Consistency of the three views is more important than liking, and it needs mutual achievement. A person can be poor, but the three views must be correct. Poverty is only a material pursuit, and three views are spiritual wealth. People from three views don't just live to live, but the meaning of life is more important. Consistency of the three views is more important than liking, and it needs mutual achievement.

Matching three views is more important than liking. We need to achieve each other 1

1, timely and appropriate technical requirements

It is said that girls who love coquetry are lucky. If you want to go out to play and travel, you must choose when he is not busy with work. If he has been so busy at work recently, and you still propose to go out to play, then he will definitely not agree; In addition, tell him in a coquetry tone, never say what must be done in a tough tone, so that men will be disgusted; Men don't like women to be too strong. Speak softly, and you will find that men's attitudes will change.

Step 2 make changes for each other

Feelings need good communication, and also need two people to pay each other and compromise each other. Different hobbies in life can also be changed, just as you like to go out to eat delicious food and he likes to cook at home; Both attitudes towards life are correct; The key is how two people tune the same frequency; You can take a time, two people carefully cook a table at home, enjoy the warmth of two people alone, and look at the dishes cooked by him personally, and you will feel happy. When he feels that you have changed for him and you have paid for his sincerity, then when you put forward your ideas, he will basically agree.

Step 3 communicate frequently

When two people are together, they should communicate more. Nowadays, many couples can't see each other at work during the day. When they got home, they couldn't talk for a day. How can such feelings be good? You need to know more about why your boyfriend doesn't want to spend money, whether he is really short of money or has a habit of thrift since he was a child; If you really have no money, spend too much money on eating out and dressing up for the time being; If you are frugal, communicate more, subtly, and earn money just to spend money. In addition, as long as you have time together, you can talk casually, talk about news, gossip and interesting things at work. As long as there is communication, we can enhance our feelings. According to statistics, 90% of what two people say is nonsense. In fact, it is such nonsense that makes the relationship stronger. There are so many serious words between two people. If two people don't want to talk to each other or anyone, then this relationship is very dangerous.

It is more important to agree on three views than to like them. To realize each other's two adult worlds. Consistency of three views is more important than liking!

The consistency of the three views does not require that your hobbies and ways of thinking are exactly the same, but that you can seek common ground while reserving differences and know how to tolerate, understand and appreciate each other.

Otherwise, you share your happiness with him, and he thinks you are showing off; You tell him you are sad, and he thinks you are melodramatic. Getting along with people with different views is more tiring than moving bricks, because he won't understand you at all.

Ruby Lin told such a story about her mother:

Mother Lin is an elegant person. Even if she goes downstairs to take out the garbage, she should clean up and dress neatly. Father Lin is very handsome and makes a lot of money.

To outsiders, they are a match made in heaven, but when Ruby Lin 12 years old, they divorced.

Lin's mother said, "He is very nice, but he can't live together. After all, a lifetime is too long. "

It turns out that Lin's mother likes to grow flowers, but Lin's father always plays ash in the flowerpot and throws cigarette butts; Mother Lin loves cleanliness, but father Lin doesn't like taking a bath and his clothes are littered. Father Lin can earn a lot of money, but he seldom spends time with mother Lin.

Later, mother Lin met her stepfather. He will buy beautiful flowerpots for her flowers and plants, take the initiative to wash clothes and tidy up the house, and will accompany her for a walk to watch the sunrise and study recipes together. ......

Although they are very small things, they become very tired in front of people with different views and very comfortable in the eyes of people with the same views.

So, from the beginning, we should find someone with the same three views.

He likes playing games, but he also supports you to read books. He likes to stay at home, but he is also willing to listen to you share interesting things on the trip; He likes to go to food stalls, but he can also accompany you into western restaurants. Many single women will be labeled as "hard to catch up with", especially some elders, who may never understand why two people who are obviously suitable can't be together.

In fact, women in this era are not difficult to chase, but many are very independent and know what they really want.

When I was young, I was always attracted by handsome young boys. Now that I'm grown up and know more people, I know a really comfortable relationship, and they all have the same view.

When people with different views are together, it is also a chicken talking with a duck to communicate again, and it is also a waste of time to run in again. He can't enter your world, and neither can you enter his world.

Therefore, I would rather be single all my life than find a person with the same three views. Three views together, together will have something to talk about, will see a longer-term future.