2, your mother is strong, high quality, and demanding of people. She is a relative perfectionist, being mean to others, almost tolerant of others, and lacking empathy.

Your mother-in-law is of low quality. She has been spoiled since she was a child, regardless of her family. She is a self-centered person, and caring for others is quite strange to her.

4. You have a good quality, but you don't know how to deal with family conflicts, so that you know your mother's character, but you didn't do your work well in advance and had little communication with your daughter-in-law and your mother, which made your mother angry with your daughter-in-law.

You are the only one who really knows the situation on both sides! And in the process of dealing with all this, you stay out of it, and everything is your fault! Don't be wronged, it is your weakness "incompetence" that caused today's situation, and the big mistake lies with you!

What should we do?

First, you have the most favorable conditions, and only you have them, that is: everyone values you and cares about you!

You must be strong, you must be the master!

Second, you also have disadvantages. Your life experience is far from enough to be the head of the family! But you can do it well and be reasonable in everything! It is reasonable to travel around the world. You just need to think carefully before taking measures. There is always a way!

Third, pay attention to two principles: 1, mother is mother, mother-in-law is mother, and wife's mother is mother!

2, you must be strong, big ideas must be taken by you! You must have the final say!

According to what you said, where to spend the New Year is just an immediate problem, that is, it is solved, and it is only a temporary solution. The key is to cure the problem! The fundamental solution is to strengthen communication, and both sides should put themselves in their own shoes. You must play the role of this bridge. In the end, both sides can understand each other and treat each other politely.

First, communicate with your mother: 1, affirm your mother's thoughts and practices, affirm your mother's good training and teaching, and affirm that everything she does is for your own good! 2, objectively analyze the mistakes of both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, pay attention to the mother's opinion to be a little easygoing, and focus on explaining why they are like this! That's the point! 3. Talk about the advantages of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The key is how good it is for you and how good it is for your grandson! You must make it clear to your mother that a leopard cannot change his spots, and it is difficult for us to change a person by force. It is very important for people to get along with each other and tolerate each other. Then give an example of what you said, such as your mother going out to sell vegetables. A simple fact is: if a daughter-in-law knows that her mother has gone shopping, how can she do that? Mom must have misunderstood! It must be! We must make this clear, and then guide the mother to communicate more in everything and treat the daughter-in-law as her own daughter. Step back and ask our mother: Will she be so angry if you unplug it? I'm afraid not. Don't you treat your daughter-in-law as your daughter! I just give you an example. You should think more about it. There is no fundamental contradiction between the two sides, but some different understandings or ways of dealing with people. 5. Purpose: To eliminate the misunderstanding between the two sides through you; Taboo: let mom think you are partial to each other;

Second, push with your daughter-in-law and mother-in-law in the same way.

Third, after communication, tell your predicament and your difficulties! This is when you are strong. After communication, be sure to speak out your troubles! Don't keep anything! How sad, then cry loudly!

1, mom is mom, I love; A daughter-in-law is a daughter-in-law, and I love her. Although my mother-in-law is not my mother, she is not an ordinary person, but my daughter-in-law's mother. I must respect her, otherwise I have no morality! No culture! I waste my life, too!

2. Ask your mother, ask your daughter-in-law, ask your mother-in-law, whether you care or not! Ask them how they are in your position and what they will do. Ask them to be human and do things, and care about each other! Ask them which one you can abandon. Which one can offend? Ask them, can you wronged yourself for your own happiness? For you, can you give me a face!

3. Ask them how much they love you, and ask them to understand your difficulties! Ask them: Do their hopes make you miserable, or do their hopes make you live safely in the distance in the new year? Do they want you to suffer? You must speak out your pain and let them know that the real pain is you! Let them know that if you continue to insist on not giving in, it will be against you and make you feel uncomfortable! Only you have this capital, play this down a peg or two! )

As for the next step, you should master the specific situation yourself, and it is best to do it years ago: find a place outside and have dinner together. This meal is very important. You must play the leading role. What can I say? I won't teach you to swim. Find your own way! Giving both sides face is the key. Both sides are here at this time, and you are the grandson. At this time, you should thank both sides for being reasonable! Thank them for their great contribution to you and your family! Give your mother enough, give your daughter-in-law enough and give your mother-in-law enough face!

Take this contradiction as a lesson! You should sum up your role in the family! Never stay out of it, you must be the protagonist who controls everything! Only you have all the conditions!

If everything in front is meaningless to both sides, there are two ways:

1, stating that you are not going anywhere until the problem is solved, you are homeless and have nowhere to go, and you decide to stay in a hotel!

2, the man has gold under his knee, kneeling in the sky, kneeling on his parents, and the two mothers disagree, so you can't get up directly!

I don't believe it! You can't take it off!

When a gentleman does things, home is fundamental. What can you do without a solid rear? What's the point of doing it!

A man who can't handle housework well is also a fool and extremely irresponsible. The life of three women, if you don't go on stage, there will be no protagonist in the play. It's a silly play! Life is like a play! Sing well! I believe you can handle it!

Thank me. Ha ... Happy New Year and family harmony! The baby grows up healthily!