The "20 19 White Paper on Family Parenting Model in China" published by Baby Tree shows that the proportion of young parents taking full-time care of their babies is on the rise, and 80% of the post-90s generation choose to be full-time wet nurses.
Is it because it's easier to bring a baby to work than to bring such a large full-time nanny lineup? Let's take a look at a netizen's day as a full-time nanny:
6 am: Ma Bao gets up, looks after the children, changes diapers and feeds.
7: 00 a.m.: The baby goes to sleep after nursing, and Ma Bao starts washing and cooking, waking her husband, eating, washing dishes, washing pots and making the bed.
9: 00 a.m.: Ma Bao takes her children to the community convenience store to buy food, so she can only buy a little less, because she can't bring too much food. On the way back, I played with the children in the square for a while.
Morning 10: Ma Bao begins to sweep the floor, mop the floor and clean the table. At the same time, Ma Bao has to chat with the children and always pay attention to their safety.
1 1 am: Ma Bao takes care of the children while picking vegetables, washing vegetables and cooking.
12 am: Ma Bao feeds the children first, and then eats lunch, washes dishes and washes pots by himself.
1 pm: put the child to sleep. If it goes well, it will be done in half an hour. If it doesn't go well, I may not be able to sleep for two hours. After the child fell asleep, Ma Bao began to wash dirty clothes and smelly socks at home.
3 pm: After the child wakes up, Ma Bao takes the child out to bask in the sun. If the weather is bad, she plays games at home and tells stories to her children.
5: 00pm: Ma Bao starts to prepare dinner, but she still has to take care of the children's safety.
6: 00 p.m.: Ma Bao feeds the children, and then replaces Ma Bao after dinner in Baoda. After dinner, it's parent-child time for Bao's father and children. Ma Bao is going to clean the kitchen.
7: 00 pm: Ma Bao takes the children for a walk in the community square and meets his friends. By the way, Ma Bao and her neighbor Ma Bao talk about her parenting experience.
8 pm: Ma Bao takes the children home to wash and get ready for bed. After the child is put to sleep, rub his shoulders and chat with his husband.
10 pm: This is the only time that Ma Bao does what he likes, such as reading, drawing and practicing calligraphy.
This is just a day when the child is in a healthy state, not including getting sick often, giving the child medicine, waking up in the middle of the night, etc. How many people can stick to it like a full-time nanny? Even if Ma Bao is busy taking care of the baby every day all year round and can't get a penny salary, it is still difficult to get recognition. The husband thinks it's easy for Ma Bao to take care of the children, there is no pressure, and he always asks for money. Friends around me think that four years in Ma Bao University is a waste of time, and they are not enterprising to take care of their children at home full-time.
I'm afraid it's not easy to be a full-time nanny. Only those who have experienced it personally can understand it. On the one hand, Bao Ma takes care of the children wholeheartedly, on the other hand, it is the incomprehension and cold treatment of relatives and friends. Should Bao Ma take care of the baby full time? 1. Should Ma Bao take care of children full time?
In fact, there is no need to take care of the baby full-time, only willing or unwilling. Every precious mother makes a decision after repeated weighing. If the conditions do not allow, who wants to be a nanny, but can't get a penny, but also endure the cold reception at home? Whether Ma Bao should give up her career and take care of her baby full-time depends on her family situation.
If all the old people in the family are around the children and are willing and able to take care of them, Ma Bao can rest assured that she will give them to the old people and actively devote herself to her work and development.
Don't force the elderly to help if they are not around, which is not conducive to their health. At this point, if you don't want to find a nanny to help take care of the children, Ma Bao can only choose to take care of the children by herself.
Taking care of the baby full-time doesn't necessarily mean that you don't want to make progress. If Ma Bao does the following three things, she can also create her own world.
How do full-time nannies get out of trouble?
1, work skills cannot be lost.
Just because the reality doesn't allow Ma Bao to work in the company doesn't mean that Ma Bao must give up her ability to work. Even if you take care of your children at home, you can't ignore your work skills.
Ma Bao can spare some time every day to read professional books, listen to professional-related courses, learn about the industry trends from his peers, and practice and consolidate his professional skills, which will help Ma Bao to take care of his baby at home and get familiar with the skills in time.
2. Self-improvement is unforgettable.
Although Ma Bao takes care of her baby full-time and pays more attention to her children, it doesn't mean that she has no time to study. Time is like a sponge, there is always a squeeze.
Those things that don't need to be done by yourself, such as sweeping the floor and washing clothes, are left to the machine as far as possible, which is both labor-saving and time-saving. The time saved by Ma Bao can improve himself, such as reading parenting books and learning parenting knowledge. On the one hand, Ma Bao can have parenting knowledge; on the other hand, Ma Bao can apply this knowledge to practice to help Ma Bao realize scientific parenting.
Ma Bao can also listen to books while doing housework every day, which not only adds fun to boring housework, but also increases his interest in reading and broadens his horizons.
3. Use the gap to develop your own sideline.
Always palm up, you can't get rid of the spell of looking at other people's faces. If Ma Bao wants to change her life, she must learn to take care of her children and develop her own sideline.
Many jobs are very suitable for Ma Bao, and some jobs put forward "Ma Bao priority", which shows that Ma Bao still has advantages in some fields. Ma Bao can be the person in charge of community group purchase while taking care of the baby. As long as she pulls her neighbors and friends into the group and shares good things through her mobile phone, she can earn some profits. Ma Bao can also develop in his own professional fields, such as part-time editing, part-time finance and part-time art design. As long as she thinks it over, Ma Bao will definitely find a field suitable for her.
Every mother deserves to be respected. Full-time nanny is not the end of career development, but the beginning of another career plan. May every full-time nanny find her place!