1. Talking about common hobbies leads to silence in the chat. It is very likely that you have not found a good topic. What you say or what the other person says is a topic you don't understand or like. When talking, naturally the other party doesn't want to participate. To solve this problem, it is actually very simple. It is to extract common topics through information from each other's circle of friends and social platforms. This topic can be hobbies, occupations, food, pets and so on. As long as you find it, you can start these topics, and then the other person is naturally willing to interact with you. But when chatting, don't start with a question, which will put pressure on the other party. Is this similar to your teacher asking you to answer questions at school? We are all very exclusive, which is also constantly asking for value from each other. You can start with a declarative sentence. For example, you all have a common hobby, keeping pets. You can say, look at your dog, you will have many talents. It's so cute. 2. Be good at listening and expressing opinions. In the process of chatting, sometimes I can't find a reply. You can express your opinions, share your experiences, stories and so on. In your sharing, it will also lead to some new topics, and then you can talk about these topics. In this way, the dilemma of chatting can be avoided, and active self-disclosure is also a fragile relative performance, which can make girls know you better and quickly establish mutual comfort. Of course, you don't have to share your experience. You can let the girl talk about her experience. This requires you to have certain chatting skills. Let me give you a hint. If you want a girl to tell you more, you can use empathy technology to make the girl feel that you know her well, so she will tell you a lot. Of course, when you are a listener, don't interrupt the other person's words, just do a little interaction and occasionally express your approval. Chatting like this, there will be no embarrassing chat. 3, break the tension Many brothers chat with girls, not that he can't chat, but that he is too nervous and his self-mentality has not been adjusted well. Why do you feel nervous? Because many boys set a goal for themselves when they pursue girls, that is, I want the other person to be my girlfriend, because of this goal. He became very cautious in the later chat and wanted to behave well in front of girls. Because he is afraid of saying the wrong thing, that he is not good enough, and that girls don't like him or leave him. As a result, in the chat, I had to hesitate to reply to each other, even I was so nervous that I didn't know what to say. Here are a few tips to break this tension and adjust your mentality. First, don't set goals, just treat girls as ordinary friends. Second, don't over-beautify girls, you can appropriately uglify girls and maintain psychological balance. Third, establish self-confidence. You can transfer your self-confidence and transfer your self-confidence to chat with girls. Doing these things well can break the tension in the chat, so that there will be no silence in the chat. How to chat with my sister to find a topic is not cold? 2. Starting from life, I heard the menu of a recent home-cooked dish, started the topic, and finally returned to life. Whether in reality or on the internet, the weather is always a topic, and it is a handy topic. From today's weather to last week's weather, from last week to the first few months, from the first few months to the first few years, these topics that can be seen everywhere in your life can make the conversation between you more and more interesting. Second, the logic of the interlocutor is the logic of summing up and solving problems. When two men chat, the content of the chat will be less and less. Because in the process of chatting, with the casual solution of the problem, the topic gradually disappears. We explain the logical thinking differences between men and women through two paragraphs. (1) My girlfriend told her boyfriend that when I went shopping in the afternoon, I saw a skirt that was particularly beautiful, and then I ate snacks and thought it was beautiful. And the man's answer is: "Where? how much is it? No, buy it! " (2) Two middle-aged women with children are chatting downstairs. One of them said that my children are naughty and always wake me up at night. On the other hand, my family, too, always likes to play with some unclean things ... In the first example, my boyfriend's answer is a typical logical dialogue, pointing to solving problems. It's easy to interrupt the topic, and the content will be boring without emotion. The second example is the logic of girls. Every sentence in the chat is state+feeling, which can make the topic go on better. Third, pay attention to your expression. There are two aspects here, one is not to use modal particles, and the other is not to contain too much information in a sentence. Specifically, it is modal particles, such as, oh, what, yo, ah and so on. It will make you look less masculine, and girls don't like very girly boys and feel insecure. Therefore, when dating, don't appear such a sentence: You are dressed beautifully today! Or do you want something to eat? Be careful! Remember not to step on the minefield. In addition, it is best to express one meaning in a sentence, and the amount of information should not be too much. For example, I just came home from the library and am going to attend the 9: 30 party. You see, we can extract at least four messages from this sentence: library, home, 9: 30, party. What do girls think when they hear this? She will be very confused about what you want to express, so it is best for you to say a sentence with only one meaning and not to confuse the other party. I want to learn the skills of chatting with girls and children, mainly by learning skills rather than going to see some dry goods. Even if you recite some topics introduced online, when you really talk to girls. You will find that the whole topic is not the process development you see on the Internet, so boys must know the skills when studying, so that no matter how off track, you will always find a way to solve it. How to chat with my sister to find a topic? 3 1. Find a topic from yourself. When your mind is blank and you really have nothing to say, take a few deep breaths first, calm down and don't be incoherent. That would be particularly stupid. You might as well borrow a bird to go to the bathroom to clear your head. Recall your favorite topics and restore the chat atmosphere through these familiar topics. These topics need to be prepared in advance and can cover a wide range. For example, your hobbies, family anecdotes, work anecdotes, childhood stories, your school, your friends, your favorite songs, your favorite movies, feelings and so on, as long as you can say it. 2. Find a topic from the surrounding environment and pay attention to the details of the surrounding environment. These things can be slogans, buildings, stars, the sun, pedestrians, posters, animals (cats, dogs, etc. ) and relate them to what you want to say according to your observation. For example, if you look at the stars in the sky, you can say that I heard that every star in the sky represents everyone, and I think you are the brightest one. . This not only praised her but also found a topic, and it can also be associated with constellations. . . It is much easier to find a topic from the other person. If you think carefully about what the other person said before or what was published in her circle of friends, you can think of many things. If we continue this topic, we can reflect the details of each other's daily life and their preferences. It's called knowing yourself and knowing yourself. With this information, you are still handy. 4. Daily Chat-Teasing Man: What to eat at night? Woman: Casual man: Eating hot pot. Female: Too spicy male: Have a barbecue. Woman: Casual man: Are you a Gemini? There are two children fighting inside? I want to eat Cantonese food. If you don't object, you agree Let's experience it for ourselves. 5. Occasionally interject a joke \ One evening in summer, two young people were enjoying the cool by the bridge when a lady in a skirt came up to them. One of the young people said to the other, "Do you dare to look at that lady's skirt?" The man said, "Of course." Then the lady went to the bridge. He went up and picked up her skirt and said, "I said this skirt is not cotton." The lady said, "It's silk." She left. Aunt Wang is going to attend May's wedding. Because she is going to be late, she drives very fast and the red light keeps on. So I was stopped by the police. The police will give Aunt Wang a ticket. The policeman asked Aunt Wang, "How to write a red light?" Aunt Wang thought she was going to be late, but she stopped people from coming down. She said impatiently, "I can't write!" " "After a while, the police gave the ticket to Aunt Wang, and she stuffed it into her purse without reading it. A few days later, Aunt Wang went to pay the fine and showed it to the counter lady. The lady looked at it for a long time and said to Aunt Wang, "You can go back! "Aunt Wang Mo said wonderfully," Isn't there a fine? " The young lady said, "No need. The red light is always on. " There are no such traffic rules! "