After giving birth, many young people in contemporary times usually ask the old people at home to help them take care of their children, so that they can free their hands and feet to work and earn money.

It can not only give the elderly a chance to make a little contribution to the family, but also let the elderly enjoy the happiness of their children and grandchildren around their knees, which can be said to kill two birds with one stone. And I can continue to concentrate on my work and support my family's daily life. However, don't parents really regret letting the elderly help with their children?

A baby mom born after 1985 said that many years ago, after she married her husband, she had been away from home, and her mother had been very distressed about herself.

Therefore, after giving birth to the child, the mother went to her side to help take care of the child, from washing clothes, cooking to cleaning. A year later, when the child was a little older, the mother returned to her hometown.

Because I was too busy at work, I always felt that there was still a long time, so I never took my mother out to play. But this year, her mother's sudden death made her suddenly realize that she owed her mother too much.

She felt very regretful, thinking that if she could come again, no matter how difficult it was at home, she would not ask her parents to come and help with the baby, because now she only wants the elderly to enjoy their old age without worrying about the children's lives all the time.

Many people feel the same way. After all, there has been a saying since ancient times that "all the virtues's filial piety comes first", so that parents can worry less about themselves. This is filial piety and understanding.

with the growth of children, parents' bodies are gradually aging and their functions are declining. And let parents help to take care of the baby, although you can temporarily liberate yourself and devote yourself to your work, it is easy to bring some bad consequences and even make yourself regret it. So, what are the reasons?

1. Parents are aging and overworked, and their health cannot be guaranteed.

Older parents find it difficult to take care of their children for a long time, and their bodies can't bear it. If you are tired and sick, you need to take medicine, take injections and be hospitalized, and you can't be distracted to take care of your children, which makes life more difficult.

Just like my friends, no matter they are rich or poor, they can take good care of their children. Because, taking care of children, although hard and tired, but at most lost energy and financial resources, the body is still young and healthy, bite the bullet and survive. Letting parents take care of their children may lead to parents' poor health, affect their quality of life, and lead to a bad family life.

2. Parents take care of their children, both adults and children suffer, and parenting is complicated.

It is difficult to describe how much parents love their grandchildren, because many parents are strict with their children, but they love their grandchildren very much and don't even say a harsh word. On one occasion, the male host scolded the child in front of his parents, and two old people stood beside him with blue faces, distressed as hell.

Later, his parents told him not to scold the children in front of himself. They couldn't bear to see such a scene. It can be seen that young people ask their parents to help take care of their babies, while parents love their grandchildren. This kind of education, both adults and children suffer, which complicates parenting.

3. The thinking ability and physical strength are declining, so parents can't guarantee the safety of their children.

To take care of children, we should not only take good care of their diet, but also answer all kinds of questions at any time like an encyclopedia, and protect their safety. Parents' thinking is aging, their physique is declining, and their children are naughty and running around, which is difficult to cope with.

For example, when adults take children out, children often see interesting things, break away from adults and run out to play. If adults are physically weak and fail to keep up, it will be bad for children to have an accident. It is better for young people to take care of their children than for their parents to take care of their children.

4. Children are estranged from their parents, and the world is full of grandparents.

There is a saying in modern society that they are "separated parents", but it is not the case. The so-called alienation is often because parents do not participate in the growth of their children and leave them to grandparents.

As a result, children spend most of their time with grandparents, and their world is full of grandparents, so they rely too much on grandparents. Moreover, most grandparents spoil their children, and when faced with strict parents, they begin to reject and alienate.

Summary:

The pressure of life and financial difficulties have made many young parents choose to entrust their children to their grandparents, but many parents will regret it in the future. Parents' bodies are aging, their functions are declining, and their thinking is degenerating. In the process of taking care of their children, they can't cope with all kinds of unexpected situations and may be injured at any time. Plus "every generation of parents", grandparents will spoil their children too much, for fear that their children will be a little unhappy. Parents are even more unable to intervene in the later period, and children become unruly and alienated from their parents, resulting in tension in family relations.