Men: It’s not that I don’t want to pay. Men should pay. This statement is undoubtedly the most recognized and accepted by people, especially in women’s subconscious. As a result, a situation emerged: men had the absolute initiative when it came to paying the bill. If a man pays the bill, OK, you should do it; if a man doesn’t buy it, OK, then I’ll buy it, which shows how generous I am.
In fact, when most people meet for the first time, the man will offer to pay for the date. Xiaolei met such an "opponent" during a recent blind date. "We made an appointment to meet at a bus stop. It's almost dinner time." From the beginning, their meeting place was different from an ordinary date. "Then, he started walking with me. He didn't say where we were going, we just walked." Xiaolei and the other party walked aimlessly until dark, walking from the station to the scenic spot, and from the scenic spot to the shopping mall. . "I was a little thirsty and hungry at the time, but the other person didn't seem to want to sit down and rest." Just when Xiaolei wanted to ask for something to eat, the other person took out a bottle of mineral water that had been prepared in advance and drank it. After drinking, keep walking and continue talking. At this time, Xiaolei really couldn't bear it anymore, and immediately ran into a convenience store on the roadside to buy a bottle of drink, and then said goodbye to the other party. Of course, there was no follow-up after that. In fact, what Xiaolei met was not the "best" one in a million. Many men would choose the open space at the entrance of the shopping mall or the free seats at the entrance of the supermarket as the meeting place when they first date a woman.
When encountering such a thing, of course the woman will not understand it. However, from the man's point of view, it is not that he is unwilling to pay, let alone afraid of paying, but that the purchase is unclear. There was nothing to follow, so I felt a little depressed. You may think that man is too ungenerous - but in his view, starting a family and establishing a career are complementary to each other. It is a man's duty to make money to support the family and maintain a standard of living. He does not know how to coax women with sweet words and obedience. His head is dizzy, but once the love is confirmed by him, he will firmly guard her, because if he has to fall in love a few more times, he will feel that the cost of love is too high to be worth it!
Women: The feeling of paying the bill is very subtle. Today, with the increasing awareness of women, women can dominate the workplace like men, buy houses and cars just like men, and even earn more than men. Men don't lack any kind of women, but on the contrary, men may not possess women's rich aesthetic taste and super anti-vertigo ability. As soon as Liu Mei graduated from university, she started a foreign trade business. There were a lot of social events at work, and I was always inviting people to dinner, so I gradually developed the habit of actively paying for meals.
One day, a friend introduced her to a "successful man" who drove a Mercedes and asked her to have dinner. They had a candlelight dinner together and drank red wine. This may be the dream of many girls. But his oppressive feeling of wealth made Liu Mei very uncomfortable. "This way of dating makes me feel like I'm selling myself for glory. Do I deserve it? I've been working hard in the business for so many years. Not to mention the candlelight dinner, I haven't bought any dinner orders? What's the point of letting a man Paying for you' is the self-deception of those weak women.
" As a result, Liu Mei signed the bill and walked away. Some men are not willing to let women take the initiative to pay the bill. Those unmarried men regard paying the bill themselves as the best opportunity to show their attentiveness to the woman they like. In some situations, if a woman takes the initiative to pay the bill and the man shows no sign, the woman will be disappointed. A lady selling insurance said that if I were to pay for a meal with a male client, it would be a waste of time and money, and I would definitely not be able to continue the business. On the other hand, if the other party is competing to pay the bill, then there is a high probability that it will happen.
AA production is outdated? AB system debuts! "The first time we met, of course it was AA!" Xiao Wei, who was born in 1985, felt that the name "AA" for blind date meals was justified: "Everyone is equal. In order to meet everyone's needs, naturally everyone should contribute money. It doesn't make sense because I am a male. You need me to invite you, right?" "Brothers will settle the score."
From the perspective of the "post-80s generation", the AA system is a very appropriate checkout method. At present, the AA system has moved from dinner parties to marriages, and blind dates and love are naturally not immune. "I think it's the first time that everyone is okay. Let's go out to have a meal together as friends and see how things develop in the future." Jiang Lin thinks so. You bury yours and I bury mine. It’s best not to owe each other anything. In their eyes, the AA system is the easiest, least burdensome, and most secure way to communicate.
But let’s stick to the AA system, and it makes people feel that they are too clearly distinguished from each other, and there seems to be only money calculations between people, less warmth and more life. As a result, a new payment method came into being, that is, the AB system. The so-called "AB system" means that when consumption occurs, men pay most of the expenses, while women pay a small part.