From the child's point of view: first, it is convenient to meet parents often, avoid mutual concern and facilitate care; Secondly, the city is rich in medical resources, and at a certain age, there will be some minor problems in the body, so the diagnosis and treatment conditions are better than those in the countryside; Third, when children live with their parents, their parents' quality of life in all aspects of diet and nutrition will naturally improve compared with their own in their hometown; Fourth, as long as you have time, you can always go shopping with your parents and visit the surrounding attractions to make your parents happy.
However, many elderly people are unwilling to accept or even strongly oppose the filial piety of the younger generation. In life, many old people are very upset. From time to time, old people clamor to return to rural life.
In-laws have lived in the countryside for many years, with their familiar relatives and friends, neighbors, land they have cultivated for many years and old houses with deep feelings.
When the farm is busy, everyone helps each other to sow and harvest. Sweat soaked my clothes, and I hung a smile on my face, enjoying the hope brought by spring and the joy of autumn harvest. When the vegetables in the vegetable field are ripe, you give me a bunch of them and give them to each other. After that, the dining tables of each family are full of colors and flavors.
In my spare time, you and I chat with each other at the head of the village, listening to whose family is about to have a happy event, whose livestock is lost, and whose family is engaged in sideline business ... Everyone is holding a word, very lively, and happy laughter echoes over the small village for a long time.
Even if someone misses a seat occasionally, everyone clearly knows that their children have gone back to their hometown to visit relatives or friends. When everyone doesn't know, they will naturally consider whether there is any problem at home and take the initiative to come to see if they need help. In this way, the small families in the village formed a big family of harmony and mutual assistance.
In 2009, we finally have a house of our own. When we are happy, we will run back to our hometown from time to time to work for our in-laws and let them live in the city.
"Well, we won't go." My in-laws shook their heads like rattles. "I can't bear to part with four acres of land and a dozen chickens at home."
"Come back to live when the farm is busy, and go to live in the city when you are free, without delaying farm work." We tried every means to persuade.
"No, no, people here are familiar with it. Come and have a chat. You go to work in the city, and you don't even have anyone to talk to. It doesn't matter whether you go or not. " In-laws resolutely refused.
I can't help it In this way, five or six years later, my mother-in-law had a heart problem. We lived in the hospital for a while in the city. After leaving the hospital, my in-laws insisted on going back to their hometown. This time, we stood firm and finally left them in the city.
There are many high-rise buildings in the city, and the traffic is very busy. Although the excitement is strange, the environment is strange. When you go out, you can't tell the difference between southeast and northwest, and you don't know the way. Besides, I don't know the traffic rules. My in-laws are afraid to leave home. All day, I just eat, drink, watch TV and sleep. I am depressed and bored. I am clamoring to go back to my hometown in the countryside every day.
Originally, they were invited to enjoy the city, but they said that the material life was rich, but the spiritual life was boring. They sit at home all day. They are bored and have no fun. It didn't take long to return home.
We went back to the days when we ran home during the weekend holiday and regularly received physical examinations from our in-laws. Until 20 12, her mother-in-law's physical condition became worse and worse, and the number of hospitalizations increased. After we insisted again and analyzed the pros and cons, they finally agreed to live in the city again.
Nine years have passed, and my mother-in-law's body is recovering better and better under our careful care and conditioning. They are not only familiar with the surrounding environment, but also insist on going for a walk in the park with a few new friends every day and going to the supermarket to grab discounted things. Every time at the dinner table, they will happily tell us what they have learned today and what special dishes they have robbed.
Especially when children have a holiday, they start to prepare their favorite snacks at home four or five days in advance. And according to the listed recipes, stew chicken and fish one or two days in advance, and you are very busy. Looking at their busy and happy appearance, we also feel extremely happy and practical.
There is an old saying, "Young trees are easy to live, but old trees are easy to die". Just like trees, most small trees can survive and grow smoothly, while most big trees, especially old trees, will die. People all agree with this principle.
When people get old, it will be slower to accept new things and it will be more difficult to adapt to the new environment. Therefore, it is natural for the elderly to instinctively stick to the original life circle and reject the new environment.
Moreover, the elderly need not only a rich material life, but also a full spiritual life. Their living habits, neighborhood friendship, feelings of relatives and friends, adaptation to the environment and climate, etc. After decades of hard work, if there is a big change suddenly, they can't accept it for a while.
After personal experience, "nagging idiot" thinks that letting the elderly enjoy their old age is not a complete leisure enjoyment of "putting swords in storage and releasing horses in Nanshan", but letting the elderly realize their own value and enjoy health and longevity in their old age.
The best way of filial piety is to let the elderly choose freely according to their physical condition, hobbies and wishes. We should conform to the physical and psychological characteristics of the elderly and try our best to enrich their material and spiritual life, instead of forcing them to go to the city to enjoy their leisure.