Do you have a feeling that more and more people around you choose confinement centers after giving birth?

Last year there was a very popular Korean drama "Postpartum Care Center". The drama looked professional and comfortable, allowing mothers to get rid of the sloppy confinement center where mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were conflicted, and it also aroused a lot of discussion.

What everyone is curious about is, can these confinement centers, which cost a lot of money and cost tens of thousands of yuan, really solve the problem of mothers in the most "vulnerable" moment after giving birth?

We are concerned about this matter. Recently, we have interviewed some mothers who have actually experienced confinement centers. Let’s talk about it today.

Why live in a confinement center?

The first impression of the confinement center is that it is expensive.

Why spend a lot of money to live in a confinement center when you can do it at home?

Xiaodong, the expectant mother who just paid the money at the confinement center, said this:

@小东31+ Expectant mother - the confinement center is what I gave myself A reassuring pill

When I was 6 months pregnant, I changed from a home confinement fan to a confinement center enthusiast because it could solve a series of pregnancy anxieties that my husband and I had (yes, men are anxious too). .

First of all, who will take care of the confinement? My parents-in-law live nearby. My father-in-law is good at cooking and my mother-in-law is diligent. It would be natural for them to raise the baby together. But I didn’t expect that while the baby was still in my belly, the issue of childcare became a focus of debate at my family’s dinner table. One time my husband and mother-in-law even had a fight, which made me very angry.

Secondly, there is concern about the health of the children. Ever since I learned that I was pregnant, a large number of relatives have expressed their intention to help me. It’s hard to say no to someone’s good intentions, but when I saw the news on the news that a newborn contracted pneumonia due to a visit, I was a little scared.

And whether my parents or my parents-in-law, raising children is an experience they had 30 years ago. When a child is born, everyone will definitely go through a hectic adjustment period. When I think about the physical weakness I have to experience during confinement, and the worries about my child's urine and internal friction within the family, I feel bad.

So after interviewing a confinement nanny to no avail, my husband and I booked a confinement club affiliated with a private hospital that cost 50,000 yuan.

The picture is provided by the interviewee

It must be noted that we are not a very wealthy family. My husband and I are both salary earners. We do not usually have high consumption, and we only buy affordable clothes. . But after I learned that this confinement center has a "nurse responsibility system" and the children have isolated visits, I felt like I was finally relieved.

I just want to sit in confinement with peace of mind. At this time, I feel that it is good to spend money to solve the problem.

Xiaodong’s idea is very representative.

The physical discomfort during the confinement period, the challenges of breastfeeding and childcare, and the conflict of intergenerational concepts are like a "tribulation" for many people, so everyone hopes for external buffers to make life easier. The problem in this most special stage after giving birth to a baby falls gently to the ground.

Can confinement centers really meet everyone’s expectations?

Ali, who has just stayed in the confinement center, said this:

@阿利的daughter2months - It saves worry and effort, professional people have done professional things, We don’t have to worry so much

I was my first child, and forceps were used during difficult labor. There was a big mark on the baby’s face. My mother-in-law, who originally patted her chest and said it would be okay to take care of the baby, was too panicked to hold her.

Fortunately, I insisted on choosing a confinement center, and I felt like I didn’t have to worry much when I moved in.

I was slow to breastfeed, so I fed my baby with a bottle at first, which caused nipple confusion and my daughter refused to breastfeed. If the head nurse of the confinement center hadn't insisted on guiding the child to switch, I would have given up.

The confinement nanny who provided one-to-one service also taught me many ways to take care of my children.

My confinement center costs more than 60,000 yuan. For me, its role is not only to take care of me, but also to give me a one-month "transition period" to become a mother. To be honest, after leaving the confinement center, I never slept a full night again.

@丽阳SON is 2 years old - I didn’t gain weight even after eating six meals a day at the confinement center, but gained 10 pounds when I got home

I am a mother of two children, because the first child was in confinement It didn't feel good, so the second child stayed in a confinement center. The one I chose costs 3.2 W, which is above average for us.

Although I have experienced raising a child, the arrival of a new life is still quite nervous. Fortunately, the confinement center can handle it.

But the most impressive thing is eating. I ate six meals a day according to the diet, without gaining any weight at all, and I still had milk for feeding. This is the value of a professional nutritionist in the confinement center.

Picture provided by the interviewee

During the interview, most of the mothers who had better feelings about the confinement center mentioned these keywords: comfort, effort saving and worry-free.

Are confinement centers perfect? < /p>

I was in confinement several years ago. At that time, I chose the confinement center where Huang Lei’s wife Sun Li gave birth to her third child. The basic package was RMB 80,000. This center has all the functions of early childhood education, swimming, pelvic floor muscle recovery, and maternal yoga, but they all cost extra, with the most expensive costing 360,000.

The confinement center provides excellent services. There is a call bell in the room, so you can call at any time if you need anything. The housekeeper and the life aunt are responsible for the laundry, and the two nurses take turns taking care of me 24 hours a day. There are also doctors, nutritionists, and chefs, so I don’t have anything to worry about.

At night, the baby sleeps separately from the mother. I also go to the area where they put the baby. At two or three o'clock in the middle of the night, the nurse is still feeding. There is 24-hour monitoring, and there is an aunt who prepares the milk. Every baby The milk powder and milk bottles are all labeled very carefully.

Pictures provided by interviewees

But there are also disadvantages to being too happy during confinement.

After I came out of the confinement center, my husband was busy with work and I took care of the baby by myself. The huge gap was really on the verge of collapse.

One day I couldn’t help crying and my parents flew over to take care of me for a few weeks before I regained my composure.

The confinement center is just a transitional stage for new mothers. Being a mother is a hard job, and in the end you have to face it yourself.

Amber, an elderly mother, was also looking forward to the confinement center that cost hundreds of thousands, but after experiencing it, she felt that she originally thought the confinement center was too perfect:

@Amber 38 years old Mom - In the first half of confinement, my husband was so angry that he wanted to beat me

I am the legendary "old man gets a child", so I did not hesitate to decide on a confinement center worth 108,000 yuan, and planned to solve difficult problems. Leave it all to the professionals.

Unexpectedly, the nurse did not inform the child of his poor jaundice in time. By the time it was discovered, it was already very serious, and the hospital issued a "critical illness notice". My husband is so angry that he wants to hit someone.

Although the child was cured after staying in the hospital for 6 days, the second half of confinement was still very happy. The center's food, hygiene, and maternal recovery are all impeccable. It is indeed much more convenient for friends to visit than at home...

But I still advise everyone to be cautious: when choosing a confinement center, you should not only look at the hardware, but the most important thing is to look at the reputation and whether the children are taken care of. A strict system that looks at the qualifications of nurses and doctors.

I have talked about so many personal experiences of mothers today. Indeed, after going through the hardships of ten months of pregnancy and the fatigue of childbirth, I can escape the chaos of early child-rearing. In a comfortable environment, with scientific guidance from professionals to recuperate the mind and body, the benefits of the confinement center are indeed obvious.

But what is even more concerning is that almost every mother mentioned in her narrative that the confinement center gave them a "transition period."

This transition period is not only physical, but also psychological.

What is reflected behind the scenes is that mothers have experienced a drastic identity change from pregnant women to real mothers. In fact, they really hope to get help and have a breathing space.

Confinement centers are just one of the options.

Its effect is short-lived, and the root cause is whether mothers can get enough support, understanding and help.

If these things can be obtained at home, what does it matter whether you go to a confinement center or hire a confinement nanny?

Some of the pictures are from "Postpartum Care Center"