There is a word called expression violence. Many people are using this kind of violence to hurt the closest people, but they don't care.

For example, if you don't work well in the unit, you are in a bad mood and have been wronged, and you have a lot of grievances and complaints in your heart. But you dare not express it outside, so when you get home, you hang a sad face for the people who love you.

Because close people are safe, you know they won't leave you because you are angry and complaining, and even please you carefully. But you don't know how destructive this violent expression is to your family.

You put on a smelly face that everyone owes you, as if it had nothing to do with others. But in fact, it consumes the enthusiasm of your lover, dissolves your intimate relationship and destroys the beauty of your home. Bad expression brings bad mood, and bad mood leads to bad relationship.

So the family atmosphere is depressed, perhaps because the care and needs you are eager to get are not met. You originally thought that home is a place to give us a comfortable nest when we are tired, and you should be tolerated and accepted, so you began to be willful as soon as you got home.

The wayward mode is that we will naturally give it to our families, that is, our needs should be met by our families. For example, how should my other half treat me and how should my parents take care of me? Because we give our families such expectations, we will get along with them in a wayward mode.

However, when our wayward mode is broken by people close to us, just like when A Hao went home to seek warmth, I found that every time my wife put on a smelly face, my wayward behavior would accumulate psychologically.

Because my family makes me feel depressed, I don't want to go home. Even if I suffer outside, I don't want to be so depressed.