This may be exaggerated, but luck is hard to find. It is not easy to meet the right person, but it is not impossible to create opportunities for yourself. If a woman wants to enter the right marriage, she must have keen judgment, a correct outlook on life and the courage to say "no".
One of my high school classmates, Damei, decided to break up after visiting her parents at her boyfriend's house for the first time. Even though she loves her boyfriend very much, Damei is still a sensible woman. She can't accept that her boyfriend's mother's three views are incompatible with herself, and even thinks that her boyfriend's family is very beautiful.
Damei is twenty-five years old and her family conditions are OK. In our country, it can also be called Bai Fumei. Her father is an architectural designer, often dressed as a worker and goes to the construction site all day, but it is said that his father has a considerable income and his mother is the head of a kindergarten. Damei's mother worked as a teacher in kindergarten when she was a child, and then she went out to work alone. Now that kindergarten has a good reputation.
Damei's mother is a very open-minded person, which may be related to work. Sometimes she and Damei are both naive. Damei was influenced by her mother since she was a child. She is careless and won't beat around the bush.
But Damei is not stupid. On the contrary, she is quite rational. When something really happens, she always makes up her mind and never panics. Damei's mother taught her a correct sense of self-protection from an early age and taught her to stay away from danger and become a better person. Damei also lived up to expectations. After graduation, she was admitted to work in the system with her own skills.
Damei and her boyfriend Wei Li met in the same unit, and their desks are very close. Damei is Wei Li's favorite type. In this way, Damei agreed to Wei Li's pursuit in the case of Wei Li's poor pursuit.
Wei Li's family conditions are very good. His father is a minister of a certain unit, and his mother is a professor who teaches Chinese in a university. But Wei Li is much worse than his parents. He is similar to Damei, and both are muddling along in the establishment unit. It is said that Wei Li's work in this unit system is entrusted by her father to go through the back door.
Everyone around Damei thinks that she and Wei Li are a good match, and the man's family is better than the woman's strategy, just right. Damei and Li Wei are both young people. After graduating from college, they went back to their hometown to develop and work in the same unit. They also talked about many topics. Over time, Damei fell in love with the boy in front of her.
Both parents also agreed that two people were together, and the love they talked about was more satisfactory. Wei Li, a boy, is actually very good, gentle in character, does not lose his temper, does not dispute or rob, and is very good for Damei. Every holiday or anniversary, Wei Li will carefully prepare gifts or get a ceremony for Damei to make Damei very happy.
Sometimes Wei Li looks at Damei stupidly, but she won't say anything. He just looked at Damei with a smile. Great beauty is a child's character. He will get well soon when he is angry, and he doesn't need Wei Li's special care.
Many people think that the two of them are a good match together. They look at each other and feel very married. Damei never doubted it. She even thought that she would spend the rest of her life with this man. But what she never expected was that she was the one who finally said that she would end this relationship.
They have been together for more than two years. Just this year, both parents hoped that they would get married early for the Spring Festival, so they began to prepare for marriage. Before the two families formally meet, both young people will go to each other's home to formally visit each other's parents.
Damei has met Wei Li's parents before, but this is her first official visit. Li Weixian and Delta went home together. Damei's parents are very liberal. They met the woman's parents smoothly and basically talked well. But when Damei went to the man's house, the situation was very different.
Damei followed Wei Li home to see her parents and do her homework. I heard that their home is quiet, their parents are not very talkative, and they like girls from good families. Therefore, in order to leave a good impression on parents, Damei, who loves to talk, pretends to be deep, tries to control her voice and acts like a lady, which is still very useful. At least her future mother-in-law nodded.
Originally, Damei wanted to pretend to be a lady all day, just sitting up and giggling. Unexpectedly, Damei didn't know what to do next.
When her mother-in-law was cooking, she naturally called Damei into the kitchen to help, saying that she wanted Damei to help, but actually she wanted to say something to Damei.
Mother-in-law said to her, "Big sister, frying two of your best dishes is the first level of being a wife of the Li family."
Although Damei is reluctant, her mother-in-law's aura is too strong, and she has to obey. In the process of doing it, my mother-in-law watched and chatted with Damei. The topic was unusual.
"Great beauty, you know our family is a very traditional family. I hope you know that women must be virtuous. They used to call themselves virtuous and virtuous. We don't have that much attention now. After all, today's girls have their own personalities, and many don't like to make their own decisions. But marriage is always sacred, and women should know how to make sacrifices for their families. These three points I put forward are the basic principles for us Li family to be daughters-in-law. I believe you can do it. "
"First of all, it is cooking. I am testing you now. After all, women still have to be able to cook. Doing well is one thing, and doing well is another. It is very important to have this heart. Second, it is better to have a son and a daughter. Although both boys and girls are the same, in the end you will find it better to have a son. A son is always good, but a daughter can't compare with him. Third, when quarreling, women still have to make more concessions. For the sake of marriage, this is a sign that women know wisely. If you want to be my daughter-in-law, you must learn these three points. This is the entry exam. "
This is beautiful, and it seems reasonable to listen to your mother-in-law. She began to think of the day when she got married and had a lot of children. Usually when cooking, she holds the baby, the child cries and the husband is angry. She couldn't help shivering and didn't return to her senses for a long time. She turned off the fire until her mother-in-law told her that the food was burnt.
Big sister immediately took off her apron and said to her mother-in-law, "Aunt, thank you for teaching me your life experience. I decided not to get married. I can't do it because of the requirements of the three virtues. I will break up with Wei Li. "
When he said this, Wei Li was there. He didn't keep Damei, because he knew that he was going to marry an obedient and virtuous woman. Since Damei is not suitable, he won't keep her too much.
In fact, such a mother-in-law's idea is really ridiculous. Family traditions are understandable, but I really can't understand the logic of some people's thoughts. Tradition does not mean that women can be treated as victims, and tradition can also respect women. You should know that inheriting tradition means taking its essence and discarding its dross.
Fortunately, Damei cut the gordian knot and stop loss in time, thus avoiding such a family. Some people may not have the courage. They often find out after they get married, but it is too late. When they got married, they found out how much unfair treatment they had suffered and how much they had suffered.
Therefore, the fate of marriage is in our own hands from the beginning. When something is wrong, have the courage to refuse.