Family introduction, marriage. A matchmaker can be a relative, friend, acquaintance or a special matchmaker. They are suitable for each other, age and family. ...
This is basically not the case now.
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In fact, they all use the customs of Qingdao, but Laoshan is also different from others. Basically, it is universal, and sometimes it is according to the habits of my hometown. I don't need to tell you this! ! !
At present, the bride price for marriage proposal is: 3 1800 yuan, which means that the three families can send it together. If the conditions are good, Wan Li will choose 1 which means 1, and then the woman will return it to the man, ranging from 1 1,000 yuan. At the same time, the man's home should bring hardware. Generally, the man buys a house and the woman buys electrical appliances to prepare bedding.
Some people say that there are six kinds of traditional engagement gifts: six pounds of meat (across the board), six fish, six bottles of wine, six pounds of sugar (six boxes are ok), six vermicelli (tied with red lines) and six pounds of snacks (six boxes are ok).
Each of the above betrothal gifts (except meat, as the saying goes, the daughter is the mother's meat and is reluctant to give it to others) will generally be returned from the woman's house to the man's house, with two to four copies each.
Besides, there are other things, such as engagement ring, gift money (also called engagement money), two red envelopes, two red belts, and at least two sets of clothes (as the saying goes, mother-in-law's coat is handed down to the old). The woman's family should prepare a new pair of shoes for the man (called husband's shoes).
At the engagement ceremony, both men and women should change their parents' names, and both parents should prepare small change (600 ~ 1000 yuan). Generally, the man's house should go to the woman's house before noon, and the woman's house will invite the guests of the man's house to dinner at noon. After dinner, the man's family will return to their homes before sunset. The engagement ceremony is over.
There are many customs in Laoshan Mountain:
Don't wave back when the bride goes out.
Don't cry when the bride goes out. On the one hand, it is unlucky, on the other hand, it will destroy makeup.
When getting off the bus, the bride and groom should get off from the same side, and don't get off separately, otherwise it will be unlucky.
Pregnant people should not attend weddings.
Eat jiaozi at the bride's house, leave even numbers in the bowl, and eat noodles. Then the man asked if the noodles were born by the bride. Said that life is about having a BB.
Let me tell you the procedure: although it's not from Laoshan, it's from Qingdao, and it basically has everything:
About 12 months after engagement
Buy an engagement ring
Choose a religious ceremony or a folk ceremony
Choose the venue or venue of the ceremony and consult the online handbook of aristocratic weddings.
The two agreed on the form and theme of the wedding.
Decide on the best date and time for the wedding
Choose the best man and usher (about one usher is needed for every 50 guests)
If the wedding is held in a church, make an appointment first, and then make sure that every detail is all right (documents, prohibitions, fees, pianist, choir, flowers and other ceremonies).
If you want to hold a civil wedding, confirm every detail with the registrar and find a witness.
Arrange a wedding banquet
Six months before marriage
Prepare guest list. You need your parents' help in this matter to ensure that no guests are left behind.
Decide the catering problems at the wedding banquet, especially the menu.
Please have a DL music couple or other entertainment.
Order clothes for the groom and the male tribe and solve the accommodation problem on the wedding night.
Choose the flower type, banquet and some small details.
Looking for photographers and cameramen
Arrangements for wedding insurance
Decide the date of honeymoon and get ready.
Make sure your passport is valid and get another visa if necessary.
If you get pregnant on your honeymoon, get ready now.
Prepare a check for the honeymoon trip.
Three months before marriage
Discuss the wedding invitation with your fiancee, write it now and send it out.
Start choosing gifts
Discuss the problems in the ceremony and the order of the ceremony.
Discuss with the pianist which song to choose.
An order form for the ordering ceremony.
Buy wedding rings and arrange insurance.
When they receive the gift, write them a thank-you letter.
To solve the accommodation problems for friends in other cities, it is best to solve these problems in the invitation letter, especially if you want to get married on holiday, then you should tell others early.
Book wedding balloons
Both the bride's father and the best man have prepared their own speeches.
Buy clothes and luggage for honeymoon trip.
One month before marriage
Get your seat card ready.
If you want to get married in church, know the relevant taboos in advance.
Let everyone present know their responsibilities and arrange a rehearsal for dinner with the best man, bridesmaid and usher.
Confirm the number of participants and menu requirements
Start writing a speech
Only arrange a men's ball with the best man.
Buy gifts for the bride, best man, parents and ushers.
A week before the wedding
Tell the usher your suggestion about the seating arrangement.
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Prepare honeymoon luggage and buy some necessary things.
Make arrangements for the wedding.
If you want to use the car on your honeymoon, check to see if everything is all right.
Check honeymoon plans for the last time.
Arrange a group of people to return the rented clothes after the wedding.
The day before the wedding
Get the clothes ready to take away, and bring the box for the party.
Give the best man a set of spare keys for other cars and the fees for church service.
Send the articles or photos you want to publish to the media.
Make a copy of your marriage certificate.
Thank your parents for their help.
★ Wedding Special Tips ★
1. Try not to set the wedding on the weekend. Most people want to relax on weekends. If you hold a wedding at this time, they have to choose between a holiday and your wedding. If you really want to have a wedding on the weekend, you should be prepared to entertain guests all weekend.
Don't forget to write your wedding vows. This is not out of conformity, but to show your love for each other and add luster to your's wedding.
There should be no silence between the ceremony and the wedding banquet.
4. Prepare vehicles to transport guests from afar from the ceremony site to the wedding reception site;
5. Don't let the DJ play the music too loudly at the wedding reception;
6. Discuss with the person in charge of the shower and leave a time interval between each dish;
7, don't ignore the dietary taboos of guests, you can launch some special dishes;
8. Arrange seats for guests and put numbers on the table to remind guests to sit in their seats. When arranging seats, arrange the guest seats of the bride and groom in the same row to avoid being suspected of being separated.
9. Arrange your own meals according to the specific time of the wedding. You need something to eat or make brunch in the morning. In the afternoon, if there is a wedding, we will eat some food before meals. If you have a wedding in the evening, you can have an adequate dinner, and the person who takes the shower can help you choose the right menu.
10, don't omit champagne.
1 1. At the banquet, you two newlyweds should talk to your family and guests between showers.
12, let the waiter assist the photographer and the caterer to complete the task, and they will certainly be willing to lend a helping hand;
13, discuss with your fiance where to spend your honeymoon, how to live, and how long to stay. These details must always be considered carefully;
14, don't spend all your savings on this honeymoon. Choosing off-season travel or going to an all-inclusive resort will save a sum of money;
15, do what you can, the wedding date is tight, and your body will be overloaded. When your body is overdrawn, pay attention to the signal it sends and pay attention to your body;
16, don't be overwhelmed by wedding preparations. Trivial things like buying food are divided into several parts. Call friends and family from time to time to adjust. Since you are all interested in buying clothes on Saturday and lying to the person who serves the shower, you might as well take time out to go to the movies and relax.
17. Pay attention to rest. The pressure at this stage is relatively high. You need more sleep and flexibility. If you are always tired in the morning, you should sleep for nine to ten hours every day. Don't treat the guest list as a pillow book. Before going to bed, find a recent best seller or some relaxing magazines to entertain yourself.
Mastering these treasures, your wedding will be unimpeded all the way, and with our careful director, I believe your wedding performance will come to a successful conclusion, leaving unforgettable memories in the hearts of every participant.
★ How to choose bridesmaids and groomsmen ★
1. When choosing the right best man, you must be careful and careless. Your close friends in college, brothers, cousins, and even primary school classmates who haven't seen you for years may all be vying to be the best man, but no matter who the best man is, he should at least know something about bridesmaids. If you're worried about choosing the right best man, take a look at our suggestions-
The best man and bridesmaid have to wait.
The number of best men can be decided according to personal preference, and there is no special restriction. Traditionally, it is best for the best man and bridesmaid to remain of the same sex, although it depends entirely on you and your financial ability. If you want fewer groomsmen, but don't want to offend friends or male relatives, you can let them be greeters. They can show their seats to the guests in ordinary clothes like others. This will not offend anyone, but also avoid the bad reputation of poor hospitality.
3. Brothers and sisters can do it
Choosing the best man is not your business. Your bride may have already planned to let her favorite brother be the best man. As long as this guy is not annoying, you'd better make him the best man. On the contrary, if you want your closest sister to be the maid of honor, the bride will agree. There is no need to follow the tradition completely on this issue, and if you two are open-minded, your sister can stand on your side and play the traditional role of best man, and the bride's brother can accompany her.
Only responsible people are suitable.
Who should I choose? The best man should have some taste, because he is going to propose a toast at the wedding reception. Of course you don't want him to say anything inappropriate. He should also be responsible, because he will keep the ring that the groom gave to the bride at that time. In addition, most importantly, he must be very humorous, because the groom's bachelor party before marriage is organized by the best man. Choose an activist in your life as the best man. If you don't find out that you and your best man have a lot in common until the night before the wedding, it's too late. What you need at this time is not nervousness, but a reassuring best man to accompany you before, during and after the wedding. Keep this in mind, and you won't mistake those who forget their rings, get drunk or be absent-minded at the wedding for the best man. Take the right step and you can relax.
★ Wedding emcee ★
Nowadays, at weddings, there is usually a well-worded host who holds a grand wedding for the couple, creating a happy and peaceful atmosphere with short words. It is not a simple matter to make the couple feel happy and sacred, and to let hundreds of guests share the passion of the wedding.
So choosing an excellent host becomes the core of the success of the wedding. Never listen to hearsay when determining the wedding emcee. It's best to know more about this person's intuitive information, such as video materials, or what he saw with his own eyes, so that you can know whether his hosting style is suitable for you, so that you can make a choice and make a request. After that, before the wedding, you'd better make an appointment with the host to discuss the procedure and content of the wedding, and finally put forward your specific requirements. I believe that an elegant and humorous host will definitely add a happy atmosphere to your wedding.
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Wedding procedure
1. The master of ceremonies announced the start of the wedding, played music, and the couple entered.
2. Friends and relatives sprinkle flowers for the couple, and the couple slowly walk onto the stage in the wedding March.
Flower girl presented flowers to the new couple to bless them.
4. Speech by the officiating person
5. The witness issues a marriage certificate to the new couple.
6. Newcomers exchange tokens and raise their glasses.
7. Both parents addressed the guests.
8. Newcomers offer tea to their parents
9. Worship heaven and earth
10. The couple thanked the guests.
★ Wedding vocabulary ★
Leaders, friends, relatives,
Life can have several most unforgettable and happiest moments. Today is really exciting, happy and unforgettable from the heart. Today, I married my lover. Our elders, relatives, close friends and leaders came from afar to attend our wedding celebration, which brought joy, joy and sincere wishes to today's wedding. Taking this opportunity, let's sincerely thank our parents who raised us, our leaders for their concern and our friends for their blessings.
I also want to thank my parents-in-law. Please believe that I will love my wife forever. Through our hardworking and intelligent hands, I will definitely create a happy family.
Finally, please share a happy evening with us.
I wish you all the best and your dreams come true.
Thank you, Xin Lang; Xin Niang:
Speech by model parents
Distinguished guests: Hello everyone!
Today is the wedding day of my daughter (son) * * * and * * *. Thank you for coming. I would like to express my warmest welcome and heartfelt thanks!
Fate married my daughters (sons) * * * and * *, and I am very happy as a parent. They met, knew each other, fell in love, and became today's husband and wife. From now on, I hope they can respect each other, love each other, understand each other and help each other, and create their own bright future with their own intelligence and hard-working hands.
Finally, I wish them both a happy wedding and happiness.
Thank you!
★ How to choose a supervisor ★
Color selection and style selection
Whether the wedding goes smoothly or successfully, it is particularly important to choose a competent wedding director.
Choosing a producer is the first problem to be solved in your whole wedding, because after the producer is determined, all the details of the wedding can be entrusted and discussed. Of course, this is on the premise that you must choose a competent producer first. With a good supervisor, the wedding is twice as effective. And if you choose an incompetent supervisor, then you will have a headache.
How to choose a supervisor? The following are some experiences for your reference:
1, find someone you can trust. Most people like to use close relatives and friends because they can do their duty. That's right. You don't trust him and entrust him with the banquet. You are worried that he will take advantage of the loopholes to buy cigarettes, and you are worried that he will shoddy. Why bother? Let's find someone we can trust. Of course, if you can't find the right person among the people you trust, you might as well let the trusted person be his deputy. With proper planning, the specific matters will be handled by the deputy, which also saves a lot of worries.
2. Find a responsible person. To be a supervisor, you must first have a sense of responsibility, whether you are a relative or a friend. If you find that he is always absent-minded and indifferent to your affairs, you should make a decision as soon as possible.
3. Look for people who do things neatly and have a plan. If the person you choose is usually upside down and there is no planning procedure, then a good relationship is useless.
4. Find people who are familiar with the people around you and the woman. This kind of supervisor is more efficient because there are many things he needs to arrange. If he is familiar with the helper you invited, he will be much more capable. If he knows nothing about you and your girlfriend, it doesn't matter. Take him to contact you and your girlfriend more at once.