Pan Yao's wedding dates are mostly after the autumn harvest and before the Spring Festival, which can be divided into "marrying a woman" and "marrying a husband". Before a formal wedding, you must go through the process of choosing a spouse, proposing marriage and getting engaged. At the wedding banquet, there are three "regular drinks" and six "partial drinks" (breakfast and midnight snack). On the morning of the fourth day, when the guests left, the men each sent a "nipple gift" (also called Xiao Yuan gift), that is, eight to nine kilograms of sow legs and four to five kilograms of other pork to their father-in-law. On the fourth or fifth day, the husband and wife went back to the door for one night and went back to the rear to consummate their marriage.
Yao people pay great attention to etiquette, and there are many etiquette taboos in daily life. When you meet on the road, whether you know them or not, you should greet them warmly, otherwise it will be regarded as impolite. Laundry balls can't be used to wash feet on weekdays. Avoid eating and using chopsticks. Clothes and trousers that are forbidden to dry at home. No spitting in the house. Don't kill pigs on pig day, don't kill chickens on chicken day, and cows don't buy and sell horses and cattle immediately. When guests arrive home, they must greet the housewife first, so that the host will be happy, otherwise it will be considered arrogant and rude.