I am a northerner and have lived in the south for several years. I personally think that there are still big differences between the north and the south on the issue of dowry, or there are also big differences in how this matter is handled. In the eyes of northerners, dowry can be discussed and negotiated, and the requirements for dowry in the north are not too high. Take me personally as an example. When I married my husband, our family only accepted my husband. 50,000 yuan in cash was used as a betrothal gift, but after I got married, our family added another 50,000 yuan to the 50,000 yuan betrothal gift as my dowry and sent it to the groom’s family. In fact, many northerners now use dowry This is how this issue is handled.

Because in the north, handling things like this not only makes outsiders think that the woman’s dowry is quite generous, but also improves the face of the family, and can also solve some of the financial problems caused by the man’s dowry. loss, or the dowry is used as a kind of financial compensation to the man.

On the contrary, the South does not seem to be as tolerant as the Northerners when it comes to the issue of dowry. I know that in some places, there is no dowry at all or even a very small dowry when marrying off a daughter. Because generally southerners believe that marrying a daughter should require a betrothal gift, but dowry is optional. If you must give a dowry, you can only give some cash or other gifts, but these things are only symbolic and do not have much practical help.

In fact, in ancient times, people regarded this matter as very important, whether it was a betrothal gift or a dowry, because it reflected the man's respect for the woman, while the dowry reflected the woman's regard for her daughter. , so when preparing the dowry, it will be extra generous. This will also prevent the man from looking down on his natal family when his daughter marries to the south. To a large extent, northerners have followed this custom, while southerners seem to have less inheritance of this custom, or there is no such custom at all, so the dowry issue in the south is dispensable. attitude.