Confinement is our tradition and it is really necessary. If you don't do it well, you will really leave a lot of moon sickness, so at least one person will help you and take care of you and your baby. And we women get married and have children at in-laws' houses, most of whom are mothers-in-law. Of course, if it is convenient for our parents, so much the better. After all, we will take care of them more attentively.
Postpartum women are full of blood stasis and deficiency, and boils are wide open. Dampness is easy to invade, and involvement can easily lead to sequelae such as arm, back pain and so on. So pay attention to keep warm and have more rest. Mother-in-law can help you cook and look after your baby, so you can have more rest, especially a few days ago.
Secondly, the diet in the second month is very important, and the postpartum body is very weak, which needs to be supplemented slowly and step by step. For example, the first week is based on a light diet, nourishing the stomach, discharging lochia in the second week, and starting tonic and lactation in the third and fourth weeks. It's also good that your mother-in-law can help you cook.
In short, it is necessary to have a mother-in-law at this time. Of course, if people don't want to, you should also ask a month-old or an hourly worker to help you. After all, your health is the most important thing, confinement is a woman's second rebirth.
From my male point of view, I agree with both hands to ask for a new moon and send it to the moon center. In the worst case, the old woman has to take care of the new moon. I still have some experience.
Even after a month, please take the new moon to the center. The worst case is that the old woman will take care of the new moon.
Let me talk about my feelings first. In the second month, my wife was very sensitive, had a lot of things to do, and her mood was very unstable. Fortunately, the mother's adult is more enlightened and sent directly to the month center. Even in the month center, the daughter-in-law felt a little unhappy in the first two weeks when the mother came to visit. Yes, her daughter-in-law will remember it now. . .
Let's talk about the reasons for my analysis afterwards. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled well because of our master, although it must be a little worse. As a mother, I feel sorry for my son. My mother said in front of relatives: how can a daughter-in-law let her son work, and she can't do it herself? In fact, I want to tell my mother that I am very direct, because my mother will never be really angry with us.
I said: don't give your sons such words and impressions of accusing their daughters-in-law. The daughter-in-law was chosen by their son. It's hard to say to do it because it's bitter. Think about whether fathers and adults are the same. Are dad and adults also doing the heaviest and most tiring work at home? At this stage, the heaviest and most tiring job for a son is to serve his daughter-in-law and your eldest baby!
From pregnancy to raising a baby, it is the progress of two people, the progress of the whole big family or even three small families, and everyone needs to grow up. I think what the mother needs to do most at this stage is how to keep the young couple alive. I hope you can help me if you have the ability. If you have spare money, give it to the eldest baby and give it to the daughter-in-law. If you want to learn new knowledge about baby care, you should surf the Internet more. For example, since everyone has decided to set up an app to feed babies scientifically.
Attached is an app installed by our whole family: Baby Pomelo.
From the perspective of my mother-in-law, let me talk about my daughter-in-law's confinement. After the daughter-in-law got pregnant, the whole family was very happy. Half a year in advance, I asked my son and daughter-in-law for advice many times, whether to find a new moon or go to the moon center.
My son and daughter-in-law have repeatedly discussed that they want to go to the Confucius Center for a month. I also respect the children's opinions. My son and daughter-in-law and I visited several Confucius Center, and finally chose a mid-range Confucius Center in Jinshui District of Zhengzhou City.
In 20 18, the monthly average cost of this month center is about 3.8W, which I am obliged to pay as a mother-in-law.
The catering in Confucius Center is very rich, which is mainly divided into four stages. Eat different foods according to needs at each stage, 5-6 meals a day. Fresh organic ingredients are purchased on the same day and made by chefs in star-rated hotels.
On the third day after my grandson was born, my daughter-in-law entered this month center. I took a special leave of absence for a month to accompany my daughter-in-law to confinement.
In Zhengzhou Confucius Center, where the daughter-in-law stays, everyone's room will have their own life housekeeper, and all the sanitation in the room will be cleaned by the housekeeper.
For example, the sheets in the room should be changed every day, the clothes of mother and baby will be washed by an independent washing machine, and the life housekeeper is responsible for cleaning and drying.
There are also different services in the Confucius Center, and there will be one-on-one services from different restorers, such as beauty, shaping, Chinese medicine conditioning, breast enhancement and other projects.
Nurses will also guide mothers hand in hand and learn some parenting skills, such as what posture to take when feeding, how to burp after feeding, and so on.
Chatting with my daughter-in-law every day at the Yuezi Center. I hardly have to do anything else. Children nurse, change diapers, take a bath, bask in the sun and take their temperature. Someone is in charge every day.
Daughter-in-law will also regularly carry out postpartum recovery exercise. As long as there is a need, the daughter-in-law will ring the bell, and the life housekeeper will come to help at the first time.
If my daughter-in-law and baby have other things they need, but the center doesn't provide them, I will often go to the baby store to buy them.
I was really relaxed in the month when my daughter-in-law went to the Confucius Center. I eat with my family and walk around every day to see if the Confucius Center needs help, and help the life manager to deal with it.
I think families in different situations should be treated differently. Families with financial strength can go to the Confucius Center or find a new moon.
Families with poor economic conditions must work hard for their mother-in-law. Anyway, the daughter-in-law will understand what to do for her family, as long as she tries her best.
Thank you for your support! I'm not in charge of the Confucius Center, and I'm not in advertising. I'm just a mother-in-law's personal experience and experience. I do not like it!
The daughter-in-law gave birth to a fat boy safely, and everyone was very happy. The son said that his daughter-in-law gave 10 thousand, which meant that grandma also gave 10 thousand.
Grandma didn't intend to ask Yueyue to wait on her daughter-in-law, but her son and daughter-in-law didn't want to, so she gave up the idea and let them go.
The experienced grandmother told her sisters that your son and daughter-in-law want to have a baby, so leave it alone after paying the money. It's best not to visit your son's grandson every once in a while. Don't stay out of it. Since you spend money on services, don't think of yourself as a new moon and nanny.
Now that I think about it, the mistake is that I invited Yue Yue, and I was still busy there, and then I lost my message. My daughter-in-law said that her mother-in-law only asked Yue Yue to cook her favorite meal.
Living together, my mother-in-law buys food and drinks and cooks several meals every time. After a month, it will be thousands, and the monthly retirement salary will be less than 3,000. It cost more than 10 thousand to give birth to a baby, and it was sued by the daughter-in-law
Now that I think about it, there is really no distance, no suitable boundary, and it is high time to retire. I shouldn't live there, work hard and spend money. .
At the beginning, I should have given the money and left. I missed my grandson and went to see it every once in a while. Everyone was polite, untouched and peaceful.
I'm just waiting for my daughter-in-law to take a confinement, so I'll share my feelings:
The first task: buy food and cook, eat more meals a day: because there are nursing children, cooking soup every day is a compulsory course. I often make: pig's trotters and soybean soup, ribs and corn soup, beef and radish soup, donkey meat and potato soup, pigeon soup and chicken soup, and then mix them with meat and vegetables. Every lunch has at least four dishes, which is the most abundant, and other meals are relatively simple;
The second is daily life:
Cleaning, tidying up the room, buying all kinds of consumables except children (all children are handled by daughter-in-law, so as not to waste brand selection);
Help look after the children:
When the daughter-in-law needs a rest, when the child is crying badly, and when the child is full and playing, the daughter-in-law helps to watch the food, but she is more involved in the parenting process of the second child, because now young people are parenting according to the tutorial, which is different from the experience of the elderly. If they participate more, it is easy to have conflicts.
In short, do your own thing well, participate less in parenting experience and guidance, maintain a certain sense of distance and boundaries, so that everyone has no pressure, relaxed and happy, and a month will soon pass!
Mother-in-law has no responsibility, as long as she doesn't do anything strange, it's best for her. Her only responsibility lies with her husband.
If conditions permit, if you have a good mother-in-law, she will cook for you, make soup for you every day, change diapers and take a bath for your baby. After all, mother has just given birth to a weak child, and she must be helped. Therefore, it is relatively necessary to say whether the mother-in-law has this accusation, because it has been like this since ancient times. Mother-in-law is good to you, and you will be good to her. These are mutual. I really don't think it makes sense if your daughter-in-law marries your family and gives birth to a child and you don't become a mother-in-law. You don't have to be forced to serve unless you have special circumstances. You still have to do what you can. After all, your daughter-in-law will take care of the old woman in the future, but I don't feel obligated to take care of the baby after it is born. The baby is your own. After the baby is born, it is better to take care of the baby yourself!
Daughter-in-law will go to Yuezi Center if she has money! If you have no money, you can wait on your parents! It's simple! Don't always embarrass your mother-in-law! What is the mother-in-law's duty?
My confinement happened during Mr. Sun's summer vacation. Except that my mother-in-law came to help me the other day, Mr. Sun has been waiting on me. I have no pain in giving birth, and it is natural and quick. It starts at 6: 30, and regular pains begin at 7: 30. At 9: 25, the baby was born and I went home early in the morning. The next day, I was alive and kicking in the field. Because it is summer, there are no restrictions on washing hair, bathing and brushing teeth. My mother-in-law won't come again next month. On the first day, she let me eat meat, which was very thick. The result was about 15 days, and I suddenly lost my appetite and couldn't eat anything. I'm so anxious that Mr. Sun racked his brains every day to find a way to let me have dinner. As soon as I sit down, I will return to my figure as a little girl. However, it seems that no one has ever hated the moon. Mother-in-law loves to serve the moon, and it is her duty not to serve. Didn't say whether she should or not. My child has no mother-in-law's surname. Why should she serve and take care of the children? I brought up my child, so she is very close to me. She has a good quality and a positive outlook on life. The sun is handsome, so I don't think my mother-in-law has any responsibility. What she wants to do is her right!