At present, accompanying gifts has become a dumbfounding thing for many people. Many people spend half of their monthly salary on accompanying gifts, and it is not uncommon for them to make ends meet. Accompanying gifts has become a burden for many people, but this burden has to be borne. Although the media has been discussing the necessity of following etiquette in recent years, the phenomenon of following etiquette still exists. When it comes to funerary gifts, many people will think of this sentence: I like not to send umbrellas, I don't want to send cigarettes, and I can't make up for it after my funeral.

In the past, people tried to be lucky before doing things. Driven by this concept, special and systematic taboo rules appeared: for example, during the Spring Festival, people were forbidden to say unlucky things like "death". This culture is also reflected in the ceremony. The common saying mentioned in this article is actually an induction and embodiment of this culture.

Say first, "Do you like giving umbrellas?" In contemporary times, the concept of accompanying wine is very simple, which basically means giving money to eat a banquet, even with the convenience of mobile payment, and sometimes directly transferring money online, even saving the banquet. However, in ancient times when money was underdeveloped, gifts were sometimes not limited to money, but also included some daily necessities. For example, in the past weddings, pots and pans and daily necessities could be given with gifts, but umbrellas could not be given, because the homonym of umbrellas was "scattered" and there were associations of "scattered" and "discrete". For this reason, in order to avoid bad luck, in traditional happy events, umbrellas can't be given with gifts.

Let's talk about "no cigarettes for life." In the past, in rural areas, when the elderly met their 10 birthdays-such as their 60th, 70th or 80th birthdays, families with conditions would hold birthday banquets. Birthday banquets should also be accompanied by gifts. Birthday party, no cigarettes. Because the homonym of "smoke" is "swallow", it will be associated with "swallow". Giving this gift will make people feel cursed, especially the elderly. Modern medicine believes that most elderly people have some degree of senile depression. If the elderly receive "smoke" at the birthday party, they will also have a paranoid mentality because of this association. Therefore, it is a traditional custom not to send cigarettes to the elderly at birthday parties.

Finally, I said, "The loss is irreparable." . When attending the ceremony, many people missed the ceremony because they didn't receive the news in time-for example, on the day when relatives and friends were working, they missed the dinner and didn't attend the ceremony in time. However, in this case, you can make up the gift afterwards. However, there are some things that you can never make up for if you delay the gift. It was a funeral. A funeral means that someone in a family or friend has died. Making up the gift afterwards will give people a bad association: it will make people feel that this death-related gift will bring new harm to their families. Therefore, the gift money for funeral will make people feel cursed. Therefore, the traditional custom does not advocate making up the funeral, but "making up after the funeral".