China and Guangxi Dong compatriots have the marriage custom of going to the village to sit as sisters when choosing a spouse. After dinner, a small group of young people will hold wind and rain lanterns, play the Dong pipa and play the Dong flute, and sing all the way.

Go to another stockade with Dong Love Song. In that stockade, all families with young women will light their lights, or young women will stick their heads out of the wooden building to have a look. At this time, this group of young men went to a certain house under various excuses.

We'll talk about it later. If a woman has a crush on one of these young people. She also found various excuses to keep the young man, such as borrowing his lantern. At this time, everyone else present, including the woman's parents, had to return.

Avoid, this is the village. The next step is to sit down. After the others left, the woman slowly moved closer to the man, and finally sat by the fireplace together, singing love songs in a low voice, chatting and getting to know each other. straight

Only after midnight can the two agree on the time and place for their next meeting, and then the woman returns the lantern to the man. After that, both sides tried to understand each other until they both thought they were in love.

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Affection is a unique way of marriage custom for young men and women of Dong nationality in China. After Dong girls and boys like each other, the girls will go to the landlady's (the girl's sister-in-law or aunt's) home to make Baba behind her father's back. During the tryst, the girl finished singing "Excellent".

After the beautiful love song, she gave her boyfriend 12 pairs of snow-white Baba to express her love for her boyfriend for one year 12 months. After eating the girls' Baba, my boyfriend will give the girls 12 packets of sugar as a reward at the next tryst.

Thank you. The night before the wedding, the girls and young women in the village will do 12 pairs of "parting from their mothers" overnight to show that the bride and groom live happily for 12 months every year and never forget their parents' kindness. Leave mother

Ba was taken to her husband's house by relatives, sliced and mixed with camellia oleifera, and eaten at the wedding banquet, so that everyone could share the happiness.

Dong Nationality and Youth in Zhenyuan Area of Guizhou Province

When men and women are in love, they usually make promises in the form of asking for garlic. In the traditional grand event on the third day of the third lunar month, beautifully dressed girls will come to the stream with bamboo baskets full of onions and garlic in their hands. They wash onions and garlic.

Shit, wait for the arrival of my sweetheart. When girls wash onions and garlic, there will be many young men around to find suitable girls. If once you have a crush on the right person, the young man will seize the opportunity, stand up and bravely confront the aunt in front of everyone.

Mom said, please give me onions and garlic! If the girl is satisfied, she will happily give him the onion and garlic basket, otherwise, she will never give it to him. Next, young men and women who establish contact by begging for onions and garlic will have to make separate appointments.

I will know more about songs and make an appointment to return to the basket, which is the key moment of love success or failure. Baskets are usually returned at the beginning of April or the sixth day of June. If a girl accepts a basket with gifts,

It means that the event has been decided, otherwise it will be over.

Make love on heels.

Young Dong men and women live in Tianzhu Mountain Cave in southeastern Guizhou, China. They have a popular tradition of "walking on high heels" to express their love.

Unified customs. Whether young men or young women, as long as one party has a crush on the other, it is necessary to get as close as possible to the person in mind when rushing to the scene, quietly follow behind him (her) and deliberately step on the other's feet.

Follow. After the other person is trampled, if you look back and see that the person who stepped on his heel is the person you like and like, you will follow the lover who stepped on his heel out of the dam. Talking about the date (that is, the date). If you are trampled on your heel.

Some girls are not interested in people who step on their heels, so they ignore them as if they don't know. Generally, people who step on other people's heels turn away after stepping on them, and go to the door to see if the trampled person has followed.

Come, follow, naturally have a good impression and chat happily; If the trampled person doesn't follow, it means that the other person has another sweetheart and can't force it, so he goes back to the dam and finds another one.

Find something to step on.

The wedding custom of Liping Yandong is the most lively time for young men and women at night. In the evening, they go to sing and sit on the moon. If you like each other, decide privately, and then find a matchmaker to find the woman.

Matchmaker, if both parents don't mind, then send some wedding candy. When it comes to getting married, the woman asks the other party to send a duck to her parents' house, and she will come to the man's house by herself in the evening. This completes the settlement.

Marriage. In some places in Liping, the marriage custom of Dong people is to try marriage first. If you have children, you will come to the man's house one year later and live together forever.

Food flirting

Among the Dong compatriots in Guangxi,

When choosing a spouse, there is a marriage custom of going to the village to sit with a sister. After dinner, groups of young people will take wind and rain lanterns, play the pipa and flute of the Dong nationality and sing the love songs of the Dong nationality all the way to other yards. When we arrived at the stockade,

Every family with young women lights up, or young women look out of the wooden building. At this time, this group of young men went to the woman's house for a period of time under various excuses. If a young woman falls in love with one of these young men,

In that case, she also found various excuses to keep the young man, such as borrowing his lantern. At this time, everyone else present, including the woman's parents, had to withdraw. This is going to the village. The next step is to sit down. In its

After the others left, the young women slowly moved closer to the young men, and finally sat by the fireplace together, singing love songs in a low voice and chatting, and the two sides initially reached an understanding. It was not until after midnight that they agreed to meet again.

Time and place, and then the young woman returns the lantern to the young man. After that, the two sides tried to get to know each other until they both thought they were in love.

The love and marriage of young Dong men and women are often

Love is conveyed through food Baba (which northerners call "cakes"). After Dong girls and boys like each other, girls will go to the landlady's (sister-in-law's or aunt's) home to make Baba behind their fathers' backs. During the tryst, the girl finished singing beautiful love songs.

Later 12 pairs of snow-white Baba were given to her boyfriend to express her love for her boyfriend for one year 12 months. After eating the girl's Baba, the boyfriend will give the girl 12 packets of sugar as a reward at the next tryst. hold a wedding ceremony

The night before, the girls and young women in the village had to do 12 "parting from their mothers" overnight to show that the bride and groom have a happy life of 12 months every year and never forget their parents' kindness. Divorced mother was taken away by relatives.

When I go to my husband's house, I cut it into pieces and eat it with camellia oleifera, and eat it at the wedding banquet, so that everyone can share happiness and happiness.

Dong people living in Zhenyuan, Guizhou, when young men and women are in love, beg for onions.

In the form of garlic. On the third day of the third month of the third lunar month, girls in beautiful clothes will come to the stream with bamboo baskets full of onions and garlic in their hands, waiting for their sweethearts to arrive on the grounds of washing onions and garlic. The girls washed the onions and garlic.

At that time, there will be many young men looking for suitable girls around. Once he takes a fancy to the right person, the young man will seize the opportunity to step forward and bravely say to the girl in front of everyone: "Please give me the onion and garlic!" If you think

Satisfied, the girl happily gave him the onion and garlic basket, otherwise, she would never give it to him. Next, young men and women who establish contact by begging for onions and garlic will get to know each other better in separate dates and songs and agree to return them.

Basket time, this is the key moment of love success or failure. Baskets are usually returned at the beginning of April or June 6 of the lunar calendar. If a girl accepts a basket with a gift, it means that the event has been decided, otherwise the girl is not satisfied.

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Ethnic minorities are mainly distributed in the adjacent areas of Guizhou, Hunan and Guangxi provinces (regions), with a long history and unique culture. Dong people like to live in groups, with 500 to 600 households in big villages and 30 to 50 households in small villages.

Dongcaotang is surrounded by mountains and waters, with trees in front of the village and trees behind it, flowing water in the mountains, birds singing and insects singing in Qulin. The beautiful natural environment has shaped the sweet voice of the Dong people and inspired them to create beautiful Dong songs.

This time also provides a relaxed and harmonious natural environment for young men and women to fall in love. In Dong family, apart from appearance, personality, interest and other factors, the most important commonality for young men and women to choose lovers is that the other party must have a talent for singing before his songs will come out.

People pay more attention to it than whether it is beautiful or rich. Therefore, in Dong's family, everyone can sing, and there are songs everywhere. Everything is closely related to songs, especially when men and women fall in love, and they use songs to speak for each other.

The heart of admiration.

Dong people's wedding custom activities can be divided into three stages: traditional singing opera, singing and sitting in the night show (in the southern region) or playing in the mountains and cool the moon (in the northern region), getting married and getting married. These activities are inseparable from songs.

The first acquaintance in the traditional song club sang "Song of Asking Last Name" and "Song of Borrowing Money". I sing Dong people's love songs when I sit and sing or fall in love with the cool moon at night. When I got married, I sang the songs of accompanying marriage and crying marriage; Sing wine songs when you get married.

(1) Traditional songs in the first meeting.

Love occupies a very important position in the lives of Dong people, who praise and experience it as one of the most beautiful emotions in life. Their love is not "talked" but "sung". They met in the dialogue activities of the traditional song club, and they both liked each other, so they chose their Mr. Right.

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Traditional songs of ethnic minorities are the main form for young men and women to choose love objects. March 3, June 6, mid-July, August 15, etc. Every year, the day of the lunar calendar is the day of the traditional song meeting stipulated by the Dong people. Every time this

Every day, young men and women of Dong nationality dress up and put on their best clothes to attend concerts. According to Dong Jia's custom, the main form of the concert is duet, which is usually a group of two people, with mellow voice and crisp voice as the lead singer.

Singing with a person. Let's sing the Song of Asking Surnames and get to know each other's surnames. If the in-laws and relatives are not related by blood, they can sing "borrowing songs", that is, the young man borrows "certificates" from the girl. (Male) Focus on a slope, focus on the top of the mountain.

I want to ask my sister for roots at Langshanjiao, but my family is poor. It's hard for a woman to keep out the cold without clothes. Lang should be reasonable. If you have money to buy an umbrella, it will be even harder if you have no money. This is a way for Dong boys to pursue girls.

Type. At this time, the girl can ask many questions through folk songs and let the young man answer them, so as to understand the talent, wisdom and true feelings of the young man. If the girl is interested in this young man, she will take a handkerchief, a hairpin and a belt with her.

Give such a thing to the young man as a token. This token is called a "receipt". When a girl gives a "certificate" to a young man, she is regarded as a "friend", and both men and women can openly agree on the date and place of the next meeting. mutually

On the other hand, if the girl has no intention, she will use euphemistic folk songs to refuse and encourage the young man to actively produce and work hard.

From the traditional duet activities of the Dong people, we can see that the duet activities of the Dong people are actually centered on marriage and love. Through these duet activities, the communication opportunities between men and women will be enhanced, and more young people will find their love objects.

(2) Natural and romantic love ways and love songs

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There are many ways for ethnic minority youth to fall in love, and the love environment is relaxed and natural. For example, there are "singing and sitting at night" in southern dialect areas; There is "playing with the mountains and cooling the moon" in the northern dialect area. Their love activities are generally carried out in the form of groups.

Meet in small groups. When they are in love, they will sing many kinds of love songs, including Pipa, Niuguqin, Di Zi and Mu Ye. Pipa is called "Halbique Ba" in Dong language.

)。 Its melody is beautiful and lyrical, which is deeply loved by Dong youth. Niutuiqin song, called "Gaguo Chicken" in Dong language (Al Oh

Yes), this kind of love song is slow and euphemistic, and it is a love song that young men and women like to sing when they "sit in the evening"; This flute is called "Gadi" in Dong language.

Di). This kind of love song has beautiful melody and strong skill, and is mostly sung by young men and women when they are "singing and sitting in the evening". In Mu Ye's love songs, the Dong language is called "Aldave Mexes".

Named after the accompaniment of konoha, it is a simple way to play, and it is the best choice for young people in love to go to the mountains for farming and tryst. There are wonderful love songs flying in Dong villages all year round, and thousands of Dong villages are immersed in the ocean of songs.

1, singing and sitting at night

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Singing and sitting at night is one of the main ways for young Dong men and women to fall in love, and its activities are carried out indoors at night. Whenever night falls, the boys in the stockade will walk in groups of three and five, playing the piano and singing invited songs, and go to their favorite places.

The girl's wooden floor invited her to sing a duet last month. In summer, they "sing" in the corridor of the dry-column house structure, and in winter, they "sit at night" by the fireplace in the main room. Younger generations play pipa with pipa and ox leg piano, girl.

While spinning embroidery, the children sang love songs with the younger generation. The love songs they sing are all blurted out, and the songs are full of modesty, courtesy and sincerity. For example, it is difficult for fish in the river to get into the river, but it is difficult for grass in the field.

Compared with Yang, my sister is not as good as my brother, and a fool is not as good as a wise man. (Male) People love entertainment in teenagers, Moby is less than Moby, and the golden key and lock are just right.

With the exchange of feelings, they sang deeper and deeper step by step. In their songs, there is absolutely no arrogant language of boasting and boasting, but humble mutual respect and praise each other with beautiful language. It is in this "singing and sitting at night" activity that they deepen their understanding and constantly enhance their feelings until both sides think that they love each other and can get engaged.

2. Play with the mountains and cool the moon

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"Mountain Moon" is a love activity of young men and women in northern dialect areas after making friends on their way to the depression. This activity is the longest and most important stage in Dong people's marriage customs. "Mountain Opera" is usually performed in the wild, during the day, male.

Young women get together in Shan Ye, talk about laziness and love, and sing love songs in pairs. If it's the first time we meet, sing Meet Song. Such as; When I first came here, cows would meet Ma Hui Street on the grassland, bees would meet flowers and trees, and swallows would meet tall buildings and platforms. (female) Chu

Meeting for the first time is like carp meeting the Yangtze River, carp meeting the Yangtze River, carp meeting the Yangtze River, and fish love each other.

If it is the first love, sing "affectionate songs" and "double songs". Such as; (in a pair of songs) wholeheartedly, a skin of yellow is yellow for thousands of years.

Kim, never repent. Lang Jiao is telling the truth. We have to wait until the sea dries up and the rocks crumble, and the iron tree blooms and the fish die in the same forest. If it is lovelorn, sing a "sad song". Such as: (elegy) two-handed golden pots, respect me as good.

Both of them are thinking about the ending of love today (Tong Liang: lovers), leaving their lovers thinking about heartbreak and breaking up their past love. I don't know when it will end.

Playing folk songs is beautiful and lyrical, and the singing method is often unique

The decorative vibrato makes this song unique. The "cool moon" is held at night. Every evening, young men will meet at the edge of the woman's village or at the foot of the warehouse, talk about love and sing. They express their feelings with songs and express their feelings with songs. by contrast

After a long time of "playing with the mountains and cool the moon", the two sides got to know each other better and their feelings deepened and developed to a certain extent before they booked each other for life.

Forms of Dong Nationality's Marriage Customs

Double-headed black wedding ceremony

To marry the bride, we don't prepare a sedan chair, but only send a guide and a ceremony attendant to pick up the gift. From dusk to midnight, the bride is received from the man's house. The wedding gift is relatively simple, usually thirty or forty kilograms of meat, twenty or thirty kilograms of wine and some dishes.

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Marriage custom of Dong nationality in Shengxian county. Young Dong people fall in love, give each other tokens, determine the relationship, and send engagement tea before they are officially made public. The man prepares glutinous rice cakes, rice flowers and a dining table for his uncle to send to his wife's house. At the banquet,

The man's relatives introduced the character and conduct of young men to the woman's parents, and the woman's family also introduced the situation of young women. After that, both men and women should keep their promises and don't break the marriage at will.

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Family-specific marriage customs. Is someone who regards the bride as the groom. Four generations live under one roof, and the population is prosperous, which is regarded by the villagers as the luckiest person in this village. The day before the wedding, the tour guide went to the woman's house with gifts. Sleep until the cock crows.

It was not until the girls in the village woke up the married girls and got up to beat tea with vermicelli. The girls were full of food and drink before letting the bride go out. A tour guide should be quick-thinking, articulate and not afraid of heckling. The more fun the girls have, the more they prove that the bride is the most gregarious and fresh.

The happier the mother's relatives are. Drinking camellia oleifera with vermicelli sausage means that the bride becomes a monk and the sisters are heart to heart.

Lamp changing belt

On the eve of the bride's wedding, the rooster crowed for the third time. The guide lang hung the lantern of the groom's house on the bride's door and urged it three times. The bride walked out of the door reluctantly. Before accompanying the guide on the road, the bride cut the straw rope of the lantern, took out the woven flower ribbon and tied it to show that her heart is connected with the groom.

Characteristics of Dong Nationality's Marriage Custom

"Buy American tea":

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"Beauty" is the Chinese translation of Dong language, which means the bride. On Dong's wedding day, the bride will smash oil tea once, hence the name. In the evening, the descendants of the groom's village gather at the groom's house to eat the bride's oil tea. The groom's family didn't stop him.

Consider it good luck. The younger generation tried their best to "make trouble" so that the bride had to come out to play with tea, otherwise she wouldn't stop. When the bride plays and worships camellia oleifera, if a thin thread is put in a bowl, it will string up the boiling of Ciba and fat intestines.

He is the luckiest person whom Camellia oleifera pays tribute to. When he was thinking about how to finish this bowl of camellia oleifera, the bride just came to him to collect the bowl first and urged him to drink it quickly. At this time, a room full of people's eyes were focused.

At the mention of him, he is ashamed to be like a sister-in-law The bride's camellia oleifera is romantic and funny, which adds joy to the wedding.

Catch the duck:

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In Longsheng Dong area, before a girl gets married, the man has to take a duck to the woman's house to ask for her wishes to get married, and she has to go there more than three times. If you don't eat ducks, you don't want to get married. After eating, you can book a day.

Get married and have a banquet. The first time I take a duck to a woman's house, even if her parents are very interested in the man, they will politely refuse, indicating that they are unwilling to marry their daughter. When the man carries the duck for the second time, the girl will skillfully put the duck away.

The son accepted it and tried his best not to let the ducks be slaughtered, indicating that he was reluctant to leave his parents and get married. When the man went out, he quietly stuffed the duck back to the man, as if to tell him that good things should be ground more. Only after the third time, Gu

After the mother and parents agreed, the girl reluctantly let the duck be slaughtered. At this time, men will be elated and can't wait to rush back and tell all their relatives and friends the good news. If a woman for the first time

The Fang family will kill the duck and eat it, which will be considered worthless and looked down upon by others.

Wear sandals through the pole:

It is a very important procedure for the bride to enter her husband's Tang Huojia. exist

Before that, there must be two "passes": the first "pass" is to cross the pole, that is, when the bride enters her husband's fireplace house on a sunny day, the husband inserts a pole with red silk on the floor of the fireplace house to make it look brand-new.

Mother crossed. After the bride crosses over, it means that the bride "already belongs to her husband's family, and the pole will never leave her shoulder." She is busy all year and doesn't steal time to carry water. " The second "take off" is to wear sandals. Prepare a new pair of sandals at my ex-husband's house.

Put it outside the fire pit. When the bride enters the room, she must consciously and happily put on new straw sandals, then cross the threshold and enter the fire pond house. Setting up this "pass" is to let the bride know that when the bride enters her in-laws' house, labor is her occupation and she wears sandals at her feet.

Shoulder pole, hard work, thrift.

Picking Gold Water:

The day after the bride entered her husband's house, a boy and two bridesmaids accompanied her. At this time, the bride wore national pride clothes.

Put on silver ornaments. The iron cannon rang three times and the bride went out with a bucket. The boy played a cheerful Song Lusheng to lead the way, and two bridesmaids walked in front of and behind the bride and walked to the well next to the village. People in the village listened to the sound of iron cannons and just ate.

Some people quickly put down their bowls and chopsticks, and those who did farm work immediately put down their tools. Bees flock to each roadway intersection to appreciate the bride's beautiful face and charm. The bride at this time is the most brilliant moment of her life. People in the village took the opportunity to watch the bride's wedding.

Clothes, looks, manners, etc. At this moment, the women in the village are whispering to watch the bride's embroidery, evaluating whether its skills are exquisite and whether its layout is decent and generous. This shows that his skills are exquisite and rough, diligent or lazy.

Idle. Men observe the bride's walking steps and manners, and gain insight into the bride's inner self-restraint and attitude towards labor.