After more than two years' experience in * * *, I feel that although his education level is not high, he works hard in business and has won many prizes in business competitions in provinces and cities. He is very kind. Although his adoptive parents are not very kind to him, he is still very filial to them. Life is simple. I often see a big man mending his clothes with a needle and thread after work (at that time, the restaurant had to study politics after work at noon, so if he couldn't go home, he took time to mend his clothes). For those of us who have just come to work, we are also patient and not conservative in business guidance. Look at my weak constitution, and you are taking care of me. After a long time, we have feelings.
I didn't know that as soon as our relationship was announced, my family blew up. My parents have very good reasons: his company is not good, he studies little, he is short and thin, although he has adoptive parents, he is in financial difficulties, like an orphan. I am in poor health, but my family conditions are better. I should find someone with good conditions and strong body who can take care of me in the future.
It happened that I was single-minded, and since I was a child, my parents said that I must stick to what I like. They often say, don't look back until you reach the south wall. No, they racked their brains, used both hard and soft (my father, who had never touched a finger, not only slapped me in the face for the first time, but also pointed to the window to make me jump), and tried their best to give up, but I was still crazy. Finally, his parents made a condition: let him transfer to Maanshan Iron and Steel Company, a large enterprise in our city. Thanks to my parents' consideration, I made this offer, otherwise the restaurant closed down and we were both laid off. It's no joke. ) Only then did we agree to our marriage, but there was no dowry, which was a great gift to us, and in this way, we were all married.
After marriage, it turns out that my view of my husband is correct: although he is not tall and has a limited educational level, he is more open-minded: I was worried that my parents would hate him, but he often said that he understood my parents very well and opposed our marriage, and he totally loved his daughter, even if they were a little too much, they should not hold grudges. Therefore, whenever my family has difficulties and needs help after marriage, he will do his best and even ask for help.
? He always felt that I chose him, and I was a little lost, so I wanted to find various ways to compensate. Never let me have any difficulties: he walks on crutches because of illness, and when my mother needs someone to take care of her in hospital, he lives with me at my mother's house to help me take care of her; Take my mother to my house occasionally. Although he is inconvenient to move, he also gives full play to the chef's specialty. Not only did he personally cook her favorite and edible dishes for my mother, but he also cooked some soup between meals to increase my mother's nutrition. My mother herself said that every time she came to my house for a short time, she would gain weight, even her own son!
? My father is seriously ill in hospital. Because my brother is the only boy in the family and there are not enough people working at night shift, he still takes care of him in the hospital despite my father's inconvenience. In fact, he didn't need to do this at all, but he didn't refuse at all.
With my support, my husband is very professional in business. In the first chef exam in our province, he overcame many difficulties such as poor cultural background, small children and busy work, and jumped from a third-class chef to a first-class chef. At that time, the whole Maanshan Iron and Steel Company admitted two students. I'm really proud of him!
The so-called whipping fast cattle, because there are only two first-class chefs in the company, and one is sent abroad to help foreign countries, then my husband will shoulder the heavy responsibility. No matter where important leaders come, even foreign experts come to work in Maanshan Iron and Steel Co., Ltd., they are invited to my husband's factory to entertain them, so he goes out to work every morning and never knows when to go home. He often stays at home on rest days and is called to work overtime by the factory. At that time, people were very simple and didn't know what to ask, but
? Due to long-term overwork, his thin body finally failed. Internal rheumatoid arthritis led to necrosis of femoral heads in both legs, and 1997 was forced to retire early, when he was only 43 years old!
? At that time, because I didn't want to be a waiter in a restaurant, I taught myself to be a financial accountant. I work in the unit on weekdays. In order to increase my family income, I pay private companies on Sunday nights and have no time to take care of him. And my husband, very conscious, not only takes care of his own life, but also tells me, "You just have to buy vegetables home every day and I'll cook." I hesitated at first, for fear that he was tired and couldn't stand it. Instead, he said, "I never consider myself disabled. What happened? I just move a little slower than others. Don't worry, I'll be careful. Cooking is my specialty. For me, it is exercise. If I don't do it, it will be bad for my health. " He used his cleverness to transform the cooking place at home into a model suitable for him, so I tried to let him do it for a few days. Fortunately, it was not as difficult as I thought, so I left the cooking to him. When I get home from a busy day every day, there are always hot and delicious meals waiting for me.
My husband is not good at words, but he is very honest and kind to me, which sometimes makes me both moved and distressed: I remember that with the improvement of people's living standards, ladies began to wear gold jewelry, and the family was difficult and didn't even think about it. I didn't know that he saw my sister and sister-in-law, so he took Maanshan Iron and Steel Bond to the street without telling me, because he stayed at home every day and didn't know the market outside. ) bought me the first gold necklace with a pendant. Do you think I should praise him or blame him?
For many decisions I made, as long as they were right, no matter how difficult they were, he fully supported me: I remember that my daughter was still about three years old at that time, and I didn't want to work as a waiter in a hotel, so I wanted to work during the day and attend accounting training classes at night. I tried to discuss with him, and he immediately agreed that whenever I finished class at night, he would take his daughter home by bike and take on most of the housework, so that I could study hard and prepare for the exam. With his strong support, I successfully changed from a hotel clerk to an excellent financial officer. There is a saying that "behind a successful man, there must be an excellent woman" and my family, on the contrary, should say that half of my success is due to my husband and my baby daughter.
When my stomach is not delicious and I can't eat, my husband often goes to the vegetable market to buy some dishes suitable for me and make them carefully. I've always wanted to eat some noodles: I won't eat the noodles I bought, but I use eggs to make noodles, handmade noodles and other dishes. I am very happy to see that I have taken an extra bite. Sometimes in order to make him happy, I will reluctantly give up what I want. He rolled the dumpling skin himself, changed the stuffing pattern, and wrapped jiaozi for me to eat, saying that pasta is easy to digest; Even if you cook porridge, you should buy a few shrimps, peel them and chop them into pieces. Especially in summer, there is no air conditioning in the kitchen. I really feel so distressed that I want to scold him, but I can't open my mouth, because even a healthy person may not be able to do all this!
? I am a hothead, especially when I am in poor health, and I get angry easily. Whenever this happens, he said slowly, "You are unreasonable again, so I won't bargain with you." Over time, my character is also stupid. Therefore, the neighbors can hardly hear our quarrel. Sometimes, when someone sees that we are both talking about each other, they say strangely, have you ever quarreled? How can I put it? Both of them are single-minded to each other and want to do more housework to reduce each other's burden. This is called weak couples helping each other! When you meet something, discuss it with the office. It seems that there is really no reason to quarrel!
My husband seldom goes out by himself, so he doesn't have many friends, but whenever I come to see friends, he always warmly welcomes us. He often said that people who can come to our house respect us very much, and no matter who comes, they should try their best to entertain us, so people who come to my house, no matter adults or children, will not be constrained by not knowing my husband. Similarly, I have always regarded my husband's relatives as my family, which I inherited from my father. I remember that shortly after we got married, his old man taught me, "Now that we are married, we are a family. Don't divide each other." He himself, taking my mother's mother as his own mother, the so-called example!
? It is said that no one is perfect, and my husband also has his shortcomings: because of his low level of education, some theoretical knowledge is slowly understood, so I will patiently explain it to him; However, he is very studious, and he has made rapid progress with various media propaganda such as TV and mobile phone. Sometimes he loses his temper. Only then did I realize that he was really angry, so I quickly avoided or kept my mouth shut. I'll fight back if his temper goes down, hehe.
On weekdays, no matter who accidentally did something wrong, no matter how big the loss is, we will comfort each other and make things small.
Because I have experienced ups and downs with my husband for decades, I know that he is good. So in 2009, he unfortunately fell down and his life was dying. I didn't hesitate to sell my house and take him to Shanghai Changzheng Hospital for surgery. With the help of my daughter, my husband's brother and sister also extended a helping hand. Brother and sister also tried their best to help, thank you! ) As the saying goes, when people gather firewood, the flames are high, and everyone Qi Xin worked together to save him from death! I really can't imagine how I can live without my husband!
It is said that poor couples are always sad. I said, "A friend in need is a friend indeed". Although my husband and I have experienced the difficulties of starting from scratch; Suffering from perennial diseases; After experiencing the prime of life, he lost his ability to work; I have experienced human hardships such as selling my property to save my life, but I still feel happy, because we have worked together from scratch to raise our daughter better. I'm satisfied that my feelings are still envied by others.
? Now, I really don't understand those gold diggers who "would rather cry in a BMW than laugh behind a bicycle". Even though they are rich, is Lacrimosa that good in their long life? Of course, there are also rich and affectionate people, but everything goes with fate, don't force it.
The most brilliant thing is to grow old with you and still regard you as the treasure in your hand. Because I am retired, when my husband's health permits, we will also arrange our own travel.
With the growth of age, we cherish each other more, and arrange three meals a day according to each other's preferences and health needs almost every day, reminding each other not to forget to take medicine, warning each other, and taking good care of their health is a blessing. It is also the greatest support for the daughter who is working hard outside. Watch the years and look forward to silence. I believe our old age will get better and better!