My college roommates told me that I wanted to fall in love, so that you would have someone to accompany you and you wouldn't be so lonely.
Is it really like those people around you say: when you are alone, you have a partner and a marriage, you won't do things alone, so you don't have to be accompanied so hard.
The little purple sitting opposite asked puzzled. Her hand kept fiddling with the drink on the cup, but her eyes were commenting on my side.
Fortunately, I already know her so well, otherwise I will have a lot of fears, because what she said is exactly what I have been puzzled before. I think it's better to do things alone or find a partner, both from myself and others are beneficial to each other.
However, the reality is that even if you do a lot of things, you can go together. It is not safe for girls to walk at night. We can find a partner together. When we go surfing on weekends, we can find a large group of friends to go out to Higt, but that doesn't mean that we need a partner whatever we do, otherwise we will be lonely.
I didn't rush to answer Xiao Zi's question, but asked her a question: Do you believe this?
Actually, at first, I felt quite independent,' she said. Even if I do a lot of things by myself, it's nothing. For example, I like reading quietly and don't want anyone to disturb me. For example, now, I like to go to the park alone, so that I can simply think about my own ideas. Although it seems lonely and desolate, I enjoy it.
The fact is that people have something to do by themselves at every stage, and some things must be done by themselves. Don't think that someone will accompany you to finish them.
What you think of a person's loneliness is for self-improvement. There is a saying that the single period is a good appreciation period. I can't understand it this way. When we are alone, we should try our best to do meaningful things, and what we like can improve ourselves. Because there is not much interference, we can do them more seriously.
If a person really wants to do something well, then just like Xiaozi, she will enjoy the process very much and can do it well even if she doesn't adapt.
Qingqing is a girl in Shenzhen. She has never left Shenzhen since she was a child, and she is still in Shenzhen after coming out to work. She complained to me more than once that her parents were too much in charge and nagged endlessly every day. As long as she goes out to play, the phone will keep ringing.
If you live too long, you will get bored. In addition, Qingqing has reached marriageable age. When she is free, her mother always arranges a lot of blind dates for her, and when it comes to holidays, it is full. What is even more ridiculous is that she has to endure all kinds of sarcasm from seven aunts and eight aunts.
Every time she speaks, I will persuade her that you should sit down and communicate with your parents and tell them clearly that you have the ability to think independently. In order to convince parents, you can rent your own house and try to live for a while.
She always said, well, my parents definitely don't approve of renting a house outside, and I'm lonely myself. Moreover, my house is rented to others. How can I rent someone else's house? It's not cost-effective.
After such a delay, she still lives with her parents. Some time ago, she complained on WeChat about how many long meetings her mother had arranged for her. When she finished nagging, I found that I had nothing to say.
On the contrary, my other colleague, Yaya, studied here with her parents since childhood. When she was in college, she began to tell her parents that she would rent a house after graduation. Although she also has two self-occupied houses in Shenzhen, she insists on renting her own house.
Those old colleagues inexplicably asked, you are still young, have a house to live in, and don't know how much money you can save. You have parents and partners.
Hearing this, Ya Ya smiled. I want to learn to be independent. Moreover, only I know this little thing, and my parents don't know much about it. I'd better study it myself.
After getting acquainted with her, I realized that she bought food and cooked by herself every day, but she couldn't cook at first, and then she called her mother one by one and finally learned to cook. When cooking, she tried slowly with a recipe in one hand, from burnt food to delicious food, which she taught herself.
She thanked herself in front of me more than once. If she hadn't rented a house by herself, she might not be able to cook and learn to be alone.
From the two of them, I understand a truth, that is, if you really want to do something, then countless difficulties can't stop you. Similarly, if you don't want to do something, you will find thousands of excuses to excuse yourself.
Back to the original theme, in fact, it seems to me that many things need to be done alone, including staying alone in a room now and playing loud music. Every word sounds like it comes from the keyboard. This is a happy place.
We often think that being single is the best appreciation period because no one can step into the same river twice. "You have experienced a part alone, and then you are with your companions. That feeling is absolutely different.
When we are alone, we tend to pay more attention to what we do, know more clearly what we want at that moment, and constantly improve ourselves, so as to complete the stages of various changes we want.
Just live in your own way.
When you choose to go forward with your partner, or make any decision, you also need to follow your inner voice, but you can't avoid it, because this is a group activity, and you always have to accept some coordination, compromise or even reluctance.
And when you get a t a, no matter how much money you are willful and independent, absolute inner freedom cannot be produced in your pattern.
As we all know, meeting the right person is like suddenly having a soft spot and armor. When you do a lot of things, you will have scruples. It means that you are no longer living for yourself, and you should care about the feelings of that TA.
When you see that others are always doing a lot of things alone, don't think it is a boring thing, because many people are not bored, they all enjoy it, and because of their absolute self in action, their souls will make you admire, fascinated and want to get close.
So since no one is with you, do it yourself. Instead of amplifying the distress of "I am lonely", it is better to take it as a gift for yourself.