In this program, a teenager openly talks about his mother. Teenagers have been living in the world of "our family is poor" woven by their mothers.
Mother told the boy from an early age that the family was poor and the economic conditions were not good. Every time I want to buy something, my mother always objects without hesitation. Even if I want to buy a lot of things, my mother will dress that boy up first.
Boys are also convinced of this and are very sensible. However, with the growth of children, I gradually found that my family was not as poor as my mother said. On the contrary, the conditions are quite good. Dad eats and drinks well, and mom does beauty salons and spas. The whole family lived a hard life alone.
The boy vomited on the stage and asked his mother, "Is there a son like you?" ? Why pretend to be poor? It's hard to cheat me for so long! "
My mother stood under the stage and said with a smile, I inherited your grandmother's education method. Your grandmother often teaches me that "money should be spent on the blade, not on the back of the knife".
Many parents, like this teenager's mother, want to let their children know that life is not easy by pretending to be poor and hiding wealth, hoping that their children can make progress. It is understandable that parents want their children to succeed, but is it really necessary to educate their children by pretending to be poor?
Why do some parents always pretend to be poor and hide their wealth from their children when educating them? Is such behavior more beneficial than harmful or harmful than beneficial? Should parents pretend to be poor?
Some people think that it is necessary for parents to pretend to be poor when educating their children, which can not only serve as a driving force for their children to work hard, but also let them know to cherish, not to waste and not to squander.
Pretending to be poor can prevent children from indulging in money, playing with things and affecting their lives to a great extent. Children will understand their parents' good intentions when they grow up. It is better to teach people to fish than to teach people to fish, and to give children a rich life is better than to give them the ability to live a rich life.
And now many families are very fond of their children, and they have developed the bad habit of reaching for their clothes to eat. Indulge children without a bottom line and constantly meet their unreasonable demands.
This is also the reason why many children don't know how to be filial to their parents, grateful, thrifty and extravagant, and become "giant babies", "baiwenhang" and "neet people" when they grow up. Everything stems from the failure of parental education!
Therefore, parents should instill in their children the idea that they should spend their own money and live a good life. Develop children's good habits of diligence and thrift; Pretend to be poor and prevent children from becoming enterprising because of their desire for ease and enjoyment.
It is often said that no matter how hard you suffer, you can't suffer children, and no matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education. This is more practical for some people from poor families or ordinary families. For those who are richer at home, we should seriously consider this sentence.
Besides pretending to be poor, you should also pretend to be stupid, sick and weak. It is conducive to cultivating children's independent learning ability and independent ability, so that children can learn to be grateful to their parents, love their parents and take care of them.
Others think that parents don't have to pretend to be poor, and what their children can grow up is closely related to their parents' educational methods. Whether poor or rich, family education is the most important. Many children from poor families are unsuccessful, and many children from rich families are successful.
Being rich is not a bad thing. Children can get a better education and have more learning resources. Parents should make rational use of it as a kind of help, instead of treating money as an imaginary enemy and a "roadblock" on the road to success.
No matter what the family's economic conditions are, parents should not spoil or spoil their children. Don't do everything, let children do what they can from an early age and cultivate their independent ability; Let the children experience it personally and taste the pain of childbirth; Don't be a child's umbrella, let the child taste the pain of failure.
In short, let children be strong and independent, know how to stand on their own feet, and jump out of the circle of doting and pampering. Family education has nothing to do with economic ability. Parents should stop pretending to be poor, don't make their children feel inferior, and don't use "cheating" to educate their children.
To know that poverty is not terrible, what is terrible is to make children feel poor, make them feel inferior and ashamed, and affect their lives.
The biggest and most direct impact of pretending to be poor education is to make children afraid to spend money and make them feel self-limited and poor. Excessive frugality in life has become stingy and formed a habit.
The small family instilled in him the idea of poverty at home from an early age, hoping that his children would become excellent and know how to be thrifty. Little boy did the same thing. Growing up, he carefully calculated every penny and thought twice before buying anything.
In order to save money, I seldom eat with my classmates, and my popularity is getting worse and worse over time. In my heart, I always feel inferior, very inferior. But at the same time, I lived up to expectations. I was admitted to a good school and found a good job after graduation.
Although I already know the situation at home and I have become rich, the poverty engraved in my bones will never change. I still live a frugal life as before, reluctant to spend, and save money.
Seeing beautiful clothes, I feel that I don't deserve to wear such expensive clothes, and seeing the sky-high bride price of others, I feel that I am not suitable for marriage. No matter when and where, there will always be a sense of inferiority that you are not as good as money.
Another pair of parents began to hide wealth from the people in order to let their daughter study hard and become a talent as soon as possible. I moved from my old big house to a shabby little house, and then told my daughter that her family was bankrupt and comforted her that she would make good money and let her children live in the big house.
In the face of her daughter's crying, the mother also squeezed out a few tears at the right time. Changes in the family have made her daughter more sensible and her academic performance has been continuously improved. But because many things are laughed at by classmates, I feel inferior and humiliated.
Children want to change the status quo and study harder. Once she got the first place in the grade, and her father wanted to reward her. Her daughter felt that her family was poor and should not spend money indiscriminately, so she refused. Although the grades are getting better and better, there is no joy and happiness in the child's heart.
After an exam failure, children become more and more anxious, afraid of failing in the exam, sorry for their parents. Finally, under the pressure of parents, I collapsed and had mental problems. Parents also regret it and bluntly hurt their daughter.
Experts believe that pretending to be poor will bring many adverse effects to children, and this behavior is likely to leave a psychological shadow on children!
Conclusion: Good education does not take crying or pretending to be poor as the pressure and motivation for children to move forward. Instead, it helps children to establish correct three views and cultivate good quality and character through appropriate and correct methods. Let children understand the meaning of life and realize their own life value.
Smart parents will not pretend to be poor; Will not lose the armor to protect children, will not be willing to let their children become stingy; Will not be willing to let children give birth to an inferiority complex that is not as good as money!