1, discuss the time and address and inform relatives and friends.
Although engagement does not require such a big event as marriage, there are still many procedures. People who are invited to get engaged are usually close relatives. Before the engagement party begins, we should finalize the engagement time and choose a good date so that everyone can sit down and discuss things. In order to show sincerity, the host family has to call relatives one by one to make sure that you can arrive on time, and select a few reasonable people to discuss related matters with relatives.
Step 2 prepare gifts
Nowadays, weddings are not usually celebrated on the wedding day, but at the time of engagement. The man should prepare various gifts for the woman, such as gold ornaments and clothes. Besides, he has to buy two suits for the engagement party. The woman also prepares clothes at the same time and discusses the number of gifts before the man's wedding.
Step 3 set a wedding date
Engagement is very important, because many things will be decided at the engagement party, such as the date and details of marriage. Living environment and residence after marriage. If you don't make a decision on the spot, you should give an answer within two or three days after your engagement. Generally, engagement and marriage are not far apart, and some will be held in the same month.
4. Items required for signing the contract
There are many items needed at the engagement party, including candied fruit, melon seeds, peanuts, and gifts for relatives who come to join in. Generally, they are candies and peanuts, and some are for red eggs, but nowadays people basically don't use red eggs, which saves trouble.
Precautions:
1, set an auspicious day
Communicate and coordinate with both parents in advance, choose a convenient time for both parties to meet and go on time.
2. Etiquette should be in place
Both men and women should add tea, water, wine and cloth in time to give each other's parents a good impression of being educated and polite, whether in conversation or at dinner.
3. Agreed place
Engagement is usually when the man and his parents (relatives) come together, bring cakes, fruits, cigarettes, wine and other gifts, and personally visit the woman's parents to meet her future in-laws. The engagement place is generally preferred in the woman's home to show respect.
4. Number of participants
When engaged, the woman's family will invite people, relatives and friends to accompany her. Congratulate the couple in this way and congratulate them on becoming "in-laws". Generally, people who attend the banquet should be determined before engagement, so as to determine the budget, book the hotel in advance or prepare the table.
Step 5 prepare gifts
When engaged, the man should naturally bring gifts to show respect and intimacy. Of course, gifts are not luxuries, but emotional expressions. Under normal circumstances, cigarettes, wine, fruits, tea, cakes, etc. You can give it as a gift, or you can prepare one or two special products from your hometown and things that your in-laws like in the future.
6. Understand the preferences of both parents.
Understand the living habits of both parents, such as etiquette, dietary preferences, taboos, etc. In particular, men should pay more attention to this, understand the dietary preferences and taboos of future in-laws, so as to help their parents, and bring gifts that meet their tastes.
7. Try to avoid it when parents discuss it.
When both parents start discussing marriage, both men and women can avoid it appropriately, interrupt less and respect their parents' opinions as much as possible; If you have objections, you should also discuss with your parents, and don't get angry; If parents can't reach an agreement on some issues, or even quarrel, then both men and women should act as "mediators" and don't make things worse.
Legal basis:
Article 1049 of the Civil Code of People's Republic of China (PRC) requires that both men and women who get married must register their marriage in the marriage registration office in person. Those who meet the requirements of this law shall be registered and issued a marriage certificate. Getting a marriage certificate is tantamount to establishing a relationship between husband and wife. Those who have not registered for marriage shall re-register.