Last spring, a movie "Ode to Joy" set off a nationwide drama-chasing tide. The story of five girls who lived on the 22nd floor of a high-rise building in Shanghai made everyone talk about it, among which the most controversial one was Fan, an older woman.
Some people say that Fan is too realistic and always wants to find a family with a car and a house in Shanghai by virtue of her beautiful appearance. Some people say that Fan is too poor, and her parents prefer sons to daughters, squeezing her to subsidize her younger brother and making her work for many years without any savings.
When I was following the drama, Mei Sheng, a fan, was my most concerned person. In the play, bugs are ruthless and quiet, Qu Xiaoyu is a ghost horse spirit, and Andy is in charge of life. Every girl has her own personality and wonderful life. Only Fan can't have his own personality and be dragged down by his family.
Now, the second part of Ode to Joy has begun to broadcast two episodes every night. Although I have a lot of things to do at work and take care of the children when I go home, it doesn't prevent me from squeezing out the time to go to the bathroom to catch up with the drama.
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In the play, Fan is a human resources director of the company in his thirties. She is an older woman in terms of age and an old employee with little room for promotion in terms of work experience. According to the general situation, even if Fan, who has worked for many years, can't buy a house or a car in Shanghai, he must at least have enough food and clothing, and there is still a small amount of savings in his hand.
But why can't Fan Meisheng, who has worked for many years, get the money? The reason is that she has a bottomless family. In this family, parents who prefer boys to girls regard Xiaomei as an ATM, not a daughter. It is not reliable to have a professional "derailed son". When you meet something, you know to ask your sister to give him money to solve it.
According to the general family situation, my brother is in trouble and should be helped by my sister. But why do I feel disgusted when I see Xiaomei's brother come up with all kinds of things to ask Xiaomei for help?
The reason is that this is not an ordinary family! The average family, at least the elder brother is reliable, but it is helpless when it comes to things. This elder brother is a professional troublemaker and deceives his parents and sisters. This brother thinks that no matter how big the trouble is, his sister will cover it!
Even if his sister is incompetent, he doesn't care, because he has an eccentric parent. My sister can't stand her parents' crying and can only help him.
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Whenever the camera switches to Xiaomei's mother's bitter gourd face, I feel stuffy in my chest, because the old woman who obviously can't carry it has to find another job for her daughter. "You are the only capable person in our family. If you don't help your brother, who will? " That makes people angry. He is Xiaomei's brother, so he must help?
More than ten episodes have been broadcast in the second season. When I caught up with the seventh episode, I saw Xiaomei's mother call Xiaomei again, saying that her brother and sister-in-law had been arrested for cracking down on pornography and illegal publications, and she came to Fan Meisheng to help get people out.
This is a couple who can't help the mud wall They don't work hard to make money, but they want to take crooked ways. Xiaomei's mother also brazenly accused Xiaomei of selling her house to her father for medical treatment, leaving her brother and sister-in-law with no home to return to. Should Xiaomei borrow money from others to fight against this huge pit?
Fortunately, Xiaomei experienced setbacks in the last play. After being enlightened by her good sisters, she knew that she couldn't throw herself into the pit and climb up. This time Xiaomei directly refused her mother's request, saying that she was unable to get her brother and sister-in-law, not to mention that they were adults, and they should take responsibility for their actions.
However, look at Xiaomei's mother crying and tell Xiaomei how pitiful her brother is. This woman only has her unworthy baby son in her heart, and she doesn't feel bad about her daughter who is working hard alone.
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Now, let's jump out of the plot to analyze, what can Xiaomei do to jump out of the mire of this family? In order to make your life no longer influenced by this family, after all, Xiaomei's boyfriend's mother has made it clear that she doesn't want her son to marry a girl from a family like Fan. In the words of the prospective mother-in-law, "My son can't afford it!"
Some people may say that this prospective mother-in-law is too snobbish, only seeing the heavy burden of Xiaomei's family, but not seeing Xiaomei's beauty and personal ability. If you ask me, I am a prospective mother-in-law, and I will not allow my son to find a girl from such a family. The reason is that this home is a bottomless pit that will drag you into the abyss.
And if I stand from the perspective of Mei Sheng, my practice is the same as Xiaomei's, that is, I can listen to you cry, comfort you, and then let me borrow money everywhere to find someone to help. Forget it.
Everyone is an adult, and everyone is responsible for his own behavior. You shouldn't help you because you are related by blood. Don't say that Fan doesn't have this ability. Even if he did, he shouldn't help you.
Everyone has their own life, even brothers and sisters who used to be a family will get married when they grow up, so they should live their own lives instead of asking their brothers and sisters for help. This is not an adult's responsibility.
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Up to now, Xiaomei has been holding back her mother's crying and resolutely refused her mother's request. At this time, I will give Xiaomei a compliment in my heart. However, I'm a little scared. With the development of the plot, what should Xiaomei do if she can't carry it anymore? I really don't want Xiaomei to be a "steamed stuffed bun" anymore.
Some people who attach great importance to family may say, did Fan just watch his brother go to jail and refuse to help him? I said yes, going to jail is also Xiaomei's own business. Xiaomei didn't let him do these illegal things. Since he can do it, he will have to bear the consequences.
Only in this way can Xiaomei's brother realize that his sister is not omnipotent and can't give him the bottom of his life. He will consider the consequences before doing something and know that he is responsible for his own life. In fact, this sentence applies to each of us, that is, only you are the master of your own life, and others have no obligation and responsibility to shelter you from the wind and rain, even brothers and sisters.
Now, Xiaomei's biggest pressure is her mother's confusion. She can treat her mother with only one action, but she will never agree. No matter what kind of request, as long as it is about asking for money and connections, her mother knows that she can't expect her daughter to "wipe her ass" for her son.
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Among the five girls in this play, Fan Meisheng is the one I feel most distressed about. The other four girls have no family troubles and can pursue the life they want. Only Xiaomei's family dragged a beautiful girl into an older woman.
I hope that in the second part, Fan Neng will always stick to the bottom line, that is, resolutely refuse her mother's unreasonable request and never help her unworthy brother. I think Xiaomei's life will get better and better.