I am a retiree and live on a pension. There are no excessive requirements for life anymore, as long as you have three simple meals a day.
The only thing to worry about is illness. For an only-child family, once the elderly reaches the stage of disability, that is, when someone needs to take care of them, the consequences will be disastrous!
My teacher and my eldest brother are both in their eighties and are now semi-incapacitated. One of the three children has to be taken care of by a professional, and a monthly payment of 6,000 yuan is made from the pension for the elderly.
When the day comes for us, we have no one and no money, what we will do..., I can’t imagine.
Oh, close your eyes and let’s talk about it one day at a time.
I am a retired worker and live on my pension. Our factory is a bankrupt unit. I am an early retiree and my pension is not high. I am not very old now and my legs and feet are not very good. What kind of disease is it? Although some are old and some are young. But my parents don’t want me to pay a penny, my daughter is working and independent, and I don’t have any loans to repay, so my pension is still okay, and I’m basically not stressed at the moment.
If the salary level is higher (I think), the pressure of life in the narrow sense will be less, that is, we can afford what we should buy, we have no shortage of what others have, and we don’t want to if we can’t afford it (think about it in vain) , but not true).
Whether the salary level is high or low, life pressure in a broad sense will not be small. For example, life pressure in a broad sense also includes workplace pressure. If the salary is high, workplace pressure will be greater, and the pressure of worrying about losing the job will also be greater (this It’s hard to find a job after losing it).
So sometimes a high salary level cannot be like taking antihypertensive drugs, which will lower blood pressure; the so-called high salary may make the pressure greater. Taking antipyretic drugs will make the high fever worse, screw it.
When it comes to this job, I feel a bit tired of talking about it. People want to ask, how much salary can I feel satisfied with or feel a sense of security? Why go so far? But why do we unconsciously become conflicted? For example, a high salary will make you less secure, a good diet will make your health worse, a bigger house will make you less likely to go home, and having money will make you unhappy. It's because we always discuss issues in a narrow sense, just like asking how much salary we can be satisfied with, and absolutely don't think about anything else. However, those other things have not disappeared. The problem has become a problem. Once it is out of the cage, it is no longer something that can be understood. It is just a lost self left there.
One cannot rely on the amount of stress at work, at least not entirely. Colleagues, classmates, friends, relatives, neighbors, etc., they all like to compare their salaries when they meet, and if the salary is higher, they will be ranked higher? Being rich means being high-class? Money can solve stress. Wouldn’t giving money to the depressed army cure the disease?
Salary is like a spoon. If it is too small, you will eat it frequently or ignore the appearance of the food, pick up the bowl and pour it down or just grab it with your hands. Don’t be too envious of people who eat with big spoons or shovels.
Let me tell you about my experience. I am 33 years old, and my wife is a college classmate of the same age as me. Now they have a daughter, 5 years old. My old father-in-law passed away the year before last and suffered from pancreatic cancer. The doctor had been waiting for up to 6 months after the diagnosis. My father-in-law used to do some business and had more than 100,000 yuan in savings. After careful consideration, the family decided to continue treatment. After radiotherapy and chemotherapy in Shenyang Hospital, they went to Beijing 302 for CyberKnife treatment. The subsequent maintenance and treatment in Shenyang cost a total of 160,000 yuan. Almost all my savings were spent on treatment. Three months before my father-in-law passed away, my mother called me and said that she had been diagnosed with cervical cancer. The news was like a bolt from the blue and I was at a loss. My wife and I had a combined monthly salary of 8,000 yuan. In the past, my father-in-law provided a monthly subsidy of 3,000 yuan, and my mother provided a monthly subsidy of 3,000 yuan. My wife and I lived a colorful life with our children for more than ten thousand yuan. But now all guarantees have evaporated. My mother spent 70,000 yuan on surgery. My mother’s surgery went very smoothly and she said she was diagnosed with cervical cancer stage I B in time, so the survival rate is pretty high. I was relieved. But on the first day after my mother's surgery, my wife felt a lump on her neck. Since she was in the cancer hospital, she went directly to get checked out. The result was thyroid cancer. My wife and I were confused at that time. What is going on! I won’t go into details after that, but I later learned that thyroid cancer is the mildest form of cancer and almost never kills anyone. The next week, my daughter-in-law had a thyroid removal operation in the hospital. ***Spent 50,000 yuan. Just after my wife's surgery, the child had a fever and convulsions. It scared my wife and I half to death. The rescue fee for ICU and others is more than 10,000 yuan. Two months later, my father-in-law passed away. The whole family has entered a period of stability. However, two years later, my mother-in-law felt sick with her heart. She went to the hospital for a check-up and was told that the arteries were hardened and the stent was no longer working and she had to use a bridge. The operation was successful and four bridges were built, both front and back. The total phone bill is 120,000. So far, my wife, mother, and mother-in-law are all in good health. The doctors who reviewed me said there was no problem and I was recovering well. This is why I underwent three surgeries in one year and had to go to the hospital with a broken leg. Father-in-law, lover, mother, daughter, mother-in-law. For the 33-year-old me, I feel like a different person. I have become more cheerful and don’t panic when things happen. We are still happy as a family with 8,000 yuan. With the company of my family, I feel very happy no matter how much money I spend. All the above are my real experiences. Standing at 30 is not about money, but about establishing things!
I grew up in a remote mountain village and have been living here since my childhood. After graduating from school, there are few job opportunities in the local area. I learned carpentry from a master and went to Tieling City, Chifeng City, Henan, Hubei, Inner Mongolia and Liaoning.
Under the care of my parents since I was a child, I have never suffered much. Only when you enter society can you realize the hardships of life. You have experienced all kinds of ups and downs, bitterness, spicyness and saltiness. Doing carpentry work like a weak scholar is not my true idea. When the electric saw is turned on, dust will fly and the noise will be loud. I was not comfortable with some pressure, so after a few years I switched to making sofas, Simmons mattresses and wooden beds. It's easier and tidier, and the salary is more. I have been working in Ningbo and Hangzhou for several years. The city is developing rapidly and the rent is expensive. It’s not cost-effective to demolish houses everywhere and use the work space. I changed my career and opened a small store to mobilize some working capital. The situation of small shops is booming, and the streets are closed for construction during the G2O event. If the rent of a small store is paid, there will be no business and a direct loss of funds. Later, the urban villages were renovated and demolished, causing even greater losses. Returning home and starting over all over again, life is too stressful. When I returned home and saw the prosperity everywhere, I felt better, more pleased and more confident. During this leisure time, I walked around the rooftop garden and enriched my inner thoughts. I decided not to go anywhere and find something to do in my hometown, a small city. I used to know my hometown well, but I was disappointed that development in all aspects was too slow. During this period, I began to appreciate the new look of my hometown. The Buddhist Fairy Mountain of Guoqing Temple, Chicheng Mountain, Jigong Temple, and the Buddhist Kingdom became even more beautiful. Already a national five-A scenic spot, the Shiliang Waterfall is a wonderland of nature, the Longchuan Gorge Waterfall is pure and beautiful, the azaleas in Huadingshan National Forest Park are so beautiful, the most beautiful countryside on the back bank of happiness, Hanshan Lake Swan Gray Goose The hometown of Hanshan Temple, the beautiful scenery of Fangyan Jiuzhe Mountain, the infinite scenery of Wangjiajing Observation Deck of Zining Mountain, the stunning beauty of Xingfu Reservoir, the ten-mile red maple trees on the Nanhuang Ancient Road in four seasons, the ten-mile long embankment and ten-mile peach blossoms in the small city of Pingqiao Ten Miles of Pear Blossoms and Ten Miles of Magnolia Flowers are so beautiful and beautiful. They are a model of water management in the beautiful Lei Feng Township and the highest peak on the rooftop of Dalei Mountain. Ocean 1229, 4 meters, Le'an ancient road, small bridges, flowing water, pastoral scenery, authentic and original scenery. Rooftop all area tourism large garden, beautiful countryside with flowers in full bloom. There are countless scenic spots scattered all over the place, and the Hangzhou-Shaoxing-Taizhou intercity train will be added in 2022. The rooftop tourism industry is spreading its wings and has a bright future. One industry can prosper hundreds of industries and the potential for green economic development is unlimited. I wish the small rooftop city a better future. I searched for it for more than a month last summer. I found a house in the small city streets of Pingqiao and reopened a small shop. I work and take care of my two children at the same time. It’s better to live next to my neighbors. Relatives and friends give their blessings and care, and everything goes smoothly. All kinds of certificates were obtained relatively smoothly, and there is new hope in the new year. Spring has come, a time when all things grow and flowers bloom. The light rain and sunshine illuminate the color of life, and small cities and villages are thriving everywhere. Start a new day by yourself and start again, and keep moving forward without forgetting your original intention. Keep striving for self-improvement and believe that tomorrow and the future will be better, but the pressure still exists. The mood is relaxed and full of youthful vitality. It is really good when my hometown develops. Let's work hard together and walk hand in hand, facing the wind and setting off happily...
When talking about Dalian's income, everyone sheds tears. It feels like several years have passed and the average salary has not increased much. Not to mention comparing with first-tier cities such as Beijing and Shanghai, even in the Northeast, wages are similar to those in other cities. Although I personally feel that the salary in Dalian is not high, I see the average salary on various lists rising continuously, almost 7,000, and I have mixed feelings in my heart, wondering if I have found a fake job.
As for the pressure, let alone the pressure. The cost of living in Dalian is among the top three in the country. It is much higher than Beijing. Housing prices have remained high recently. I really don’t know why. Suddenly it became popular. Of course, these are not the most difficult things. The most difficult thing is the working conditions in Dalian.
Finding a job is sometimes really difficult. A designer was rejected for an interview because he didn’t know how to operate. A salesperson couldn't find a job because he didn't know how to use Photoshop. The current employment standard in the market is that those who work in real estate need to understand accounting, and those who make videos need to understand the market. Every company wants to hire all-rounders. And don't mention that you worked in Beijing or Shanghai, and the salary was tens of thousands a month. This will make the bosses unhappy. They will say earnestly and sincerely that this is not Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou. We need down-to-earth people. After all, who can do the work?
Although I don’t earn much, the pressure is, to put it bluntly, not as big as in Beijing. The pace of life is moderate, the climate is pleasant and there is not much smog, and relatives and friends are busy and happy. Of course, this only represents my personal opinion. After all, for me, it is more suitable for a young person like me who is generally motivated. Everyone is welcome to express their opinions.
It’s okay, I don’t have to worry about the garage, and my children’s college is nothing to worry about. The salary is acceptable.
When I want to be rich, I think of Jack Ma, and when I want to be balanced, I think of Mali, Africa.
With an annual salary of 36W+ and settling in Suzhou, there is a lot of pressure. It’s painful and happy at the same time. The pain is that there are many role conflicts and it is difficult to balance. The joy is that I still have the conditions to choose.
1. Let’s talk about the roles first: as children, mothers, wives, employees, and myself. Many times at the same time, I can only give up some roles. After breakfast every day, I go to work. When I come back in the evening, it is almost time for the elderly and children to wash up and go to bed. Excluding holidays, how many dinners can I have with the elderly and children in a year? I can count them all on one hand.
What I feel most guilty about is that I owe my child too much, and I have missed too many moments of his growth. I have no control over his studies, and it all depends on the child's self-consciousness. The pressure on my child's growth is my biggest worry at the moment. His father started a business in a different place and could stay at home for one day every week. During that day, he was busy dealing with various things. Children who lack the company and communication of their parents for a long time are very sensitive. And the inner self, the time after get off work is too limited, even having a meal with friends feels like a luxury, and I feel that the time is enough to tell the children a story before they go to bed, and I start to go crazy, and I will also Take out your unbalanced anger on the children. Just like the saying "If you choose to work, I will accompany you; if you choose to accompany you, I will not be able to support you."
2. Let’s talk about income. My husband has started his business in the past few years, but it has not been completely smooth. He has great financial pressure and energy needs, and cannot provide other support, so he tries his best to support the family. Just like I was thinking about resigning a few days ago, I gave up the idea after calculating the accounts: the mortgage loan is tens of thousands, the car loan is tens of thousands, the children’s interest classes are tens of thousands, the daily expenses of eating at home are tens of thousands, and the parents-in-law are fishermen and have no retirement salary. Supporting tens of thousands, taking the elderly and children to see the outside world requires money for regular travel, money for driving a car, money for dinner parties with friends, and money for various places. Calculated, these incomes are simply not enough for me.
3. Let’s talk about the future. I feel a little anxious inside. Looking at the children who have no one to accompany them every day, I always want to balance family and life. But at present, apart from salary income, there is no other capital income to solve the problem of food and clothing if you don't work. This is where we have failed in recent years. There is also the self in her heart, which she has always left there, with no time to realize... But time is passing quickly day by day.
The earlier you plan, the earlier you work hard, the earlier you strive for your dreams, the sooner you will block stress in its path.
I currently have no salary, only pension. Nearly five thousand yuan is just a social security card. I only enjoy all the household expenses without taking any responsibility. I just thought of bringing some fruit back when it is convenient. For a person who has very little money and likes to spend money at will, this cost is very tight. The transportation fee is at least 200 yuan, and sometimes you can take a taxi on the bus or subway. The phone bill is more than 100 yuan, and I really haven’t looked into how it is composed. Breakfast changes every day, so you can explore what Shanghai has to offer that suits your taste. I stopped smoking and drinking, and saved thousands of dollars. I am an active participant in online shopping. I buy clothes, shoes, hats, fruits and groceries for fun. Although I have only tried this kind of expenditure for two months, I am very uncomfortable with it. There is a Chinese saying that if the tongue cannot lick the tip of the nose, it is indeed not enough. As a retiree, I should spend as much as I want without excessive restrictions. I should at least have around 10,000 yuan per month so that I can be a little more flexible! I can only slowly learn to adapt to the new situation. Life is flexible. If I don't travel and eat and drink a lot, I shouldn't have any big expenses. I also saved some money for medical treatment. There is no need to buy books, e-books are not expensive to download. Take a step back and think about it, many families still rely on this little money to support their families! Looking at the situation in the past two months, I wonder if things will turn around? It is said that the elderly are going to take medicine and cannot rely on their families, but the government still has hope! Just too little.