Many people have emotional outbursts, and some people have terrible emotional outbursts. A friend of mine hit his head against the wall when he lost control of his emotions, resulting in a concussion. Some time ago, a well-known network anchor was provoked by his girlfriend next to him during the live broadcast, and directly punched his girlfriend under the gaze of hundreds of thousands of people. Many netizens commented that just listening to the sound is thrilling and terrible.

We probably all have this experience. When emotions erupt, the brain is blank and there is no rational idea at all. So how to control this emotional outburst? There are many ways to control emotions in books and online. Divert your attention, take a deep breath, count as soon as your mood comes up, and so on.

There's another little story that goes like this.

Every time someone gets angry and has an argument with someone, he will run around his home three times, land, and then sit on the edge of the field to catch his breath. Later, he made great achievements. His house is getting bigger and bigger and his land is getting wider and wider. But no matter how big the house is, as long as he is angry with others, he will still go around the house three times and land.

Why does Aidiba go around the house and the ground three times every time he gets angry?

One day, he got angry again and walked around the house with crutches. When he finally walked three times, the sun went down, and he sat alone by the field, panting. His grandson begged him, "Grandpa, you are old. No one around here owns more land than you.". You can't run around like you used to! Can you tell me the secret? Why do you run around the ground three times when you are angry? "

When I was young, when I quarreled, quarreled and got angry with others, I ran around the real estate for three times, thinking while running that my house was so small and my land was so small, how could I have the time and qualification to get angry with others? Thinking of this, my anger subsided, so I spent all my time working hard. When I was angry, I walked three times in the real estate, thinking while walking, my house is so big and there is so much land, why should I care about others? At the thought of this, my anger disappeared. "

This story seems reasonable and may be useful. But this does not solve the fundamental problem. How to control your emotions? The answer is that emotions don't need to be controlled at all.

In life, we are often not controlling emotions, but suppressing them. Take the story above as an example. This man ran three times when arguing with someone and then got angry. But have you ever thought that if you don't understand this matter, will you argue next time? If you run away without making it clear every time, this contradiction will always exist and become a fuse, which will ignite at any time.

So if you really want to solve the problem that your mood is unstable and easily out of control, don't hold your breath at the beginning, and your mood will naturally open up. Solving emotions is actually the ability to solve communication. Don't suppress your true thoughts from the beginning.

We have all heard the saying that being angry is the most terrible thing for honest people. This may seem like a prejudice, but it makes sense when you think about it. Good people are too used to suppressing their sense of reality. If it accumulates for a long time, it will be strange not to break out.

If you just sit in the corner and don't talk, it's none of your business, and be patient everywhere, you will only get farther and farther away from the world, and you will be trapped in yourself, and any way to control your emotions will not work.

When you have more contact with this society, your mind will gradually broaden and your mind will be healthier, so that you will not be knocked down by some unexpected bad things and lose face.

Controlling emotions is actually not controlling, but solving emotions and solving the contradictions behind them.