Since 1990 got married, Fan Wei has been quite afraid of his wife, and this fear is 16. He repeatedly stressed in public: "I want to thank God, thank earth and thank people." Xie Tian, it is Xie Heaven who has eyes; Xie land is the black land in the northeast raised by Xie; Thank you, Zhao Benshan and my wife. Without the careful polishing of these two, there would be no me today ... "
There are many rules in the family to marry a nurse.
1962 On September 2nd, Fan Wei was born in an ordinary worker's family in Shenyang, Liaoning. 1978 Chen Lianzhong, a crosstalk performer with Shenyang Quyi Troupe, embarked on the road of performing arts.
From 65438 to 0988, Fan Wei stepped into the ranks of older youth, and his parents began to worry that he could not find a partner. Under the introduction of a friend, he met Yang Baoling, a little nurse in Shenyang Children's Hospital.
At that time, Yang Baoling was 20 years old and had just graduated from Shenyang Health School. He is handsome, dignified and gentle.
When they first met, Fan Wei was attracted. However, Yang Baoling didn't have that "meaning".
Fan Wei thought he was hopeless for Yang Baoling, and his heart became cold. A friend told him that when Yang Baoling's mother saw Fan Wei's honesty and loyalty, she thought he was reliable and suggested that her daughter try it first.
Seeing hope, I took Yang's mother's words as an arrow, chased them for two years, and finally caught up with them. On April 1990, 10, they entered the marriage hall hand in hand.
After his bachelor life, Fan Wei felt uncomfortable. His new wife, Yang Baoling, often indoctrinates him with the theory that "bacteria and germs have no eyes", and always supervises and interferes with him everywhere: don't hold the stairs when going downstairs; Stop him from touching handrails and seats when taking the bus; Urge him to wash his hands with detergent and warm water every day before and after meals; Let him shave every day; Help him cut his nails every week; Drag him to the barber shop every month. ...
After getting married, Fan Wei is expecting his wife to give birth to a child. Yang Baoling told him to wait patiently because he hasn't reached the best childbearing age.
With the increasing popularity of Fan Wei, I have to smoke a cigarette, drink a few mouthfuls of wine, and go to dinner with friends in my circle. Yang Baoling solemnly told him that people who drink too much are much more likely to suffer from fatty liver and alcoholic hepatitis; People who are heavy smokers will blacken their lungs, which is easy to induce diseases such as bronchitis.
Therefore, Fan Wei had to accept the smoking ban and alcohol ban issued by his wife and try to go home after work. Yang Baoling was relieved by her husband's gratifying change. She smiled and revealed a secret: "If you don't smoke or drink, I will give you a healthy and lovely baby. You got it? This is called eugenics ... "
1At the end of 992, my son Fan was born. What impressed Fan Wei was that Yang Baoling not only made many rules of life for him, but also made professional rules for him.
1993, Fan Wei and Zhao Benshan cooperated for the first time in the essay "Walking Mao Dao", which was a great success in Liaoning Art Festival. Two years later, the golden couple took to the stage of CCTV Spring Festival Gala for the first time and performed the sketch Uncle Niu together. Fan Wei is complacent about this: "I grew up in a boudoir and became famous in one fell swoop ..."
Yang Baoling reminded him: "Don't be proud. You are still a supporting role, or a green leaf. You should learn from Big Brother Benshan, who is an insurmountable mountain for you, and this mountain is rising every day. "
The road to cure social phobia is getting wider and wider.
200 1 CCTV Spring Festival Evening, Fan Wei and Yue Benshan performed the sketch Kidnapper together. The media generally believe that Fan Wei's role as a "cook" has surpassed that of "Doctor Zhao", which means that Fan Wei is ready to go and has overwhelmed Zhao Benshan in momentum. Yang Baoling reminded her husband: "Don't forget your roots, you must remember where you came from."
After Fan Wei became famous, he often ran around with Zhao Benshan, and it was inevitable to socialize. Zhao Benshan is a generous northeast man, who is good at practicing his fists, drinking and chatting, while Fan Wei doesn't want to go to the table, so he sits in the corner, afraid to raise a glass.
Fan Wei is often invited to attend press conferences. When he saw so many strangers, he felt his heart pounding. On such occasions, he regarded Zhao Benshan as his patron. Seeing his serious and timid expression, Zhao Benshan asked him why he was so nervous. Fan Wei sighed and said, "I have been unable to change this problem for many years." "Hard to change also have to change. If you want to do great things, you have to be bold and cautious. What can I do after looking forward? " Zhao Benshan hesitated for a moment, then said, "I told your daughter-in-law to help you change it!" " Anxiously stammered: "Zhao, Miss Zhao, you, don't, don't, she said it." Zhao Benshan asked him why, but he finally stopped stuttering and said, "I'm afraid of my wife." "Why are you afraid?" "If she is right, I have to obey."
Hearing this, the Zhao Benshan was overjoyed. He patted Fan Wei on the shoulder and said, "What's so terrible about this? This is called love and being loved. Your boy, such a good daughter-in-law, can be my master. "
Soon, Zhao Benshan solemnly told Yang Baoling about Fan Wei's abnormal "performance". Only then did she realize the seriousness of the problem. Yang Baoling looked up relevant information and consulted some doctors, and found that her husband suffered from typical "social phobia". How did the husband get this mental illness? After careful analysis, she came to a conclusion: "Fan Wei was autistic and introverted since childhood. Although he is engaged in cross talk and sketch performance when he grows up, he is not the kind of person who is explicit. Over time, these negative psychological factors have accumulated into' social phobia'. "
In view of Fan Wei's difficulty in stretching in front of strangers, Yang Baoling took the following measures: as long as he has time, he will take Fan Wei to crowded places and smile at passers-by; Introduce Fan Wei to his girlfriend, let him integrate into his circle of friends, and encourage her husband to communicate with them more; Invite relatives to simulate the complex social environment at home and ask Fan Wei to be more open in front of the stage and behind the scenes; I often give Fan Wei strong psychological hints, such as "I'm the best", "I'm naturally useful" and "I'm excellent in everything except cross talk, skits and TV plays".
Yang Baoling also took Fan Wei to see a psychiatrist. Psychologists have adopted effective treatments for his symptoms, such as hypnotherapy, situational therapy and cognitive therapy. After six months of consolidation training, Fan Wei finally got out of the shadow of social phobia.
In April, 20001year, Fan Wei took over the youth idol movie "Subway to Spring" and played the role of "Cook". After the film was released, Fan Wei took his wife to the cinema to enjoy it. Looking at it, he felt that something was wrong with his performance, but he couldn't find anything wrong. When he got home, he asked his wife, "How did I play?" Said, "It's natural for you to see people talking, and your voice is wrong ..." Fan Wei suddenly realized that he didn't control himself enough.
After The Subway to Spring, Fan Wei went further and further on the film road. Xiaogang Feng, a famous director, invited him to play the role of bandit in New Year's Eve movies "Mobile Phone" and "world without thieves". Although there are only lines such as "Big Brother, wait a minute, I want to rob you" and "IC, IP, IQ card, all tell me the password", Fan Wei performed very brilliantly, and Xiaogang Feng praised him: "He deserves to be a master of comedy and gave a complete performance to the bandits."
Stay away from gossip, and I'm afraid my wife won't be confused.
Fan Wei became famous. At this time, some female fans winked at Fan Wei. He said with a straight face, "I'm sorry, I'm afraid of my wife." The other party said, "What? Are you still married? You are not a bachelor? " He said, "I will never get divorced, let alone pretend to be a bachelor." In order to refuse these fans, Fan Wei friends helped to make a recent photo of a family of three into a small pendant, carry it with them, and take it out for "demonstration" when necessary.
After the Spring Festival in 2005, Fan Wei was invited by the producer of the film "Journey of Incense" to play the role of "Lao Cui", a model worker with impotence, opposite Zhang Jingchu. In order to play the role of Lao Cui well, he faces two major problems: one is how to lose weight urgently, and the other is how he can get through this hurdle, who has never played a passionate drama.
Yang Baoling supported Fan Wei's "Fragrance Tour". In order to lose weight for her husband, she went to the bookstore to buy some weight-loss books.
After two or three months' efforts, Fan Wei's weight reached the producer's requirements, from 164 kg to 148 kg.
How to make Wei Fan play a good passionate play? In addition to enlightening her husband in language, Yang Baoling also went to the audio-visual products store to buy a large number of DVDs, watched them with her husband, pondered the passionate drama, and gradually realized the "doorway".
In April 2005, Fan Wei flew to Yunnan-Guizhou Plateau to shoot "Journey of Incense". Because he was well prepared, he was in good shape and made two passionate scenes vividly.
Following the success of the Fragrant Journey, Fan Wei played a sad role in the movie July of Car Watchers. The first time he played the leading role, he won the 1 1 Best Actor Award at the College Film Festival and the Montreal Film Festival in Canada.
In August 2005, Fan Wei was successfully transferred to China Coal Mine Art Troupe and became a first-class actor. Later, he transferred his son Fan to Tsinghua High School in Haidian District. He bought a new house of more than 200 square meters near the school and asked his wife to quit her job as a nurse and stay at home as a full-time wife. After settling down at home, Fan Wei suddenly received many theater appointments, some of which could not be shirked. He runs around every day. Yang Baoling loves her husband very much and often advises him to have a rest. Fan Wei insisted that he could cope with the situation. Yang Baoling first lit a fire for him, and then enlightened him and said, "Small water flows forever. You have to work hard to recuperate your body better, and you can still act at the age of 70 ... "
In the second half of 2005, Fan Wei asked Zhao Benshan for a long vacation, saying that he could not cooperate with him to attend the 2006 Spring Festival Gala. Knowing that Fan Wei was in a sub-health state, Zhao Benshan finally agreed.
After the Spring Festival in 2006, at the suggestion of his wife, Fan Wei made a plan for herself: only work for half a year, shoot two or three plays that can surpass her, and enjoy the rest of the time.