In the countryside, when someone dies, everyone in the village will come to help with the funeral. Among the helpers, there must be a general manager to handle everything in the funeral. The main family is a dutiful son, just kneel in front of the coffin and cry with relatives and friends who come to mourn, kowtow to relatives and friends and offer mourning clothes, and leave everything else to the general manager.
After the general manager arranged for the deceased to put the bed board, the first thing he did was to send people everywhere to report the funeral. Then, draw a list, send someone to buy food, and set up a financial office.
But the manager is the manager, not the host of funeral etiquette, and the host is one level lower than the manager. The manager presided over the whole funeral and presided over the ceremony before the spirit. The filial son and relatives and friends who come to mourn should obey the command of the host, who shouts in front of the spirit and presides over the performance of the filial son and relatives and friends.
In the mourning shed, the male and female dutiful sons knelt on the left and right sides of the mourning bed and presided over the mourning hall on the left. When they saw the people who came to pay their respects, they shouted to the filial sons, "Guest crane!" " ! The dutiful sons are busy bowing down. The crane comes, the dutiful son cries, the mother crane comes, and the dutiful son cries.
When the hanger knelt in front of the spirit and cried three times, the host shouted "Please"! Suspended man stopped crying, got up and pushed the golden mountain to pour the jade column, and then knelt down to kowtow to the spirit. After kowtowing four times, the master shouted to the dutiful sons, "Return the gift"! Filial sons are busy kowtowing to the hanger, ending the spirit of the hanger.
If the person who comes to hang is an official or a classmate and colleague of the dutiful son, they don't cry on their knees, just salute, and the host shouts "guest hanging"! The dutiful sons knelt down, and then the master shouted to the hanger, "Bow! Two bows! Three bows! Bow again! After the ceremony. " Turn around and shout to the dutiful sons: "Return the gift"!
On his deathbed, the host shouted, "Please look at the last side of the world!" ! When the coffin was closed, the master shouted, "The dutiful son offered an axe, and invited all relatives in the world to disembark!" " ! Relatives picked up axes in turn and nailed them one by one.
On the day of the funeral, a farewell ceremony or road sacrifice ceremony was held. The guests who presided over the farewell ceremony and road sacrifice shouted "Farewell relatives and friends salute before the spirit"!
The relatives and friends of the hanger stepped forward in turn, presided over the lighting of a column of incense and handed it to relatives and friends. Relatives and friends put a column of incense in the incense burner, and then the host shouted, "kneel down!" Goodbye! Kowtow! Second, kowtow! Three kowtows! Provoke again! " Turn around and shout to the dutiful sons: "Return the gift"!
At the time of burial, the host shouted, "Please come forward and look at the coffin position!" ! The relatives were satisfied, each grabbed a handful of soil and sprinkled it on the coffin, and then the dutiful sons grabbed a handful of soil and sprinkled it on the coffin. When they are buried, the owner will make the coffin three times longer, and his duty will be over.
These are what rural white owners should shout.
Presided over the rural white affairs.
A broken mirror is hard to round. Parting relatives, feelings are unsustainable!
Dear guests, friends and relatives, good evening! Today is the day when boss xx died. Here, you invited our Oriental Performing Arts Company. Come with a very sad heart. Here, on behalf of all our actors, I express my deep condolences for the death of Mr. xx! And express my sincere respect to every friend and family who came to mourn! Boss xx left us in xx, xx, XX! At the age of 75!
People have joys and sorrows, and the moon has ups and downs. Life and death are inevitable in the world, and there are points and combinations. Although the boss of xx is far away from us, his voice, his face and his smile will always remain in our hearts and those of his descendants. Xx boss's life is a glorious life! It is a life of diligence and housekeeping! He devoted his life selflessly to the land where he was raised. And build an immortal monument on this hot land! Life is beautiful like spring flowers and death is beautiful like autumn leaves! This is also a brilliant portrayal of xx boss's life!
Here, I also hope that filial children and grandchildren will feel sorry for their losses. Turn grief and pain into motivation, inherit the unfinished legacy of xx boss and carry forward your family! I also believe that xx boss will bless all relatives and friends in the spirit of heaven.
The custom of doing white things varies from place to place! After the death of people here, everyone in our family invited someone who knew etiquette to preside over the funeral. People addressed him as "Sir" and this "Sir" was in charge of the whole funeral. Before mourning, filial piety was wrapped around the heads of filial sons and daughters. They circled around the dead for three times and then burned incense and paper money for the dead.
The funeral period is decided by Mr. Wang. At that time, Mr. Wang shouted, "The sun rises and sets in the west, and the deceased is gone, and he will not return to his hometown. Please help the neighbors, relatives and friends in the group stay up late. Memorabilia of pain hall, filial piety and worry. A table is four squares, and eight guests sit on one. Without good food, there is no good soup. Please forgive me for the simple meal. " I can hear the meaning of this passage. "Sir" means to thank you for your help to the deceased, brother.
The next step is burial. We have the custom of mine clearance here. Mr. Wang swept a leaf back and forth, and then read: "It's an auspicious day of the zodiac, and heaven and earth are open. Mr. Bai He came here to visit the grave for the funeral." When he sweeps oriental wood, the wood is swept out with life, and the dead are swept into the coffin; Second, the fire in the south swept away the living soul, desperate to sweep into the coffin, three swept into the west, four swept into the north and five swept into the center. These parties are all the same, six swept out the living soul, desperate to sweep in, seven swept out the living soul, the dead swept in, eight swept out the pigs, sheep, cattle and horses, the feet of birds and animals swept out the living soul, desperate to sweep in, and nine swept out the soul to play around. These words hope that the dead have been buried and the living are happy and healthy.
Generally speaking, white things are called that on our side.
I read the title, as if I wanted to be a funeral master.
The funeral is too complicated, and it will take you a day to explain, so I want to make a brief statement.
Funeral: When someone dies, it is necessary to handle all the affairs and bury the deceased in the old grave, which is to handle the funeral.
Funeral description: If people are dying, children should stay with them and wait quietly. Whatever happens. Do not cry. First of all, please have a haircut, take a bath, wash your feet and cut your nails. Then, the Qing people put on clothes and changed all the old clothes. There are three floors inside and outside, five sets and seven sets. The coats are all blue. You don't need to buckle them. You need to tie them with rope ends. People should wear clothes before they die. After death, the child will cry bitterly. Then some people began to help. From then on, the dutiful sons will all go to give Lu a wake, and the mourners will be arranged by the clansmen, but the dutiful sons can't leave Lu's spirit.
There are many things after that, such as funeral ceremonies. First, by the supervisor, second, by the ceremony, third, please post the ceremony (too many, I don't explain it), fourth, by the rack, fifth, please the official, sixth, by the rack, seventh, please post, eighth, please the prime minister post, ninth, please Sir Zhong.
Open and save paste type:
First, Qi Shu invited relatives and friends to use stickers, second, invited guests to attend the funeral, third, Qi Shu and her family sent commemorative stickers, and fourth, thanked the funeral.
Another example is divination: the form of fathers' and fathers' funeral, the form of parents' funeral, the funeral of parents' death, the funeral of parents' failure to report their death, the funeral of brothers, the funeral of parents, how to write the obituaries of men and women, and various titles such as funeral in-laws and dutiful sons.
Another example is the funeral explanation, which is too complicated to describe.
Today, it is only said that after one person died, the dutiful son invited the chief officer, deacon, Sir Zhong, Li Xiang and master of ceremonies (presiding), and all funeral procedures were presided over by master of ceremonies, step by step according to the rules. The above miscellaneous items are no longer discussed, starting with the master of ceremonies. One is greeting banners and vertical banners, which are gone now, no matter what. Second, at the temple fair ceremony, the master of ceremonies led the filial son and daughter-in-law into the temple or ancestral temple, or burned incense paper to cry about their feelings. (Not much). The third is to sweep the grave, where a daughter-in-law goes to worship and kowtow (not detailed).
The following points:
First, burn paper. Before the funeral, there were guests, relatives, friends, neighbors, clansmen and dutiful sons. The ceremony was sung by the master of ceremonies: the dutiful son went out of the house, the deacon did his own thing, the dutiful son approached the place, and the shift was neat. The dutiful son and his relatives and friends went forward, knelt down, fired a gun, played music, the deacon burned incense paper, the dutiful son wailed, and the mourners bowed down to the deceased: kowtow once, kowtow again, kowtow three times, and the dutiful son stood up. Stand up, stop, the dutiful son enters the room and quits class.
The second kind is buried (into the coffin), that is, sacrificed on the coffin.
Master of ceremonies sings: Deacons, dutiful sons, relatives and friends are in place. All the filial sons and daughters put the body of the deceased into the coffin, with the eldest son holding his head, the children holding his feet and the daughter-in-law holding the body into the coffin. The master of ceremonies sang "Xiao Jing" to wash the face, straighten the body, touch the mouth, face and eyes for the deceased, and the uncle watched and listened. The dutiful son goes out of Lu, and the dutiful son is near. Deacons perform their duties and shift neatly. The dutiful sons knelt down, fired 24 shots and played music. The dutiful sons stood up and went into Lu to pay tribute to the body of their dead father or mother. They mourned with the coffin. They watched it three times. Deacons covered the coffin and nailed it, while dutiful sons held the coffin and cried. Stop mourning. The dutiful son left home and went back to work, and the sacrifice began. Sacrifice the first item, fire a gun (24 shots) and come on. Stop. Second, a dutiful son asked Mr. XX to write a eulogy for the deceased, accompanied by funeral music. Third, burn big paper. The deacon fired a gun and played music. The dutiful son went near to burn incense paper for the deceased and got up and entered the class. There is a dutiful son, kneeling, four knocks, one knock, another knock, three knocks, four knocks, the dutiful son gets up, the dutiful son bows, then bows, and then bows. Stand up, kneel down again, observe three minutes of silence, stop mourning, get up, stop music, and the dutiful son will go to Lu and leave work.
Third, the funeral (coffin) is on the way.
Master of ceremonies sings: Deacons do their own things, shelves approach, guns are fired and lights are lit. Deacons hold incense pots, move incense burners, and move incense cases. The deacons held the incense pot on their son's head, and the deacons carried the coffin out of the house and put it on the shelf. The deacon carried the coffin out of the house. The filial son threw away the old basin, and the funeral was over. The coffin is on the way, and the dutiful son mourns.
The rest are road sacrifices, in which the official gives a eulogy, detailing the hardships, hardships and achievements of his life, mourning his grief and indignation at the loss of his elders, comforting the deceased on the road and wishing them a safe life in heaven.
Let's not talk about the meal ceremony, the road ceremony, the burial ceremony, the round grave ceremony and so on.
The custom of Shouguang, Shandong Province is roughly the same. In the morning, before dinner, I am filial to my family, a gentleman who knows manners, called Li Sheng for short. He took his eldest son to thank his neighbors for helping with the funeral.
At noon, according to the arrangement of cabinet affairs, the foreign cabinet is responsible for bookkeeping and collecting sacrifices, that is, cash, and then the gift students lead the guests to pay homage to the dead, the elders call the guests, the younger generation calls the spirit guests, and the filial family bows to mourn and accompany them. When the coffin was lifted, Li Sheng held up a kitchen knife and shouted: The kitchen knife is bright, and I will take the lead for the dead, good luck and the funeral.
Then the volunteers carried the urn from home to the street, and then the eldest son smashed the basin, tore up the funeral notice and sent the coffin to the cemetery with tears.
Some things are omitted, etiquette. . . I hope friends will forgive me.
In order to welcome the guests and friends who came to pay their respects, the bereaved family set up a mourning shed at the main entrance. The coffin of the deceased was placed at the main entrance, and the filial daughter was placed in the room. The filial man knelt on both sides of the mourning shed, and the enlarged photo of the deceased was hung near the door. There is a funeral table under the photo, with two hosts on both sides. When the guests and friends mourned, the host outside the mourning shed shouted: The guests who mourned have arrived, and the host inside the shed shouted loudly. So he knelt down and raised his mourning staff and bowed to the mourners to show his gratitude. After the guests finished the ceremony, the host outside the shed gently pulled the guests up, and the host inside the shed shouted: Return the gift. So the guests and friends bowed, and the dutiful son raised his staff and kowtowed. After the ceremony.
Murakami took charge of Baishi's funeral. We called him a guest star, and now we call him the director-general of the Council!
In rural areas, the situation is different.
What I shout the most in my hometown is. When the distinguished guests came to pay their respects, a middle-aged man who knew etiquette presided over the pick-up and drop-off of the guests and friends. First of all, welcome guests and friends to the gate and call a number loudly. This is a place where relatives and friends come to hang out and watch the excitement. Filial sons and grandchildren line up to meet them. After the hanging ceremony, drink a farewell gift (guests and friends will leave temporarily because there are too many guests and friends, so they can only be separated). Go out and sing and drink the most! After the ceremony, the host family will stay for dinner. Drinking before meals: relatives and friends come to mourn! The host's service is not good, and the guest's service is not good! The table is high! Step on the pedal! More soup and less vegetables! Inadequate preparation! Not ready! I hope friends and relatives will forgive me! Forgive me a lot! After the ceremony! Dinner!
I have heard the old man talk about how the hostess presided over white affairs in the old society. At that time, the hostess was called a drinking ceremony student, and only a large family would hire a drinking ceremony student to preside over it, which shows the noble style of others. What are the rules for the students to preside over the drinking ceremony? Because most old people are illiterate, I don't know what he is reading. They only know that the drinker asks the dutiful son to kowtow and then kowtow, and then the dutiful son's wife also kowtows.
This was a situation in which nothing was taken care of in the old society.
At present, the director of rural white affairs is called a deacon here, and the deacon is responsible for bowing back to the guests who come to mourn. After waking up, I am responsible for calling relatives and friends in a certain place to pay homage in order. After the memorial service, the coffin was carried to the cemetery for burial.
The problem of the topic is very big, just like the previous fourteen "friends" said; Although many factors such as hosting style, hosting style, customs and habits have achieved the same goal, they are diversified. Take Suqian in northern Jiangsu as an example: whoever presides over the wedding, funeral and wedding is called the "big manager", which means that on the right day, the power of the big manager is above everything else, and both the victim and the helper must obey the arrangement of the big manager. On this day, the general manager has the greatest power!
Of course, whether you are a manager or a host, you must first have the ability to improvise, as well as local customs and habits and long-term accumulated experience in weddings and funerals. In fact, it is to use a new term as a waiter. For example, when to let the guests eat, when to let the dutiful son thank him for hanging himself, when to let the shopkeeper carry the coffin as a pledge, when to go to the temple to say goodbye, when some doors are wide open, you can show off a few more people, then go to the temple to say goodbye, and finally pray for the land god to register the dead in the groundbreaking temple, and so on. Many funeral customs should not be accepted. After the funeral, the land temple (temporarily built) was smashed and the coffin was tied out of the shed.
On the other hand, ten miles change rules, and one place is one custom. As far as etiquette is concerned, the degree and the number of occasions experienced are the factors that determine the evaluation of the host.