Adults should let go to help the baby desensitize. If something happens to the baby, parents need to identify whether the baby is timid or spoiled, or for other reasons. The way to exercise your baby's courage is to encourage him and desensitize him to what he is afraid of. Some babies are cautious just because they are very sensitive, insecure in unfamiliar environment and need a long time to adapt to the new environment. ■ Nurses should not intimidate children, often blame or reprimand them, and gain self-confidence through some activities, such as taking part in physical exercise, cultivating some specialties, making some lively and cheerful friends, and encouraging children to do what they can. ■ Xie Zhenjun's courage to encourage children in time is not innate, but related to personality and acquired cultivation. I often say to my son: You are a man, and men should be brave. Men only bleed without tears. Therefore, my son still has some courage. I will take my children to some social activities whenever I have the chance. When I encounter stage fright, I will give him a thumbs-up and tell him, "Believe in yourself, you are the best!" " ■ Ma contacted my family with children. Yun Hao was born timid. When he went to get the slide, he was squeezed down from it by an older child, and he was too scared to play. My father and I decided to send Hao to kindergarten so that he could have more contact with children. I believe he won't be so timid for a long time. ■ Yun Hao's mother and children are unwilling. Don't push him too hard when you know he doesn't want to. In our nature, he will gradually find the way that suits him best. According to the book Love and Freedom, he will educate himself, and we will only help him when necessary or when he asks. ■ Before Rui Zai let the children buy things alone, the family was very timid and never paid attention to people they didn't know. Later, I often took her to some crowded places, encouraged her to talk to strange children, and often consciously let her go shopping in the supermarket near my home to exercise her courage to speak and her ability to communicate with others. Now it seems that the effect is not bad. ■ I understand MengMeng's mother's fear and fearlessness. One is to make the baby afraid, and the other is to make the baby fearless. Fear refers to electricity, fire, hot water bottles filled with hot water, etc. These are very dangerous things for the baby, and these are all things he is afraid of; Fearlessness refers to small things that don't threaten your baby's safety in general life. For example, Xiaofeng was afraid of hair dryers when she was a child. She cried when she heard the sound of the hair dryer. Later, I held the hair dryer in front of her and told her that it was used by her mother to dry her hair, so that she could feel it. Slowly Xiaofeng is not afraid of the hair dryer. ■ Ma Xiaofeng should not give children too much "preventive" education. She should avoid giving her children too much "preventive" education. In order to make them obey, she often tells them that this is not good, that is not good, and even scares them to achieve their goals. This will invisibly kill their adventurous spirit and become timid over time. As the saying goes, "Ignorance is fearless". In fact, many children are quite bold at first. ■ An Ma 'an should be brave and don't protect his timid family too much, which is the enemy to cultivate children's brave spirit. Try not to strengthen his cowardice, but encourage him to participate. Don't scare the child with what he is afraid of. Never say things like "If you can't do it, the devil will take you away" or "Don't go there, where tigers will eat you". ■ Yuanyuan's mother, I am accompanying her latest son. Don't be too far away from adults before going to bed at night. For example, I'm going to the bathroom to drink water and take me with me. I will quietly encourage him to go by himself and stay with him at the same time, but I will keep a certain distance from him if he doesn't refuse. Perhaps it was recently in "Three Little Pigs Advanced English" that I saw that the wolf would eat little pigs. I think he has reached a sensitive period of knowing fear. ■ Autumn language