time to create the world, she looked at me with indifferent eyes, and her heart melted at this moment. Yes, this is my daughter, sinar!
I'm the only one in the hospital. My mother-in-law has a large family to take care of, and everyone else has jobs. I can only take care of my mother and the newborn sinar. There are so many trivial life skills that I need to learn, such as what to eat for breakfast? When is the right time to eat? ...
At noon, we were finally informed that we could go to a single room. When I received it, I underestimated the difficulty of moving things from one place to another, thinking that the protagonist of this incident was the mother. The mother got out of bed for more than 20 hours yesterday, which has caused many people's surprise and dissatisfaction. When I was transferred to hospital today, many nurses in the nursing station refused to lend their wheelchairs to their mothers. My mother had to accept this reality and move from a mixed residential area to a single room. In this process, I made four trips to carry materials, and then finally went to pick up the parturient. I moved from building B to building A, a corridor. The parturient walked for nearly an hour. Because the parturient is still giving an injection, I have to carry the medicine bottle and follow her step by step. For me, this process has directly caused swelling and pain in my waist and feet. I can't watch others suffer. A friend said that I would continue to update this diary. Looking at the state of pregnancy, my state is very tormented. This kind of suffering is accompanied by some work problems, and my anxiety for the whole day continues to zero.
After Xiao sinar can eat, pull it. Last night, she finally pulled down the stool that is said to be fetal excrement, and today she began to pull the yellow stool. This afternoon, although my friend kept reminding me to always pay attention to her golden hand, it really came true today. In the afternoon, I found that she took a shit to change her diaper, and this shit made me collapse again. The last thing I want to face every day is the cleanliness of these two women, and everything else is acceptable. Shanna, this time, when I found that there was stool on her diaper, she had already opened the diaper and was about to clean and change it. As a result, she was suddenly surprised. She launched a rocket, and her bag was covered with gold. We didn't have a backup, so the bag was gone in an instant, only a few big towels were left, and I was a little panicked in an instant.
After dealing with sinar's big accident, the afternoon passed quickly. I know I have to solve the problem of Sinan's new package before I go to bed tonight.
Today is Saturday, I go to eat with pears at noon. I should have gone back to Guangzhou to have dinner with him. I have been in the hospital. Finally, on the seventh day when I came to Guangzhou to accompany my baby, I went to have dinner with him. During the dinner, I chatted with him and talked about a lot of things that changed a little because of my sister's arrival, but I didn't take good care of him for a while. I apologized to him and didn't want him to think that I wouldn't ignore Shanna for me.
After the catheter was removed, pregnant women did not actually start to move freely. Even though she tried her best to walk in the field last night, she still couldn't get in and out of bed very freely. She is going to have an injection in the morning, and there is no place for her to stick a needle in her hand when she has an injection. Suddenly, she felt so pitiful. Then a few minutes after the first injection, the pain was unbearable and I dialed it again. I couldn't find the vein for the second time. Today's needle is difficult to get, but because my right hand is swollen, the parturient pulled out the postoperative analgesia in advance, so today there was a painful wound and uterus, and the tragic cry in the next bed a few days ago appeared on the parturient!
I didn't buy a new bag until eight o'clock in the evening because of a series of events brought by moving the ward today and the workload brought by maternal pain. Passing Starbucks, I bought myself a matcha latte, which is a refreshing agent for staying up late tonight. Fortunately, the parturient can have milk oozing tonight, so I have something to do again tonight.
After everything was done last night, it was past 2 o'clock, and the life of the newborn began to be regular. They can get up and eat milk almost every two hours, and suddenly feel that it is not easy to be a mother. In order to sleep a relatively regular sleep, it is a kind of hard work for the person in charge of breastfeeding to adjust his life to a regular life state. He didn't update it last night. A friend asked me if I wasn't going to update it again. I think every father who has a second child is likely to accompany him. After the country opened the second child policy, I have to experience more than 20 newborns and more than a dozen operations in this hospital almost every day.
Before coming to the hospital, many girlfriends of women who gave birth to children in this hospital gave some reference strategies. For example, it is not difficult to get a single room, because there are many single rooms in this hospital. All I know is that there is no saying that this hospital lies in the corridor, and in another hospital less than 500 meters from here, the parturient in Nanfang Hospital has slept in the corridor, and it is said that the parturient will be discharged the next day. In fact, the hospital where we are now has been rushing people out of the hospital. No one pays the bill on weekends, so we can settle it when we are free. So when we got the single room yesterday, our inner excitement was beyond words. Although this room is more humble and expensive than seven days, it costs 200 yuan a day to run back for hot water, but we still feel very lucky.
I fell asleep in the middle of the night last night and couldn't hear the set alarm clock. I woke up at 6 o'clock this morning and saw the baby in the crib missing for the first time. Then I followed my eyes and found that she was lying in her mother's arms sucking milk. How did the mother who was still having trouble getting up hold her baby in her arms? I don't know. The height of the crib exceeds the height of mother and her current wound. She should call a nurse to help. In their relationship, it is not just my initial intention, but mutual understanding and tolerance. My physical workload is relatively heavy these two days. After feeding it several times, Shanna couldn't open her eyes. I am not a person with good sleep quality, or even a person with poor sleep quality. I can basically fall asleep as long as I sleep these two days, and it is difficult to wake up. And because of contractions and pain in the wound, the mother always wanted to give me some sleep time. So many times when she doesn't finish well, she still tries to finish it.
Relatively speaking, due to leaving my job for nearly a week, the progress of a lot of work has been affected, which also constitutes my anxiety, but although it is Sunday, my team and colleagues still insist on working in the front line, and I know I need to go back to work as soon as possible.
Today, when I sent a circle of friends, I sent a few photos taken casually these days. In exchange, I am the ugliest in a family of four. I am not good-looking, although it will not affect the city appearance, but I still hope that my descendants can have a high face-to-face ratio.
Since morning, time has been tightened like a chain. Because I got up late, I changed Shanna's diaper, then turned on the water. When the water cooled to a certain extent, I washed Shanna's milk. After feeding, the time is close to 8 am. Then the baby shower room opened and Shanna was taken to line up for a bath. There are indeed enough newborns, holding children and holding small clothes. After waiting for nearly an hour, the nurse returned to her room after washing.
The doctor came to change the dressing for the parturient, saying that the wound didn't grow very well because there seemed to be something in her stomach. After a while, the attending doctor came, touched it with his hand and found that an unknown object had suddenly scratched the wound. The attending doctor thinks it's necessary to take a B-ultrasound to prove something. When I was about to decide to do B-ultrasound, the attending doctor suddenly asked if there was any stool these days, and the mother replied, no, and the attending doctor's face suddenly relaxed a little. After I came back, I pressed the pregnant woman's stomach again, which completely reassured the attending doctor. In fact, I am also very relieved that all these accidents happened in the hospital, and if we really want to do color ultrasound, I think the project will be much more difficult than moving to a single room yesterday, because the inpatient department is close to the clinic where color ultrasound can be done 1 km. Whether pregnant women can walk there is a problem, as is how long it takes to walk there.
After the doctor left, the parturient began to eat breakfast. Breakfast is porridge cooked by my mother-in-law Actually, the parturient just started eating yesterday. Her mother-in-law is actually very tired of what she eats every day. She calls several times every day and asks what to eat, breakfast, lunch and dinner. Today's breakfast is lean porridge. It's already 1 1 o'clock in the morning. The nurse was surprised that she ate breakfast so late because of her blood sugar test. When eating porridge, the nurse brought the wheat fiber specially prescribed by the doctor for defecation. Is this medicine, too? I didn't think of having breakfast until the mother finished eating. This may be the first time I haven't eaten breakfast since I stayed with the baby. I think staying in the hospital for a while may really adjust my life rules.
My brother and father-in-law went to Qingyuan today. The ward was quiet all day because of a leak in their house. Yesterday, Li Zi came to see my sister. Today, my mother-in-law has to look after the house. Plum is going to cram school. I am here alone with my mother and daughter. These two women feel a little happy around me, although a little tired. I remembered that Li Zi said that there would be two men and two women at home, and the vote might be 2: 2. In the evening, when my father-in-law came to deliver porridge to the parturient, he told me that I was in a hurry when I left, and my home was in a mess. I am a person with poor self-care ability, and suddenly I feel that I have started to take care of others here these days, and I have to learn to take care of myself.
These afternoons are the most leisure time. After lunch, the maternal blood sugar was measured, and Xiao Sinan began to sleep after eating and drinking enough. Finally, I collapsed in the corner of the bed for two hours, feeling that I had slept for a long time and my mental state recovered a little. According to the concept of seven-day discharge, we will stay here for three days. Today, the doctor is already planning for us to leave the hospital, and everything from wounds to child care is popular. After being woken up in the afternoon, my mother-in-law changed her diaper in a hurry. After feeding, waiting for my mother to have dinner, I suddenly remembered one thing. Mother-in-law began to confinement. No wonder she is very nervous. After the mother and daughter finished eating, I began to go out and look for food. I was propped up by a cup of Starbucks coffee last night, but tonight I finally chose KFC. My mother added vegetables to her dinner, so I bought her fruit specially. I suddenly want to make a pot of tea myself.
After anxiety, people begin to grow up a little, so growth is not how much you really grow physically, but after experiencing something, you find that your perspective and direction of looking at something are a little open. Maybe in future plans, besides driver's license, I also think it is necessary to broaden my horizons in life planning.
During the whole process of accompanying the second child, I was always anxious, sensitive and fragile. After a few days of getting along, Yan Xiaoli began to give us smiling faces, and began to provide infinite possibilities for our future life.
Start a brand-new sleepless night tonight and wait for the next morning.
The parturient began to feed human milk, although the amount was not much, but it was enough for Xiaosina to start looking forward to it. Although there is not much milk, Xiao Xianna is very cooperative. Try smoking, mother joked that this is the current snack. Xiao Liyan can eat more snacks, and 60ml of milk powder can be washed out for dinner. On the fifth day after Sinan was born, she ate and drank regularly and reminded regularly, such as alarm clock, drinking milk and changing diapers, which became her rhythmic and regular things.
At 6 o'clock in the morning, the nurse came to draw blood and make preparations before leaving the hospital. It is common that the second child is so fierce that the room is coveted. According to the doctor, he can be discharged in five days, because there is no need to take out stitches. Living in the hospital is also living, just go home for 1000 days. The mother said that her best friend tried to stay in the hospital. After all, there are people in the hospital who help to bathe the children, and the nurses check the indicators every day. Therefore, we don't want to leave the hospital so soon, although I have a lot of work to deal with. These jobs have made me very anxious this week, but from the perspective of safety, I also think it is better to wait. After all, when Gigi Lai was born, he stayed in the hospital for eight days, from 25th to 10, and this time from 29th to 8th, he only stayed for 10. So when the doctor came, we all hoped to stay a little longer, so the discharge time was pushed back and was temporarily scheduled for tomorrow. After a lapse of 8 years, we have fully experienced the all-round hospitalization and discharge process.
In the morning, my mother-in-law and uncle came to see Sinar, and they were also discussing the discharge. According to the Hakka custom, my daughter doesn't like confinement at home, so this year we have been discussing the feasibility of confinement in Qingyuan. Finally, it is also helpless to choose confinement in Guangzhou, because there is no complete solution. Gigi Lai's homework will definitely become lazy because his mother left him for a month. Our final decision is that I will take care of the hospitalization time and my mother-in-law will take care of the confinement. In fact, everyone is under pressure. My mother-in-law mentioned that someone in the village asked me why my grandparents didn't take care of little Li Wei. Compared with the birth of Li Zi, my parents didn't come to the birth of Li Wei. In addition to building houses, their aging appearance and hometown dialect are also my focus. If they don't come, I may take care of my mother and daughter wholeheartedly until I leave the hospital. If they do, I may have to take care of two old people, living in the country for a long time, having language barriers in communication and having different understandings of life. Whether it is material expenses or communication, it is possible to face volcanic eruption at any time, so in order to avoid risks, I decided to give up the idea of letting my parents take care of the moon and would rather invite my parents to share family happiness during the New Year.
I ate miscellaneous grains porridge for breakfast, which should have sugar in it. When a pregnant woman measures her blood sugar, it quickly rises to a critical point. At noon, the pregnant woman said she wanted to eat, so she ordered takeout. It was the first time that she had been hospitalized for so many days. Although take-away websites are very common now, I still insist on buying food by myself. After all, tastes and taboos are not clear. The situation is basically stable today, and I dare to steal it. My mother-in-law didn't leave when I delivered the takeaway at noon. I want to take her away. My mother-in-law as a chef has always been very opposed to going out to eat. At ordinary times, Gigi Lai and his mother have to sneak out to eat takeout. Sure enough, this kind of take-away treatment for pregnant women, it is estimated that this time, dinner is cooked by her mother.
Because I often drink milk at night, I want noon to be the only time window for my rest. A few weekends ago, when there were not so many things at work, I could take a nap for an hour in the afternoon. At noon today, from 1, Shanna cried and refused to sleep. Then she finished her milk at 2 o'clock and finally went to sleep. She refused to wake up before 5 o'clock, so she had to shake her up and drink milk. After drinking milk, mother said she wanted to sleep with her. I have been teasing her, and as a result, people only care about sleeping and ignore their mother. When I held her to my mother, she closed her eyes. The mother looked at Xiao Sinan's cute appearance, and her heart sprouted, but the newborn changed almost every day. What remained unchanged was that she needed a lot of sleep in the early days. Looks like I need a lot of sleep, too.
Today, the parturient took the initiative to take a walk in the hospital corridor. She was admitted to the hospital for 10 days and never took a walk, so in fact, the patient would not fall in love with the hospital. In addition to not wanting to stay in the hospital, it is more likely that physical conditions are not allowed. The parturient is still in severe pain today, but compared with the previous days, her mental state has been much better. Contraction, wound and needle pricking are all the impressions left by the parturient in this 10 day. Physical pain is sometimes cured by this, and the mother is cured by her daughter with a smile.
When mother came back from a walk, she went to bed first. In fact, her daughter didn't wake up from a good sleep in the afternoon. It seems that these two girls are really tired.
I have told many people that people are actually uncomfortable to live. Every time we face something, when we are stressed and anxious, there will be unexpected surprises. Today is the ninth day that I reached the top of that big hat, and the fifth day that I met this child. In these five days, Xiao Xianna has slowly faded from her face, revealing a white and clean face. Many nurses gave her a beautiful smile when they saw her. What I know is that when sinar leaves the hospital tomorrow, she won't remember who was the first nurse to see her and gave her a warm hug, but
Facing the world alone from the womb, from drinking 20 ml of food to never letting go until drinking 60 ml, a new life will be recognized with the world and us.
Today, a friend I have known for many years came to the hospital to see sinar. Born in Guangzhou, many friends who used to work in Qingyuan and later left Qingyuan to work in Guangzhou came to see sinar. People live in a circle, surrounded by the most important people in life. Fortunately, these friends I made are ignorant. A few years ago, it was said that every time you get promoted or change your environment, you will meet some people, which is difficult and costly.
Because I plan to leave the hospital tomorrow, in addition to the necessary procedures, I have to prepare the next food and consumables for sinar. The advantage of living in our time is that I am no longer wrapped in rags like I was born. At that time, diapers were all torn from old cloth strips. Gigi Lai was still drinking glucose to quench his thirst when he was born. In recent years, the quality and formula of newborn milk powder have been improved to some extent. Therefore, before the milk comes out, there is still milk powder that can replace breast milk to accompany her new life through the initial life journey.
After going to the supermarket to buy wet tissues and other things, I went back to the ward. Mother has already had dinner, while sinar is still sleeping. After leaving the supermarket, I went to Starbucks nearby. A cup of black forest cappuccino is the most relaxing place tonight.
Today is the eleventh day for my wife Chunchun to live in 157 hospital, and the tenth day for me to accompany her. During this period, I witnessed the change of my wife from pregnant woman to parturient. After today, she will start the life of a second-born mother. From the first girl to the woman, to the mother of the first child, now she is the mother of two children. What she experienced was a seemingly ordinary woman's butterfly change, but only I know how difficult it is for us to face these problems together. When we got married and were born in Gigi Lai, the social environment and economic pressure were unprecedented, but Sinar was born without it. Although she was still short of money, she was not short of money then.
Actually, I slept for a long time last night, almost six hours. However, mother didn't sleep much last night. The two feedings in the middle were all done by herself, which may be habit or anxiety. She didn't sleep well last night, and the quality of sleep for six hours was not as good as before. Wake up at 6: 00, and the nurse will make rounds and change shifts. I started packing a bunch of things. After being hospitalized 1 1 days, I can produce so many things that all the paper bags can't hold them.
While collecting things, my mother and I began to feel that when Gigi Lai was born, we had never experienced it. We live in a relatively dark rental house. My mother-in-law looked at the house every day, thinking about how to give us a relatively bright space to live in, so we bought a house, decorated it and waited for the children to grow up. After this round, we also grew from our twenties to our thirties. The time that once passed like years is gone forever. We have experienced another life experience, and my mother has always encouraged me to record these bits and pieces. Although I stopped writing these trivial words in those years, obviously, this will be the last update about my accompanying birth.
At 9 o'clock in the morning, the doctor came to confirm that she could leave the hospital, and then called her parents-in-law to confirm that she could leave the hospital. 10 minutes later, my mother-in-law appeared in the hospital, faster than ever. In order to prevent Xiaosina from going hungry or changing diapers, her usual things are saved until the last minute. 10, the nurse told her to get the vaccine card, and then she took away the crib that had been with Shanna for many days. A group of men around listened carefully and then scattered.
After receiving the vaccine card, the nurse informed me to return the admission procedure of the newborn to the pediatrics department for discharge. Then, I waited indefinitely and started moving things downstairs from 10: 30. My father-in-law drove over to pick someone up. Finally, the Odyssey came in handy. A pile of things, you can leave the hospital without notice. I waited until 1 1, and the nurse informed 6544. It was already 1 1: 32. 10 minutes later, come to the hospital checkout. 1 1 1: 45, I'll line up. The settlement office said I didn't have a medical record. So I sat by and waited, because I knew that this settlement office would close after 12 and go to work at 14: 30 in the afternoon, so I started rubbing my hands with the cashier and finally persuaded them to wait for our medical records to settle the account.
As a result, the expenses for adults and children were 12622.88 yuan and 70 1.84 yuan respectively, and the total hospital expenses were 1332.72 yuan. This cost is far from that when Li Zi was born. I used up all my savings and borrowed money everywhere to settle accounts. Moreover, this time there is medical insurance for the unemployed in cities and towns, and the expenses involved are relatively small. Plus 10 days of hospitalization expenses, my direct economic loss this time should be around 20,000 (in fact, 20,000 is not enough). Relatively speaking, this fee is more economical and reasonable, but my mother said that this time she was pregnant because of medical treatment.
Due to the late completion of settlement, it was close to one o'clock in the afternoon when I got home. Because Xianna officially stayed in this home, she discussed with her mother-in-law at noon and invited her uncles and aunts to have dinner at home to celebrate the joining of new members. Wait until the full moon, and then invite some relatives to come over and go out for dinner. My mother-in-law agreed. In my hometown, there should be wine. I don't want to disturb my friends. It's good for everyone to meet and have a meal. The children's centenary birthday is next year's Lantern Festival, and 80% can't serve wine, so this decision is also in line with the custom.
Due to the late settlement in the morning, the place where the birth certificate was processed has been closed. After lunch, I went back to the hospital to apply for the child's birth certificate. I still waited in line and stayed in the hospital for 10 days, but my mood was actually more refreshing. After two women were discharged from the hospital, I waited in line for my turn to apply for a birth permit. The information was complete, so although I wasted an afternoon preparing, I finally solved the problem within an hour, then copied the family planning service certificate, printed out the hospitalization list, and walked step by step to the inpatient hall. I got on the ferry battery car for the first time in ten days. It was actually luck when I was discharged from the hospital.
On the way out of the hospital, a person wanted to make a circle of friends, but found that there were no suitable words and pictures, so he had to let his footsteps join the surging crowd in the windy evening in Guangzhou.
The pace of big cities is always fast. I suddenly feel that in these ten days, as individuals, many emotions can be expressed infinitely through anxiety, and when we meet the endless cycle of life individuals, we will eventually integrate into this turbulent crowd. Every life will eventually find its own future in the crowd, and this little girl, who is officially called sinar from today, will finally take her own steps in the crowd.
Finally, my mother said a little sadly, it's the first time I've seen you write so many words after so many years of marriage. Sometimes I feel that everything in my world is normal, but I didn't expect to record so many details. In fact, because we are busy and lazy, many things will be forgotten after a while. Just like now, we can't remember whether the sunrise or the sunset moved us more. I recorded some important moments in my life with some trivial things. If you have the same, I hope I can feel the same with you.
As a man, I will never feel the pain and strength of a woman giving birth. I stayed in the gynecological ward for 10 days, and saw all kinds of natural deliveries and caesarean sections. I have also seen some men of different shapes. People are divided into groups. Of course, sometimes people are divided into groups. In addition to our maternity, I also saw them. Many people lament the greatness of mother and the selflessness of maternal love. All greatness and selflessness come not only from love, but also from responsibility. You don't know how expensive rice is if you don't take care of yourself, and you don't know the kindness of your parents if you don't raise children. It is because you have experienced it that everything is not easy.
If you witness the whole difficult delivery process, you will know how much pain a woman has suffered during childbirth. With the development of modern medicine, many painful processes have been lengthened, making the instantaneous pain less intense. The layers of suffering in this pain-reducing area are the people around who look at this pain, and I am one of them. I have always been afraid of blood drawing and injections, mostly because these things will touch my nerve endings.
The long river of life, having children, is probably the bond that you witness the establishment of the purest dependence between husband and wife. I think the future of parent-child relationship belongs to you, when you are a bystander without any color.
When I watched Xiao Xianna lying on that big bed with a total length of 1.8 meters, when the parturient began to upgrade to a wet nurse, there were diapers for changing milk besides self-feeding. When I sat quietly on the other side of the bed and looked at the child's distressed face, everything seemed to have just begun, restrained but not high-profile, anxious and irrational.
/kloc-Just after 0/2 o'clock, after feeding Shanna for the first night, I sorted out these records, and a new day came again. I finished the delivery process and watched Shanna lying in her mother's arms. Suddenly, the world was quiet. This is the wonderful fate of mother and daughter getting along.
Starting today, the parturient begins her career as a wet nurse, which is another period of her life.
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