The betrothal gift in our hometown is not very high, ranging from 40,000 to 100,000. The specific situation depends on the boy’s family conditions. Some girls are in love with boys and do not need a betrothal gift. If it is a blind date, in addition to the betrothal gift, three pieces of gold are also required, and a house and a car are also essential.
Speaking of which, we don’t pay much attention to betrothal gifts there. The specific reason is that a house is needed. As long as your family has a house in the city, the betrothal gift is easy to say and it’s fine, but if your family doesn’t have a house or a car, , so sorry, the bride price must be at least 200,000, the reason is to pay the down payment for the young couple to buy a house in the future.
When I got engaged, my husband’s family gave me 28,000 yuan for drinks, and when I got married, they gave me 46,000 yuan as a bride price, but including the four gold pieces and clothes they bought for me, together It's almost 100,000 yuan. It’s about the same level as ours, not too high or too low, because it’s given separately, so it’s not that scary. But when my younger sister got married, her husband's family proposed to arrange the engagement and wedding together. Because many people were away from home and they didn't want relatives to travel back and forth, my mother proposed to give her a one-time payment of 100,000 yuan as a formality. Later, she would still let me My little sister brought it back.
Her husband’s family obviously didn’t believe this statement. My little sister even went home and argued with my mother, “Why is it that my sister’s wedding gift is only over 40,000 yuan, but I want 100,000 yuan? You guys are Are you selling your daughter? "My mother was so angry that she settled the accounts for my younger sister. The total gift for your sister's wedding was also 100,000, but the engagement and wedding were separate, so it didn't show that the money was large. Moreover, the 100,000 that Kazuo's family wants is for you to take back for self-defense. Our family will not keep a penny. We also bought your three gold coins for you. After all, you have not lost anything.
The younger sister refused to give in and quarreled with the family, but my mother refused to give in. Later, the man gave her 100,000 yuan, and my mother kept her promise and let her take an unmoved share back to her. She posted three pieces of gold and a dowry. The way my family behaves like this is actually close to the way it is done in other cities. Later I found out that when many of my friends got married, the bride price given by the husband was basically kept by their parents as a reserve fund for their younger brother's wedding. Girls in rural areas are basically similar to Fan Shengmei. They support their families before marriage, and are exploited again by their families after marriage.
It is said that the betrothal gift is more important than the betrothal gift. This is what parents who favor sons over daughters will do. Parents who really care about their daughters will not ask for a lot of betrothal gifts. They are more concerned about the other person's family. How is their daughter? Will you suffer if you get married? These are real parents who always think about their children.