I believe everyone still remembers that in October 2015, the communiqué of the Fifth Plenary Session of the 18th Central Committee of the Communist Party of China stated: Adhere to the basic national policy of family planning and actively carry out measures to deal with the aging of the population. Take action to implement a comprehensive two-child policy. In fact, before the two-child policy was fully liberalized, in November 2011, all parts of China had fully implemented the two-child policy for independent parents; in December 2013, China implemented the two-child policy for independent parents. The two-child policy is a family planning policy implemented in China, which stipulates that eligible couples are allowed to have a "second child". Because it is a two-child policy, if the first child is multiple children, a second child is not allowed.
My parents were both born in the 1940s. Family planning was not implemented in my parents’ generation, so they raised us five brothers and sisters. I was born in the 1970s, the so-called post-70s generation. We, the generation born in the 1970s and 1980s, happened to encounter the national family planning policy that encouraged a couple to have only one child. Therefore, after getting married, I voluntarily abide by the national family planning laws and regulations, and only gave birth to one child, so I took contraceptive measures, applied for an honorary certificate for parents of an only child, and received an annual 60 yuan reward for the only child's health care fee issued by my employer.
When the country gradually relaxed its two-child policy for "double independence" and "independent" two-child policy, I did not expect that one day I would become a mother of two children. So when the news of the full liberalization of the two-child policy was announced in 2015, it caused quite a stir among the two generations born in the 1970s and 1980s. Especially the generation born in the 1980s, they have already tasted the bitterness brought by only children. Without brothers and sisters to share, the burden they bear is heavier, so the response to the second child is even more enthusiastic. This year, the oldest born in the 1970s is already 45 years old, and the youngest born in the 1970s is 36 years old, which is no longer the best age for childbearing. However, they still actively prepare for pregnancy, pregnancy, and childbirth, and take the last train as soon as possible.
During the pregnancy preparation stage, I went to the hospital for a comprehensive physical examination and found that I had sizable uterine fibroids. Doctors recommend laparoscopic surgery to remove the fibroids before getting pregnant, but it will take at least six months to a year of recovery after the surgery to get pregnant. However, I was already 37 years old and couldn't bear such a long treatment. After thinking over and over again, I ignored the doctor's advice and went home to take care of myself. A year later, I became pregnant successfully.
From the day I found out I was pregnant, I downloaded the "Baby Knows" app on my phone, played prenatal education stories, listened to prenatal education music, and recorded every detail of the pregnancy process.
2016.11.10 After 38 days of menopause, I took a pregnancy test paper in the morning and found two dark red bars.
In the first B-ultrasound on 11.18, the jaundice was seen, but no fetal heartbeat or fetal bud was seen.
The second B-ultrasound on 11.29 showed that the fetal sac was visible inside, the protrusion of the buttocks was 9mm, and the fetal heart rate was 160 beats/m. Today I have had a big reaction, my breasts are swollen, which is a symptom I didn’t have with my first pregnancy.
12.6 Go to the Women’s Health Care Center to create a card. Call the city hospital to make an appointment for the NT project.
My pregnancy symptoms were strong, nauseated, I smelled all kinds of odors, I was particularly sensitive to the smell of cigarette smoke, I felt very uncomfortable, and I had endless vomiting.
12.14 is another uncomfortable day. The whole scalp is greasy, there is a lot of saliva, the nose is as sensitive as a police dog, and I can smell all kinds of odors that I can’t usually smell, including the carbon from the office printer every day. I can smell the powdery smell in the office next door and the office opposite. I can smell it when someone smokes. It’s very uncomfortable. Now my food no longer tastes good, and the breakfast that I thought was delicious before can no longer be eaten. After eating something, I would have endless spit in my mouth. I would vomit for five or six minutes after lunch and dinner every day. I can't eat lean meat and eggs anymore, so I can only eat some vegetables.
12.31 I am 12w+5 pregnant and went to the city hospital for NT and thalassemia diagnosis today. NT is normal, and the result of thalassemia will be available after a week.
2017.3.6 Tonight, the baby moved very frequently, very strongly, and kicked violently, which made the mother a little scared and worried that the baby would be uncomfortable in the belly. Fortunately, the baby calmed down after going to bed to rest. . I hope the baby will be obedient and well in the mother's belly, okay?
3.14 I went to the city for a three-dimensional inspection today. I came out of the county and went to the city hospital at ten o'clock in the morning. I queued up to register and was the last one in the morning. I had to do it at 12 o'clock, but it didn't go well. The baby's position was not good, so it couldn't be done. I queued up in the afternoon and was at the back again. I had to do it again at five o'clock, but the baby still didn't cooperate and it didn't work.
Arriving at the hospital before 8 o'clock on 3.15, I took a fasting blood test to check for total bile acids. Because of the itching all over my body, the doctor suggested checking for total bile acids to prevent the baby from being hypoxic in the belly. Later, I went to the B-ultrasound office and was ranked fifth. However, because the Health Bureau came to inspect the work, the business was stopped, and normal business was not resumed until almost 11 o'clock.
It was almost twelve o'clock when it was my turn. This time I did part of the procedure. After a few minutes, the doctor was called out by phone and the examination was interrupted. I was lying on the examination bed, and the doctor came back after a long absence. I got up and saw the baby's face on the computer. It was very cute, and I immediately felt relaxed. After a few minutes, the doctor came back and examined me.
But the baby didn't cooperate again. The doctor said that the baby's position was not good again and he should do it again in the afternoon.
I came to the hospital early at two o'clock in the afternoon, so I was the first to go in after the doctor arrived. Halfway through, the doctor said that some indicators were still not visible and asked me to get up and walk around.
It was already half past three. I walked out of the B-ultrasound room with a heavy heart and went to get the test sheet for the morning blood test. The result was that the total bile acid was normal, and the doctor prescribed a bottle of topical medicine for me. . After getting the medicine, I started walking back and forth in the hospital and climbing the stairs. At about five o'clock, I walked into the B-ultrasound room again, but the situation was still not good. The doctor pressed hard on my abdomen with the B-ultrasound probe and poked hard from time to time. I felt a lot of pain during the beating, and I could also feel that the doctor was working hard. After another five or six minutes, the doctor finally said it was OK, and I breathed a long sigh of relief. When I walked out of the B-ultrasound room, the result report was also delivered to the door guidance office.
The guiding doctor took the report and said, is so-and-so you? I said yes. I moved over, and the doctor pointed to the sheet and said, complete placenta previa, this is a very bad condition, you have to be careful in the future, there is a risk of heavy bleeding at any time. The doctor's tone was very calm, maybe they were used to it a long time ago. But when the words complete placenta previa came into my eyes, I felt bad all over. The comfortable mood I felt when I saw the baby's cute face suddenly disappeared. Because in the "Baby Knows" app, I have been paying attention to pregnancy knowledge and know the dangers of placenta previa, not to mention the most dangerous form of placenta previa, complete placenta previa, which means that the entire placenta covers the cervix, and then the As the baby continues to grow, I may have severe bleeding at any time, which not only endangers the baby's life, but also endangers the adult's life. The doctor then gave me some instructions and taboos, and told me to ask my family members to donate blood in the near future so that the blood could be used in time when needed. I thanked the doctor and walked out of the hospital, feeling uneasy and worried.
After giving birth to my first baby, I took measures to insert an intrauterine device. However, due to side effects, I had heavy menstrual flow every month, long periods, and endless bleeding. I had to go for a checkup six months later. . The doctor said that the IUD was already embedded in my flesh, which would cause great harm to the uterus and would not be effective in contraception, so I asked the doctor to help me take out the IUD. I still haven’t forgotten the pain when the doctor tore the ring out of my flesh when I took it out. So after I removed the IUD, I did not insert an IUD, but took safe-period contraceptive measures. However, contraception still failed from time to time, and I still had several abortions in the past ten years. To be honest, I only got pregnant with my second child a year after the two-child policy was released. I thought I would never be able to get pregnant again. I was terrified, regretted, and regretted that I had not been responsible for myself for so many years, but I still longed for it. I prayed to God to give me another chance, and God really favored me. I was really satisfied, so I cherished it. I always treated the baby in my belly with gratitude, but now the test results make me feel... The situation is not good. Every day since then, my baby and I have to accept the test of time.
I called my husband, originally wanting to tell him the result, but when the call came through, I told him duplicitously that it was done, no problem. In fact, I felt really bad inside at that time, but at that moment, I chose to hide my panic and bear it alone. Because my husband is on a business trip at this time, there is no need for me to tell him at this time and add to his worries. Anyway, he will be back in two days, so it will not be too late to tell him then. By then my heart should have calmed down, and I can speak out the problem calmly. I believe that his heart will be bigger than mine, and he will consider things more thoughtfully than me, and he will give me strength and support.
When I returned home and saw my son, whom I had not seen for two days, I felt warm in my heart. However, the sense of loss from today’s test results has not subsided, but no one told me.
3.16 I went to work normally today and the baby’s fetal movements were normal. When my husband came home from a business trip in the evening, I told my husband about my experiences in the past two days. I felt much more at ease. It was better to have someone to share my worries with than to bear them all alone.
4.10 I am 27 weeks today and I noticed that my feet are a little swollen.
4.16 The second trimester ends today, and the third trimester will begin tomorrow at 28 weeks. Now I sleep on my left side, but after sleeping on my left side for a long time, I feel pain and tiredness in my left hip. When sleeping on my right side, I feel uncomfortable and feel a little pain in my abdomen. Lying down is quite comfortable, but it is not good for the baby.
Today my husband went out to study again, going to Sichuan University for a week.
4.24 I am 29 weeks pregnant. I felt a little pain in my stomach when I went to work this afternoon. When I got home from get off work, I immediately went to bed. I felt that my stomach was a little swollen, and I was worried that something might happen. I felt a little uncomfortable at night and thought I had a fever. I took a temperature needle and measured it. Fortunately, it was normal. It might have been caused by mental stress. Complete placenta previa puts a lot of pressure on yourself. I hope that the baby and I can spend the last 70 days tenaciously and safely. God bless!
4.27 At about 9:30 pm, I went to the toilet. When I got up, I found two drops of bright red blood in the toilet. I panicked at that time. Placenta previa bleeding, this curse is really coming. I can't even escape. So I immediately packed up some necessities, rushed to the hospital with my husband, and went through the hospitalization procedures. Blood draw, B-ultrasound, finally settled down to infusion at 11 o'clock.
Fortunately, the bleeding was not much, and there was no more blood after arriving at the hospital, so I felt a little more relieved. The doctor prescribed medicine to promote fetal lung development, stop bleeding, and protect the fetus. At night, the doctor came regularly to measure the fetal heart rate and body temperature. In addition, there was a lot of urine through the transfusion. I got up to urinate four or five times in the night. I didn’t sleep well all night. After the transfusion, I finally A bottle of potion was already at noon the next day.
4.28-30 Infusion in the hospital to preserve the fetus.
5.1 The doctor said today that he can be discharged from the hospital. I hope that the baby will grow up well after this hospitalization. Mother and baby will work hard together, come on!
In the afternoon, I explained the situation to the unit leader, and then submitted a leave request for bed rest and miscarriage to the unit.
5.2 My husband was originally going to go out for training, but because of my situation, I had to take leave and cancel my outing.
5.18 I am 32 weeks and 3 weeks pregnant. Before I knew it, I had taken leave for 18 days. In fact, I quite like this kind of life where I don’t have to do anything all day long. I don’t have to think about work or do housework. I just lie in bed all day, sleep when I want to, and play with my phone when I want to. I don’t have to be lazy. There are too many things to think about. Although sometimes I want to write about my mood and feelings these days for my baby, myself, or my husband, I really don’t want to waste my brain at all. In fact, to say that it is completely carefree is not necessarily true. Among them are the expectations for the baby, the deep love for the big baby, the touching love for her husband during this period of time, and the gratitude to her mother-in-law for cooking and washing dishes without complaint during this period. But I really don’t want to think about it that much. I just want to lie in bed all day without thinking about anything. Fortunately, time passed quickly, day by day, it passed so quietly. This is the best thing for me. Because spending every day safely means that your baby will grow up healthily every day. So I just hope that time can pass faster and the baby will grow faster so that we can be ready to meet each other in a few dozen days. Come on, baby, come on yourself.
6.10 The baby's fetal movements have been relatively normal in the past two days. The biggest problem that currently bothers me is constipation. I want to poop every day, but only a few goat poops come out every time. I am worried that the placenta will bleed even if I try hard. Drinking honey, eating fruit, or eating porridge on an empty stomach in the morning cannot alleviate or improve this problem. I asked the doctor whether I could use Kaisellu. The doctor said I couldn’t use it because there was a risk of miscarriage, but I could use soap. After repeated trips to the toilet, I finally had hard stools and my stomach felt much better.
6.13, 36+1 years pregnant. After breakfast and into the afternoon, the baby moved very strongly and a lot. Maybe it was because his mother’s small house was already a bit crowded for him. His little feet and hands could support his mother’s. My belly is bulging, and I feel a little pain in my cervix. The due date is getting closer, but the mother still hopes that the baby can stay in the mother's belly for a while until full term, so the baby has to work hard, and the mother also Come on, let's work hard together and persevere until the day of victory. We'll meet again!
6.20 Today I am 37 weeks + 1 day pregnant. In the past two days, I have discussed with my husband when to go to the hospital. My husband said that we are busy now. By Friday, the 23rd, the work will be taken care of, and we can go and wait for the birth with peace of mind.
Today is as usual, bed rest. In the morning, I called the city hospital to inquire about labor-related issues. At 4:50 in the afternoon, after getting up from a nap, I suddenly felt a rush of heat in my lower body. I subconsciously touched my pants with my hand and found that my pants were wet. I picked up my hand and saw that it was full of blood. I was immediately frightened. I didn’t expect that the bleeding would come anyway, and I didn’t even give myself a few more days. So I called my husband immediately, and I immediately went to bed to rest. I was really afraid of heavy bleeding.
A few minutes later, my husband came home from the office, packed up the maternity supplies, and called the local emergency number. The ambulance came downstairs quickly. Arrive at the county hospital at 5:20 for admission and complete the transfer procedures to a higher-level hospital (city hospital). Around 6:30, the ambulance took us to the inpatient department of the city hospital. Then I went through the hospitalization procedures, performed fetal heart rate monitoring and oxygen inhalation, and then the nurse pushed me to do B-ultrasound and electrocardiogram. After a series of examinations, it was already 11 o'clock in the evening. The doctor then told me that a caesarean section would be performed tomorrow. Fortunately, no blood was shed during this period, only old blood was discharged.
In the middle of the night and in the morning on 6.21, the doctor on duty came from time to time to listen to the fetal heartbeat as usual. A bottle of liquid was administered in the morning, and my friend Yang, who also worked in the hospital, came to visit us in the ward and chatted with us about some things. The doctor told us that we would perform an interventional surgery at 3 p.m., followed by a cesarean section. At the same time, we would prepare my skin and insert a urinary catheter. From last night to now, my husband has been dealing with all matters including pre-operative talks and operation signing by himself. I know that his mental pressure is no less than mine.
In the afternoon, the two surgeries were carried out as scheduled. The interventional surgery lasted about half an hour, followed by a cesarean section.
When I was pushed into the operating room, I felt very calm. I kept my eyes closed and didn't dare to think about my husband's mood.
I was carried to the operating table. Because of the interventional surgery, I couldn’t bend my right leg and could only bend my left leg. So I was lying on my left side and couldn’t bend my waist. During the anesthesia, , the doctor took three needles to find the epidural, leaving three large needle hole scabs on my waist afterwards.
After the anesthesia was successfully administered, I only felt a heat coming from my lower abdomen. Soon my legs became numb and I couldn’t move even if I wanted to. Then my upper body felt very cold, and then I started shivering uncontrollably. At this time, the doctor kept talking to me and asked me if I knew what I was here for. I said I was here for a caesarean section.
The doctor got me down and laid me down, then squeezed my belly and asked me if I felt anything. I said a little bit, but in fact they had already started operating on me. I was still consciously aware that the doctor He kept squeezing my upper abdomen to take out the baby, and then heard a loud cry. The doctor said to me, you can go to sleep, and I didn’t know anything else.
It was already two hours later when I was pushed to the ward. My mind was very dizzy. I only remember that in the ward, my friend Yang rubbed my hands while talking to my husband, saying that my hands were so cold. That's all I can feel. My eyelids are really heavy. I can't open them no matter how hard I try, and I don't have the strength to speak. I don’t know how long it took, but she went back.
I don’t know how long it took, maybe it was late at night, anyway, I don’t know the time. Several doctors who performed the surgery on me also came to the ward to see me. Although my mind was a little clearer than before, I still couldn't open my eyes. I only heard the doctors saying that the surgery was good and the amount of bleeding was not large. The bleeding was about 800 milliliters, and then my husband kept saying thank you, director, thank you, director.
At this point, all the mother’s pain during pregnancy disappeared the moment the baby fell to the ground. She was pregnant for ten months and then had seven layers of abdominal dissection, just to meet you!
Now the baby has grown up as expected, is naughty and cute, and has already gone to kindergarten.
Having a baby makes it worth it no matter how hard and tiring the mother is!
This article is dedicated to mothers of two children born in the 1970s like me. Although we are advanced mothers, we are very happy. After having a baby, we maintain an optimistic attitude and a healthy body. , let us go hand in hand!