These days, he has been busy visiting relatives and friends, chatting with his parents and elders, and Doby's children and brothers and sisters have found the same topic again.
Year after year is always the same, urging marriage, toasting, embarrassed and speechless, but the heart that wants to go home has not changed. Even if the ticket is difficult to grab, it will take 1 1 hour to drive by car, but it is always worthwhile to get home.
Report good news without worrying, keep your promise and take the initiative to do topics you don't want to talk about; Become a 29-year-old Li Zhiyang's way of getting along with his parents and elders.
He said that every reunion is rare, and the people who can get together every year in the future may change, so we should cherish the New Year. Even if I am embarrassed occasionally, I still like a big family to be round and round.
Eating at a relative's house All the pictures in this article are provided by the interviewees.
The following is Li Zhiyang's dictation:
Arrive home at one o'clock in the morning on New Year's Eve. I didn't grab the ticket to go home at that time. It happened that a cousin in Shanghai was driving back to her hometown, so I followed the car. My home is in Zhoukou, Henan, and it takes 1 1 hour to drive back from Shanghai.
It's very cold these days during the Spring Festival. I often chat with my relatives from the second day of junior high school, and I can't get home until 90 pm.
Here, on the first day, I will visit the whole village and visit the nursing home for the New Year. This year is special. Some people are "Yang Guo", others are not "Yang Guo", and there are many old people in the village. Parents are not "yang" and dare not go out. Just as my younger brother came back from the first day, the family chattered at home and finished watching the unfinished Spring Festival Gala.
There is an old relative in the village. I call him third master. He was infected with COVID-19 virus several years ago and has been hospitalized in Zhengzhou. He didn't come back for the New Year, and the village was much more deserted. Because of his high qualifications, many people went to his home to pay New Year greetings in previous years. This year, there is no one at home and the doors are locked.
I went to my grandmother's house in the second day of junior high school. My aunt, second aunt and young aunt all want my mother to go. I don't think there is anything wrong with "over the sun". Later, all relatives went. Father is in poor health and dare not let him go.
On the third day, we don't visit relatives here, unless an old man dies and will leave, otherwise it is unlucky. So I saved it until the fourth day and went there four times a day. A big steamed stuffed bun will be sent to the official New Year greetings, and other gifts will also be brought, otherwise it may be a unique custom here to just chat.
Buy new year's goods
Visiting relatives is mainly about chatting with old people, children in Doby. The elders ask how the job is and when to get married, which is a question that some parents ask every year. There may be some changes in the problem, but the focus remains the same. Must be anxious to get married. Hurry up. I told you I would be quick. I have to deal with it every year anyway.
My parents used to chat with me in three sentences, "I am old enough to get married" and "Don't wait to get married first, get married first", that's all. I don't know how to ask questions now, because every time I ask, I can't get an answer.
It is necessary to propose a toast during the New Year. Neither my brother nor I can drink. Every time he drives on an excuse, he makes me drink. I don't like toasting. Sometimes drinking will make my heart beat faster, but it's not so disrespectful to replace wine with tea. That's what we think here. I'll just drink a little. My elders know I can't drink. Control the amount. The only uncomfortable thing is to meet an elder who is not familiar with me. I may have never met him. I have to make a toast at the dinner table. I don't know what to say, and some don't even know what to call. Awkward.
It will be much better between peers. On the second day of junior high school, a group of brothers and sisters gathered at grandma's house. It was a little difficult to talk at first, but chatting had the same topic. My cousin gave birth to five kittens in English, and I also keep cats in Shanghai. An English dwarf grew up, one and a half years old, and his personality was cold, so everyone began to talk.
We haven't communicated much this year. When we suddenly get together during the Spring Festival, there will definitely be a sense of alienation at first, especially for our younger generation, like my mother, who is always at home, so it is unlikely. However, it is meaningful to get together for the New Year. There is really no chance at ordinary times, sometimes it will be embarrassing, but we are still very happy to get together.
From college to work, I am far from home. I really want to go home every holiday. I feel too little at home and stay too short. This feeling has not changed.
I usually go home twice a year, Spring Festival and May Day or November Day. At home, I am lazy to do light work such as cleaning the table. But heavy work, climbing up and down, moving things, I am very active.
Eat jujube flowers during the Spring Festival.
Our family lives in a small two-story building built by ourselves in the countryside, with many doors and high doors. It is my job to post Spring Festival couplets on New Year's Eve. I posted them for two or three hours alone. I used to paint walls and repair wires at home when I went home.
Because of the sun and rain, some walls at home fell off, so I bought some white paint to paint the walls. It's not very technical, but it's very laborious, especially when the wall is very high. It's very slow and tiring to find a tool station that high, lift the paint up and smooth a large area of walls layer by layer. My parents will help a little, find a tool or something.
Before, the wires at home were aging, although they could be used, some patch panels were broken, and some air conditioners could not be pulled up because the wires were too thin. I rearranged all the wires in my home, designed in advance where to put the switches and patch panels at home, put a few wires with different heights and thicknesses, and planned every room. Then I bought wires, boxes, switches, patch panels and so on. And bought it and installed it manually for four or five days. No one else can take over, so I have to do it myself.
There are too few homes, so I feel that everything I can do for my parents is easy to do. Some are manual labor, and some are just minor problems. A few days ago, my mother's mobile phone couldn't connect to the Internet with Wi-Fi, and my father didn't fix it. Come back and have a look, and you will be fine if you restart your mobile phone.
My family get together, mainly to chat about the experiences of relatives and friends in recent years, my work plan, the problem of buying a house and so on. I usually report good news instead of bad news. I don't usually say anything if I don't encounter any big problems in my work and life. I don't think it's necessary. I don't want my parents to worry too much. If they report their worries, they will miss them all day.
However, I deal with my work on the first and second morning. My parents think I work too hard, so I should work overtime seriously. It is also very bitter at ordinary times. Go to work at 10 in the morning and get home at 1 1 in the evening. Sometimes I have to get up at night to solve problems. This is the most annoying thing. Therefore, in the new year, what I expect is a little less hard work, a little more effort, and good health for my parents.