1. If you don't like me, please stay away from me.

Yang Mi once said such a passage, which I like very much:

"You can not like my personality and appearance. Never mind, but please don't tell me! I don't live as you like. Then please stay away from me, don't accuse me, and don't laugh at my shortcomings with your thoughts. "

Because I wasn't born to live for you.

Recommended books:

Pride and Prejudice

The courage to be hated

Don't think too much

Don't make unnecessary quarrels.

For a celebrant, the best revenge is not to turn against him directly, but to know how to ignore him. No matter what he says or does, you are indifferent and undisturbed. As long as you focus on the people and things you like, everything will become sunny.

Many things in life are inevitable. The more you argue about broken things, the more tired you will be. Many things are hard to understand. Everyone's cognitive level is different, and the three views are also different. No matter how long the dispute lasts, the result will be futile!

Recommended books:

No more quarrels

Non-violent communication

Weakness of human nature

A person's strength begins with knowing how to be silent.

3. Never debunk, but stay away.

I agree with one sentence: the best way for adults to end a relationship is not to quarrel and collapse, but to be silent and distant.

There is a line in the Japanese drama "Where is my skirt".

If you hate it, hate it. Stay away from people you hate. This is also the secret of enjoying a happy life. I wish you and I both have the courage to be hated, and I wish you and I both have the courage to end our interpersonal relationship.

All the reasons can't compare with the sentence "Whatever you want", and all the explanations can't compare with the sentence "Let it be". When you don't want to talk, keep silent. Don't waste your breath on someone who isn't worth it.

Recommended books:

Tan caigen

Night talk around the stove

Don't be too naive or too smart.

4. Strive for a better circle.

Read this passage:

"In this world, there are many bad people, terrible people, and people with abnormal views. We worked hard, but we gave ourselves a chance not to touch them. " Hate a person, the best way to fight back is to try to make yourself excellent.

Hegel once said: "If you concentrate on your career, you will forget a lot of troubles and find happiness in the process of hard work. People who work silently are actually smart people.

Recommended books:

Circle effect "

Non-curvilinear growth

Cognitive breakthrough

abnormal

You just grow up quietly, make yourself excellent, and the people around you will become excellent!

5. For people you don't like

You're welcome. Please don't mind.

Think of Mo Yan's words in How to Treat People Who Don't Like You: "A person who lives in this world with travel-stained dust should live for those who like him. This is the best attitude.

Don't throw happiness on someone who doesn't like you, and then forget happiness on someone who likes you. Life is not easy, don't let those who don't like you kill your life. The best way is nothing more than: you're welcome, please, don't care.

Recommended books:

To Kill a Mockingbird.

I hope I held back.

How to dislike a person?

6. Wherever you go.

The people who let you celebrate are basically the same. Even if you run away from someone, the kind of person you hate when you go to a new place will still appear in front of you ~

It's better to look down on annoying people than to look down on annoying people. In this case, instead of fighting with annoying people, it is better to learn to take the initiative, adapt to the environment and adapt to annoying people.

The so-called adaptation is "okay, I get it!" This is your personality. You can do whatever you like. I just need to be myself.

Recommended books:

Sweep the road

Second flowering

social psychology

7. Let go of other people's mistakes and liberate yourself.

Never argue with people at different levels. Not everyone deserves your explanation.

I remember a passage in "The Little Monk of Zen": I have been impressed so far: putting a candy in clear water will not be too sweet; But putting a spoonful of vinegar will be very sour. I won't be too happy when I find the money, but I will be annoyed when I lose it!

People can't be happy for a whole year because of a happy event, but they may be depressed for life because of a trauma. If a person falls into negative emotions for too long, it is easy to compete with himself, such as falling into a quagmire and being unable to extricate himself.

Recommended books:

Dull perception

Understand human nature

Put down the ruler in your heart