Symptoms of explosive anger: "If you throw your dirty socks on the ground again, I'll move out!" " "It may not be easy to push you to the edge of the outbreak, but when this moment really comes, it will shake the earth and people around you will want to escape.

Why do you get angry easily: If you have never been taught how to deal with anger, you may habitually hold back your anger until you can no longer be angry. Gradually, your "anger point" will be low and explosive. There are many people with bad temper. When something goes wrong, adrenaline will suddenly rise, leading to a sudden outbreak of anger, not to mention worse things to make him angry.

The consequences of explosive anger: it is difficult for a person to be angry and compassionate at the same time. So when you are angry, you usually say a lot of things that you regret afterwards or do a lot of actions that can't be made up afterwards.

How to change this situation:

1. Wait for the anger to dissipate. Studies show that anger lasts less than 12 seconds, just like a storm, which destroys everything when it breaks out, but then returns to calm. So how do you get through this key?

12 second, it is important to let the anger disappear naturally. Take a deep breath or mentally count 10. When you finish, you will find that you are not so angry. (wordy, the best recitation is not from 1 to 10, but like 1-4-5-9-65438+)

2. Control your emotions. Expressing your emotions in another way will make you feel that everything is under your control. "I'm really disappointed in your behavior." This sentence is more powerful than "# RMB%-*" blurted out when you are furious.

Angry type 2: hidden type

Hide the symptoms of anger: "I'm fine. Everything is fine. Nothing. " Even if you have 10 thousand angry fireballs in your heart, you still smile at others and hide your true feelings without showing any trace.

Why are you hiding? Women are usually repeatedly taught from an early age that no matter what happens, they must live and be a lady, and they can't lose their temper easily. Anger will only cost you your reputation, friends, job and even marriage. And if you grow up in a family full of abuse and anger, then you must not believe that anger can be controlled or expressed calmly.

Hide the evil consequences of anger: the most basic function of anger is to predict that something is wrong and promote the solution. If you turn a blind eye to this omen, you will vent your anger in a self-destructive way, such as eating too much and spending too much. And you will give the green light to others' bad behavior and refuse to give others a chance to correct their mistakes. Imagine how I can apologize to you if the other person doesn't know that you are hurt.

How to change this situation:

3. Challenge your core beliefs. Ask yourself, "Is it a good thing for subordinates to leave early at any time? For my lover, I play golf with my clients every weekend. Is this good? " If you are honest enough, your answer must be, of course not. Distinguishing right from wrong is the first step to correct.

4. Keep yourself out of it. Imagine a friend being criticized by the leader, working overtime endlessly, or being ignored. How to respond correctly to her? Make a list and write down the actions she may take, and then ask herself, why are these methods feasible for her but not for herself?

5. Conduct a "healthy" confrontation. If someone accuses you, you can use positive and constructive language to fight back. The other person may be surprised or even angry at your language. But you know what? They will forgive and get used to your way. For family members and good friends, implicit anger is often more lethal than direct anger.

Angry type 3: mocking type

Symptoms of mocking anger: "Oh, you're just late, which gives me time to study recipes, 40 minutes!" " "You found a circuitous way to change your unhappiness with a smile.

Why do you love sarcasm? Because in your past life experience, you thought it was wrong to express negative emotions directly, so you chose the indirect route. If the other person is angry, you think it is their own problem, not your fault. After all, you are only joking. Can't people take a joke nowadays?

The consequences of ridicule and anger: Although you think your language is full of wisdom, sharp ridicule with wisdom will hurt the relationship between the other party and your. Although some people insist that teasing is a kind of intelligent humor, not everyone who is teased can understand this humor or is in the mood to understand it.

How to change this situation:

6. Learn to express directly. Mock is a passive and aggressive communication, which is more likely to hurt people, especially those who are very close. Sometimes it is more effective to find the right words to express your true thoughts directly.

7. Express firmly and clearly. For children, simple and gentle reminders, such as "Don't jump around on the sofa." The message that can be clearly conveyed is many times better than the following humor: "Oh, don't worry, you will only let me prepare another yuan to buy a new sofa."

8. Say it before you get angry. When waiting for a friend who likes to be late, practice expressing dissatisfaction before she comes to avoid sharp ridicule when seeing friends.

Angry type 4: destructive type

Symptoms of bad temper: "Hum, don't let me play games, then I will delete all the games on the computer!" " "You are not the kind of person who secretly or submit to humiliation alone. You always express your anger in more subtle ways.

Why did you destroy it? You don't like face-to-face struggle, but you are not an easy man to beat. When people feel that they can't attack others head-on, they will become "secretly angry people" and attack others secretly.

Bad temper: You can really frustrate others often. The purpose of your life is not to let others get what they want, but to strive for happiness for yourself. The result of this destructive anger is: both sides lose.

How to change this situation:

9. Allow yourself to be angry. Tell yourself that anger is a way for you to tell others that you are tired of being pushed around by them.

10. Fight for yourself. Instead of deliberately failing to hand in the work report or being late for the meeting, it is better to summon up courage to tell the boss that your overwork is beyond your tolerance, or that the contradiction between you and a colleague is irreconcilable. It is not easy, but it is not easy to find a new job.

1 1. Learn to control. If you feel uncomfortable because you are expected too much, but you can't reach it, you can't become a destructive and angry person, but you should make some efforts to change your present situation before that. For example, if you can't pay back the loan or the financial expenses at home, you should tell your partner that you need his support and dedication, instead of finding another job, trying to maintain it, being full of resentment and often losing your temper with your family.

Angry type 5: self-reproach type

Symptoms of self-blame and anger: "It's all my fault that he betrayed me, because I am a bad wife." You always take all your mistakes on yourself.

Why is it easy to blame yourself? Maybe your self-esteem has been hit hard, and you find yourself more angry with yourself than others. So, you take all the mistakes on yourself.

The consequences of self-reproach and anger: blaming yourself and hiding your anger in your heart will easily lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction with yourself, which will lead to depression over time.

How to change this situation:

12. Whenever you want to blame yourself, start asking yourself, "Who told me I should be responsible for this?" Then ask yourself, "Do you believe this?" The responsibility lies in recognizing the truth, rather than coming forward indiscriminately and taking responsibility that should not be borne by yourself.

13. Improve self-confidence. Make a list and write down all your advantages. Finding self-confidence is the key to avoiding excessive self-blame. If you have any questions about this, you can ask professionals for help.

Anger Type 6: Habitual

Symptoms of habitual anger: "I hate it, why do you always borrow my stapler?" Why can't you find one of your own! " "This is not a correct response to events, but a wrong habit. If you don't make a conscious change, it will become a common picture in your life.

Why do you get used to being angry? If you always express your dissatisfaction directly, or this kind of emotion often pops up inadvertently, there must be resentment, regret or frustration behind these anger that you dare not face up to or pay attention to. Maybe you're jealous that your colleague got promoted and you didn't, or maybe your marriage is on the verge of collapse but you don't know why.

Consequences of habitual anger: If you are always so direct and habitual, then your family, colleagues and friends need to bear a lot of psychological pressure in order not to make you angry. Or they will choose to stay away and run away from you.

How to change this situation:

14. Face your heart. What are you really satisfied with? If you can dig into your heart, you will find that a stapler, dirty socks on the floor and empty milk bottles in the refrigerator are not worth your anger at all. But if you can't find the bottom line of anger by looking straight into your heart, you need to go to a professional.

15. Pay attention to the signs of anger. Be sensitive to your reactions and feelings about getting angry. When you are angry, will your hand unconsciously become a fist? You started walking around the room? Keep chanting, cursing or gnashing your teeth? When you are sensitive to signs of impending anger, you can immediately make some efforts to calm the upcoming anger.