In the process of interacting with these parents, you will feel that their appreciation of their children sometimes moves you. For example, these children have their own nicknames at home, and you will feel that these nicknames belong to your parents through their voice and intonation when they call. People will be eclipsed when they call. They never scold or complain when talking about their children. Even if their children are unattractive and sometimes do poorly in exams, they never complain and help them analyze problems calmly. Appreciation is not unrealistic praise and encouragement, but a kind of silent support from the heart, a kind of tacit power. In contact with these parents, I can feel that parents have an inexhaustible appreciation for their children from beginning to end.
Second, it is principled, and it is not easy for people to change their views because of things.
Parents clearly know what their children should and should not do, and make rules. Never change easily. For example, when it's time to do your homework, you must do it. When it's time to study, you must study. It won't change because today is a weekend or because today is a special situation. Respect parents, don't lie, be honest, and offenders will never be soft. This is the bottom line of being a man.
Third, be good at running your own family.
A good family atmosphere is the foundation of children's growth. Looking at these parents' families, the family atmosphere is harmonious and warm. There are few disputes between parents, and children feel warm and dependent in such a family. Mothers usually play an important role in the family. They keep the house clean and tidy. It doesn't matter how expensive clothes you wear or how expensive things you use. The key is to dress up your children and adults.
Fourth, reasonable, steady, simple and low-key.
Parents are very reasonable and considerate. Views on problems are often very eclectic, not extreme and stubborn, with steady manners and elegant speech, which will not give people the feeling of arrogance, and rarely boast about their family and income in front of others.
5. Care but don't spoil your children.
They are very concerned about their children, but they can categorically reject their unreasonable troubles, never regret or tolerate their mistakes.
Sixth, parents cooperate tacitly.
On the issue of educating children, they echo each other and cooperate tacitly. A good COP must be a bad COP. Parents should not undermine each other and blame each other. This is a big no-no. I have seen it with my own eyes. A child disobeyed his mother and had an argument with her. Father severely reprimanded him for this behavior. The child cocked his head and refused to accept it. His father used to kick him. The child cried, but the father did not compromise. Seriously point out his misconduct. Mother told her the truth at once, and the two of them cooperated tacitly. Soon the child will no longer be stubborn.
Seven, work hard and be practical.
Parents' attitudes towards life and work will exert a subtle influence on their children. Looking at the overall situation, these parents are not only successful in educating their children, but also conscientious and conscientious in their work. I also did a good job in the unit. It can be said that work and life are correct.
Eight, pay regular attention to children's learning.
Every day, I will spend a certain amount of time paying attention to my children, which can be fixed regularly. When my children finish their homework, they should check it again. I have time to study with my children, even if I don't study, I will stay with them. I see that they all have their own desks at home. There is a time to watch homework every day, and parents will lower their voices or turn off the TV so as not to affect their children's study.
Nine, not proficient in the network, except for occasional online search information, never online entertainment.
It may be hard to believe that these parents are not proficient in the internet and have no good feelings about it. Maybe they are busy with housework and have no time to go to internet cafes. They hardly spend time and play games on the Internet except consulting relevant materials and completing necessary materials at work. In contrast, some parents go online for recreation whenever they have time, which is in sharp contrast. Children love to play games, and many of them are influenced by their parents.
X. Pay attention to children's healthy diet and cook well.
They are very concerned about the health of their children's diet. They make a reasonable and healthy diet for their children. Those things have additives, and those things are not good for children. Obviously, they cook in person most of the time and seldom buy ready-made ones. A carefully cooked dish.
Eleven, never let children make friends.
Let children only communicate with children who know each other well among friends. They never make friends at will, and rarely see how they make friends. Parents strictly restrict their children from making friends. Never let children associate with children who have bad hobbies and love to fight and make trouble. They let their children associate with the children of colleagues or friends who know each other well. Both parents are familiar with each other, and the children are naturally not bad. For classmates, I have never seen them close, for children to eat together, to be honest, I have never seen them together.
Twelve, never contact with complaining parents.
They are very independent, and they seldom complain about anything. Can understand others. There is little or no intimate relationship with the parents of children's classmates, so that children can always maintain a state of "friendship between gentlemen is as light as water" with their classmates. Always put learning first, and never dilute the main task because of other things. Never contact complaining parents, and always keep a healthy and upward attitude.
Thirteen, strict with children
Strictly speaking, it's not about beating and cursing, but about controlling children's behaviors and habits and paying attention to her little by little. If there are any deficiencies, correct them in time. For example, strictly control children's play time, and "work and leisure" is the unchanging creed of educating children.
Fourteen, understand the child, don't ask too much of the child.
Evaluate your children objectively, don't give too high expectations and don't be pessimistic. Instead, set goals according to children's actual abilities. Chatting with a father, he said, I don't expect her to be the first in the exam. I just want her to strive for the best result through her own efforts. If she can't get into Tsinghua, she will get into a big school. If she can't go to college, it's not bad to rely on local colleges. All she has to do is work hard. In fact, the father is trying to pay attention to the process, not the result.
15. Make friends with children and listen to their voices.
These parents respect their children very much and they will listen to their children's voices. Whenever children talk to them, they will put down their housework and listen carefully. Even if what children say is trivial, it is an important part of their lives.