Introduction: At a time when it is so common for college students to live together, it is important for every college student to correctly understand the pros and cons of cohabitation to protect themselves. Let’s briefly analyze it below.

1/4 of the students in a class live together

Contemporary college students are becoming more and more open-minded, which has basically become the "*** consciousness" of today's society. Recently, a survey in Guangdong Province showed that 48% of college students approved of "premarital sex between lovers." A sample survey of college students' sexual attitudes conducted by several universities in South China showed that nearly 40% of college students do not mind whether their partner is a virgin (or a virgin).

Recently, a reporter from "Life Times" visited and found that college students' sexual concepts are becoming increasingly open, which can be seen through the "facilities" around the school. Donghu New Village is a large-scale urban village in Wuhan. One entrance of the village is completely connected to the campus of a famous university in Wuhan. The villagers have built self-built buildings of different heights. They are not only for the villagers to live in, they also carry another important "function". Whenever night falls, many college students and couples walk in groups to Donghu New Village after classes. , they usually have dinner at a small restaurant in the village, and then walk side by side into a simple rental house to spend the night. Li Min (pseudonym), who is still in her junior year of college, is a member of the off-campus renting group. She initially wanted to rent a house by herself to study for the postgraduate entrance examination so that she could study late at night. Then her boyfriend proposed living together, saying that they could take care of each other and share the rent, so she agreed. Li Min did not tell her parents about this "cohabitation life". "About a quarter of the students in our class live outside." Li Min said that they do not think living together is a strange thing, and many people are accustomed to it.

Although the phenomenon is very common, I still want to kindly remind you of the pros and cons of living together in a college love relationship!

The disadvantages of college students living together

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As adults, college students have the right to love, but they must know that cohabitation is not protected by law. Various disputes and property losses that occur during cohabitation will not be protected. , although cohabitation has become common, it is still not something that can be deeply rooted in the hearts of the people and be truly understood and accepted by the whole people.

Increase your own consumption

College students living together will put a lot of financial pressure on both parties. They need to have a romantic birthday, go on a date, eat, watch movies, etc. If you do a lot of things, your consumption will naturally increase. The increased consumption can only be solved by yourself, which adds a little psychological burden to each of you. You are a sensible person who does not want to reach out to your parents. Different consumption values ????will lead to various conflicts. Once again, it brings psychological troubles, and living together brings disaster.

Vulnerable to infectious diseases

Two people living together do not know how to undergo physical examinations. During the process of living together, they do not pay attention to protecting themselves and fail to maintain personal hygiene and strict requirements on themselves. , it may bring unexpected infectious diseases to the other party and increase the risk of contracting the disease. You still need to pay attention to these issues when living together. It is not a child's play. Both parties must be responsible for each other's body and life.

Worry about pregnancy

During the process of cohabitation, you must pay attention to contraception at all times. Cohabitation brings sweetness and enjoys love, but it also brings a little worry to women. For fear of pregnancy, the boyfriend will Understand this, you still need to care about girls and take contraceptive measures. After all, it is not about the time and period of the baby, and you have no ability to make the other party and the child happy. If you accidentally get pregnant, it will be another blow to the body and soul. Huge damage.

Impact on schoolwork and studies

College students living together will affect their schoolwork and studies to a certain extent, and will distract and consume a lot of their study time and energy. College students still have to Those who focus on academics, especially when you are in your senior year, are faced with employment and internships, and you need to learn with real talents. If you have real abilities and abilities, you still need to improve your knowledge and abilities in school. This is the real thing and also Things college students should do.

Causing psychological harm

Living together among college students does not mean that they will enter the palace of marriage. Many of them are beautiful first loves, and they put their emotions into this love. But eventually breaking up will cause huge psychological damage to each other, and it will take a long, long time to cast the shadow of feelings. If betrayal is encountered, the consequences will be even more serious. You may even no longer believe in love. You must be cautious when living together. Think twice about breaking up.

Impact on future marriage

When college students live together, after breaking up, the relationship will be deeply imprinted in their minds and will not go away. It is better to break up peacefully. A hurtful breakup will have some bad effects on future marriages and relationships. You can only bury it deep in your heart alone, never mention it again, and bear it silently. You should be more cautious when living together, and you must know that there are dangers in living together. It's not only sweet but also responsible.

The benefits of college students living together

Satisfying each other’s emotional needs

A physiologically normal person has the right to pursue normal emotional needs. This kind of satisfaction is complementary. Each takes what he needs, each takes what he wants, complements each other, and is mutually beneficial.

Satisfy each other’s psychological needs

Everyone has different life pressures, and everyone is looking for ways to relieve stress. In cohabitation, couples can encourage each other , suggest each other, support each other, why not?

Satisfy each other’s material needs

There are even financial disputes between classmates and friends, such as borrowing and repaying debts. Couples mean learning to be correct When dealing with the subtle relationship between money and emotion, we should be aware of mutual dependence and mutual sharing of material things.

Each other meets the needs of social roles

Cohabitation represents the disclosure of each other’s privacy, represents mutual trust, represents mutual adjustment and adaptation, and represents the role of husband and wife in life. This kind of The couple's behavior of trial marriage will help them adapt to their roles in society in the future.

Satisfy each other’s emotional sustenance needs

In the right society, the right temperature, the flowers of love bloom properly, warming each other, comforting each other, and just seeking comfort.

Satisfy each other’s vanity needs

Women are born with vanity, and men are not the same. Who is not tempted when seeing other people kissing each other? Who is not envious? Not jealous? Living together in college reflects the trend of the times and is indifferent to anyone's accusations and ridicules, because this is an inevitable product of the openness of social evolution.

What are the hidden dangers of cohabitation? The cost of cohabitation for women is higher than that of men

1. Social and cultural costs

At present, the society may be tolerant of cohabitation, but Tolerance does not mean affirmation. From ancient times to the present, if men fall in love and live together and break up again and again, they will be called "romantic talents" and "romantic and suave". Such experiences in men's mouths have also become their capital to show off.

The same situation is disgraceful for women. Women are often considered "watery" and "wasted flowers."

Many people believe that as long as they think they are not at a disadvantage, the opinions of the outside world are not important. However, social culture is tolerant of men's romantic affairs, but very demanding of women. When women fall in love again or enter into marriage, they have to bear much more public opinion than men. It's not fair, but it's the reality, and it can't be changed at least for now.

2. Physiological costs

Women age earlier than men, and their physical functions begin to decline at the age of 25. After living together for a few years, the woman has grown old, the man is still young and his career is on the rise, but the two parties may not be able to get married.

3. Physical health costs

The physical characteristics of men and women determine that women are susceptible to gynecological diseases and other diseases after living together. If you become pregnant accidentally, it will cause great damage to a woman's health, and if it is not handled properly, it can easily leave sequelae. The risks of pregnancy are almost entirely borne by women.

4. Economic cost

When in love, most men will take the initiative to pay the bill. Of course, the AA system is also a very reasonable and fashionable way. Once they live together, the two parties transform into an awkward relationship that is neither a love nor a marriage. It lacks the romance of love but adds more financial burdens.

5. Psychological cost

After living together, men’s psychological confidence is overwhelming, because they know better how to please and deal with women, and they have more experience with women; but if love fails after living together, women It usually leaves a psychological shadow, makes you less and less confident, and is more inclined to get married than enjoy love when dealing with the next relationship. Therefore, women should think carefully before choosing to live together before marriage.

Seven Reasons Why You Can’t Live Together Before Marriage

1. The ugly reality of cohabitation relationships

Compared with married couples, it is not difficult to find that unmarried couples quarrel more More often, they have difficulty resolving conflicts, are more insecure about their significant other, and have more disagreements about issues related to future goals.

2. Inertia Effect

Once two people live together, the greater investment in each other makes it more difficult for them to separate. This is the famous inertia effect. But that's part of the problem, it forces less healthy people to be more committed to their significant other and enters a vicious cycle.

3. Accelerate the progress of marriage

At least one party will exert tremendous pressure to accelerate the progress of marriage. Living together is considered a precursor to marriage, in part because of getting too used to each other. Still, if one party isn't ready, the relationship comes with a heavy price to pay.

4. Different lifestyles come into play

When two people do not live together, uniqueness is the reason why you like each other. But suddenly you need to deal with her explosive early morning temper tantrums, or his poor hygiene. These differences lead to huge, crazy fights.

5. The sense of dependence is strengthened

After living together, people get used to the existence of their significant other. Even if you have a happy sex life, overindulgence can be harmful to your relationship and your health.

When people begin to place higher expectations on their partner, the increasing sense of dependence creates conditions for more quarrels.

6. The charm of sex disappears

When two people are in love, as their sex life becomes more and more beautiful, they will have a strong chemical reaction with each other. But once two people live together, sex becomes no priority, because you know that you two can sleep together tomorrow night, the night after tomorrow, and the night after tomorrow...

7. The mystery disappears

Once you live together, the wonderful mystery you have about your significant other will quickly disappear. When a man walks out of the toilet comfortably after drinking his first cup of coffee, he may see you without makeup and slovenly, looking like a ghost. This will affect the image of women and make men feel bad about women. Mysterious fantasies disappeared.

The same thing happens after marriage, but somehow, the so-called commitments of living together are never enough to bear all the good, bad, and even ugly aspects.