Perhaps most of us have heard of this catchy and beautiful sentence, but when it comes to where it comes from, I'm afraid many people will be at a loss.
In fact, this famous saying comes from the book "Caigen Tan" that we are going to talk about today.
Caigen Tan is not a recipe, but a real classic quotation of Chinese studies.
The word "vegetable root" sounds a little similar to what we now call "grass root". In fact, a sentence from Wang Xinmin, a scholar in the Northern Song Dynasty, means that as long as one can adapt to a poor life, no matter what he does, he will achieve something.
Inspired by these eight words, Hong Yingming, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, determined that "the thatched cottage is comfortable and natural and fragrant", and finally wrote the enduring Quotations of Vegetable Roots, which attracted readers from generation to generation.
Caigen Tan is a masterpiece, in which Confucian doctrine of the mean, Taoist inaction and Buddhist karma are all reflected.
This book points out the meaning of life for us from many aspects, such as "cultivating self-cultivation, dealing with people, learning from time to time, being cautious and independent".
When we read this book, we can clearly feel that although the ancient hundred schools of thought are different in nature and angle, they can all involve the philosophy of life, but they always have something in common.
Caigen Tan consists of small paragraphs, suitable for all kinds of readers.
In different situations and moods, everyone may like different paragraphs and have different understandings and feelings about the same paragraph. This is an important feature of this book-no matter how you read it, there is a truth that suits your mood.
"Today, people don't see Gu Yue. This month, they took photos of the ancients." Although Caigen Tan was written in the Ming Dynasty, it is still very enlightening for us to read now, which proves the great vitality of the book.
Next, I will interpret the essence of the book "Caigen Tan" for you and show you: What kind of life wisdom is hidden in this book?
You will understand why "peace of mind" is the most important thing in emotional control.
You will also know what kind of education is contained in Caigen Tan?
Most importantly, I will tell you that speaking is a technical job in the workplace.
Start learning now!
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Why is "peace of mind" the most important in emotional control?
The ancients said, cultivate one's morality and govern the country. This "cultivation" ranks first, which shows its importance.
Although Caigen Tan contains various cultures, it is still based on Confucianism and naturally puts the section of "self-cultivation" in an extremely important position.
The first thing we want to talk about today is the method of "self-cultivation".
The so-called "self-cultivation" is actually the cultivation of a person's "mind", that is, the cultivation of the mind.
Therefore, "Caigen Tan" said: "Body and mind are celestial bodies, and the joy of one thought is the essence of Qingyun; The thought of anger, thunder and rain; A thought of kindness, wind and frost dew; A strict mind, the scorching sun and autumn frost. "
Explain that the heart is very important and even has the power to change the world: a happy heart can bring auspicious clouds; An angry heart can bring thunder and little rain; A kind heart can bring wind and dew; A harsh heart will bring scorching sun and autumn frost.
Therefore, we should always maintain a kind of "meditation".
Because the heart is calm, it will produce a kind of quietness. With quietness, it will reap many benefits.
As "Caigen Tan" said: "All major events are calm. Quiet and then you can be safe, safe and then you can worry, and then you can get it. "
The ancients believed that quietness is a kind of cultivation, a realm and a kind of wisdom.
Only when a person has a peaceful mind can he think calmly, judge correctly and face the challenges of life calmly.
There is such a story: my father lost a watch and complained that he could not find it everywhere; After he went out, his son sneaked into the house and found it soon.
The father was curious and asked his son how he found it.
The son replied, I just sat quietly and heard the sound of the second hand. Then I looked in that direction and found my watch.
This is the power of "peace of mind".
Of course, a peaceful mind does not mean to sit tight, but to gain inner peace through calm, so as to achieve the spiritual realm of not pursuing fame and fortune, not being confused by glitz, and calmly dealing with things.
In the impetuous era, it is valuable to have calmness.
If you are eager for quick success and instant benefit, it is easy to get lost in the material trap.
Some people say that an impetuous mentality is like cooking soup-some people "expose the pot with a little fire", eager for success, and the foundation is not firm.
Some people like to "show off the mountains and dew" and don't work hard to seek truth. It is difficult to be pragmatic and do things without making a show; Only those who are calm as water can withstand all kinds of tests and realize their value in the ordinary.
After Qi Baishi became famous, someone asked him how he changed from a carpenter to a master painter.
Qi Baishi said: "Painting is the way of quietness. If you keep quiet, you can succeed in your career. "
It can be seen that the cultivation of quietness is a manifestation of ability and a good medicine to adjust our personal emotions.
Emotion is something everyone has, but the difference is that some people can control their emotions through "meditation", while others become slaves to emotions.
Many people will panic because of emotional instability after encountering problems, resulting in problems that could have been solved, which cannot be solved because of emotional influence. So before solving the problem, we must first solve our emotions.
There is a story in Song Renzong's time: At that time, the Tangut people besieged Yan 'an City, and the city was in danger of falling, making people panic.
At this time, Fan Yong was appointed Marshal of Military Forces. When he met this situation, he was very anxious.
At this time, an old man in the military camp made a special trip to see Fan Yong and volunteered his own strategy to Fan Yong.
The old man said, "I am a border resident. I have been fighting in this frontier all the year round. Encountered siege many times. The crisis I experienced then was similar to today, except that the Tangut people were not good at siege. There is nothing to worry about because the army of the Tangut is broken every time. I can assure you that the Tangut people must not break the city. If the city is broken, I would rather be beheaded. "
After listening to the old man's analysis, Fan Yong suddenly felt emboldened, and then he spoke to encourage the soldiers, so the morale of the army settled down a little.
Later, it really ended like this. When the Tangut retired, the old man was greatly rewarded and promoted, and was called a wise man in the military camp.
Someone asked the old man, "How did you see that the Tangut could not attack the city?"
The old man said flatly, "Actually, I don't know. What I said at the time was just to appease people's hearts. "
The old man's remarks had no direct impact on the war itself, but he virtually solved a bigger hidden danger, that is, the problem of uncertain morale.
Therefore, no matter what you face, solving your emotions and calming your mind is the premise to solve the problem.
So what can we do to calm our hearts?
"Caigen Tan" says: "Look at people with cold eyes and listen to words with cold ears. Leng Qing should feel it and feel cold."
Observe others with calm eyes, listen to people with calm ears, feel things with calm emotions, and think about problems with a calm mind.
In short, keep a cool head and make a rational judgment.
The so-called "cold" here is actually to remain rational.
A rational person is calm when interacting with others and thinking objectively. No matter what kind of things you face, you will not be carried away by emotions, nor will you fall into a blind situation and be at a loss.
For such a person, no matter what kind of chess game life is in front of him, he can break the game calmly.
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What kind of education is contained in Caigen Tan?
After talking about "self-cultivation", let's talk about the education in the book.
It is true that some educators often say that students should be encouraged, but "encouragement" should have a "degree". Moderate is called encouragement, and excessive is called "coaxing children" to learn.
If you always encourage, praise and praise without guidance, education or even appropriate criticism, over time, it will cause a terrible phenomenon-"If you speak sweet words and are happy with everything, you will bury your life in poison."
When a person is always smooth sailing at home and school, it is not necessarily a good thing, which shows that the environment is too tolerant of him. When he enters the society one day and faces a complicated and changeable situation, he will hit a wall.
Therefore, Tan Caigen tells us that the combination of encouragement and criticism is not groundless.
But it is not advisable to be strict. In the process of educating students, we sometimes make too severe mistakes, and we don't consider whether students can accept it or not in the process of education.
Excessive criticism and scolding hurt students' self-esteem, but it has the opposite effect.
Many times, we set too high a standard for our students. If he can't do it, he will feel desperate and lose interest.
Therefore, "Caigen Tan" said: "The evil of attacking people should not be too strict, so think about it; Teach people not to be too good, but to make it available. "
When we educate students, we must teach them in accordance with their aptitude and have appropriate standards, neither too low nor too high.
At the same time, different students should set different standards, and we can't generalize.
This is also the way advocated by Confucius to teach students in accordance with their aptitude. Neither too strict nor too wide, so "Caigen Tan" gives a conclusion-"combining leniency with severity, you can't be partial."
In addition, Cai Gentan also attaches great importance to the exemplary role of educators, calling it "giving lectures and practicing".
The knowledge in the book is not as impressive as your personal demonstration.
To learn to be a teacher and behave, teachers must first do what students are asked to do. If we can't do it ourselves and ask students to do it, the effect will definitely be unsatisfactory.
The above is the attitude that educators need to uphold, but education should not only have an attitude, but also have specific methods, otherwise it will become an armchair strategist.
So, what "educational methods" are introduced in Caigen Tan?
First of all, Caigen Tan puts forward an educational method of "leisure time is tight, busy time is idle"-the way of time is that the world is silent and the air machine stops without interest; The sun and the moon run at night, but it is not easy to be frank and clear; Therefore, a gentleman should have a tight heart when he is free, and a leisurely interest when he is busy. "
In other words, in daily education, we should relax.
For example, in life, when the semester is almost over, we will see two completely different teachers.
One is busy to death, and I am in a hurry, which also makes my classmates toss and turn.
Most of these teachers are too idle at ordinary times, and they are anxious when they arrive at the exam, so they take the time to make up lessons because they are not sure. One is very leisurely and unhurried, because I have a clear head and have done everything I should do at ordinary times, so there is nothing to worry about in the end.
The latter situation is what we call "leisure time is tight, busy time is idle". Only when you have a bottom in your heart can you face everything calmly.
I think this is the so-called time management. Plan your time well and let yourself do everything according to the plan.
Otherwise, it is usually leisurely, nervous when it comes to exams, and the final effect is not good.
Then the book mentions a "mysterious" method-"it's really wrong to wait and see."
The book said: "Sitting alone in the dead of night, I felt sorry at first, really exposed, and I was very interested in it;" I feel that the truth is right in front of me, and I can't escape it. I am deeply ashamed of it. "
This passage seems mysterious, but it actually reflects a kind of "cautious independence" thought. In the dead of night, you should introspect and reflect more, so as to sum up and correct today's mistakes and make tomorrow better.
If we are busy all day and don't have time to calm down and think carefully about the meaning and methods of education, we will fall into confusion, muddle along in work and life, and thus lose our pursuit and dreams.
Only when we look back and reflect on ourselves can we truly understand the true meaning of education.
Some people have been like this all their lives, without any progress, and have always been like this, even if they are wrong, they have never corrected them.
The "false heart" mentioned in the book actually means that there are dark clouds in the heart, that is, there are mistakes and obstacles in the heart; Only by correcting mistakes and removing obstacles can we be truly pure and bright.
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In the workplace, speaking is a technical job.
After talking about education, finally, let's talk about workplace wisdom.
Once, my friend told me an annoying thing:
My friend just received a new assignment from the manager and was very happy at that time. After all, he was recognized by the leaders.
However, the new task is much more difficult than before. He didn't realize the difficulty of the task until he took over, so he complained to his colleagues during his lunch break.
After work, my friend was called to the office by the manager. He thought the manager wanted to discuss the new task with him, but the oncoming question was: "Do you have any questions about the company arrangement?" If so, the company can arrange for others to take over new tasks. "
My friend was very upset at that time and regretted complaining more at lunch.
In fact, the above phenomenon is widespread in the workplace. We are not "clay figurines", we all have our own "fire", but sometimes we just inadvertently reveal a few words of "unintentional complaints", which bring us a lot of trouble and even lose opportunities and jobs.
Drucker, the father of modern management, said, "One must know what to say, when to say it, to whom to say it, and how to say it."
This is especially true in the workplace. Whether you report to the leader or get along with your colleagues in harmony, you need to have enough communication skills.
What to say, how to say it, whether to say it or not, the same meaning, from different people, will have different effects.
People who can talk make people feel like spring breeze, and their interpersonal relationships are also very harmonious. Naturally, it is easier to be smooth sailing in the workplace.
It is not surprising that people who can't talk are like needles, offending countless people and hitting the wall repeatedly in the workplace.
Therefore, this "way of speaking" is repeatedly emphasized in "Caigen Tan":
"Nine out of ten words are not necessarily unusual, and if one word is wrong, it is a rare treasure";
"The mouth is the heart, hold your mouth and let go of the real machine; It means that the heart is full, the defense is not strict, and the evil road is exhausted. "
To put it bluntly, it actually tells us a truth: it is better to talk than to do things in a down-to-earth manner.
But the meaning of the above story goes far beyond this. Why are friends' complaints known to leaders during lunch break?
I think the answer is clear at a glance-it is naturally a "secret" from colleagues.
We often say that "the workplace is like a battlefield", and colleagues are sometimes partners and sometimes potential enemies.
In the workplace, if you get along well with your colleagues, it will be smooth and smooth, and if you don't get along well, it will be difficult.
In this case, what advice can Cai Gentan give us professionals?
The book says: "You must be smart in your heart and honest in your life", and "If you are ugly and your heart is too bright, it doesn't match. The virtuous and foolish are too clear, and people don't kiss. "
What do you mean?
Why don't we just tell the truth?
Of course not!
The ugly heart is too clear to admit defeat. It means that if the "distinction between good and bad" is too rigid and too serious, things will not be easy to get along with.
That is to say, if the view or attitude towards something is too sharp or extreme, it will ignore the value point of this thing and lead to poor use.
If a virtuous fool is too clear-headed, people will not kiss. It means that it is not easy to get close to people if you are too clear about judging people's quality and stupid mind.
In other words, don't give others those glamorous labels, for example, colleague A is smart, colleague B is stupid, colleague C is not bad, and colleague D can't hand it in. ...
This will make us look at people with colored glasses, which is not conducive to close contact with colleagues.
Therefore, it is mentioned in the book that in dealing with people, we should be "smart in heart and honest in life".
In the workplace, if you can help your colleagues' problems, you can help and be a simple and honest person in the workplace.
At the same time, your heart also needs to be smart and agile, to judge what you can't do, not to be a good person.
Don't show off your cleverness and agility casually, just keep it in your heart. It's harmless on the surface, but it's clear in my heart. This is workplace wisdom.
Well, hearing this, you have learned the essence of the book "Caigen Tan".
Today, we mainly studied from three aspects, and now I will give you a summary:
First of all, we understand the method of "self-cultivation".
The so-called "self-cultivation" is actually to cultivate a person's "mind", so let your mind calm down. Because a person can think calmly and judge correctly only if he has a peaceful mind.
The method of meditation is to observe others with calm eyes, listen to people with calm ears, feel things with calm emotions, and think about problems with a calm mind. Simply put-keep a cool head and make a rational judgment.
Then, we discussed the educational methods in the book.
In terms of educational attitude, Tan Caigen told us to combine encouragement with criticism, pay attention to "tempering justice with mercy, not favoritism" and follow the principle of moderation.
In addition, educators are also required to give full play to their exemplary role.
In terms of educational methods, the book puts forward the method of "leisure is tight, busy is leisure".
In other words, in daily education, we should relax and do a good job in daily time management and planning.
Finally, we understand that speaking is a technical job in the workplace.
In the workplace, one must know what to say, when to say it, to whom to say it and how to say it. A little carelessness will lead to a sinner invisibly.
Therefore, the book advises us in the workplace to "be smart and honest in our hearts"-the surface is harmless and the heart is clear.
Times may change, but human nature will not.
Cai Gentan tells us the way to be a man. Being a man is a topic that will never go out of date, so Cai Gentan's wisdom will not go out of date.
I hope everyone can learn from it and understand their own truth!
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