So how does the transferred mother-in-law treat her daughter-in-law? When her daughter-in-law is pregnant, the transferred mother-in-law is as busy as her own mother. Not only does she not let her daughter-in-law do housework, but she also studies the recipes herself. Mother-in-law took care of her daughter-in-law for a month after her son was born. And if nothing happens, send a red envelope to your daughter-in-law. Of course, it is nominally given in the name of buying something for my grandson. In any case, this makes the daughter-in-law feel that she is not a married girl and nobody cares.
In the process of treating daughter-in-law, my mother might as well nurse her mother-in-law and be picky about some things. But at this time, I want to play my due role. Two people have contradictions on one thing, just for things and not for people. My daughter-in-law was right, so I told my mother that you were wrong. Mom is right. I will take the initiative to tell my daughter-in-law that you have done something wrong. When my daughter-in-law was pregnant, my mother and mother-in-law lived in our house. Two old people serve their daughter-in-law together. This gives me time and energy to go out and earn money. When I was confined, my mother-in-law was in poor health, so my mother waited on her daughter-in-law alone.
Moreover, sometimes playing a little narrow-minded can make family relations more harmonious. For example, when my daughter-in-law gave birth to a baby in the hospital, I quietly told my mother not to hold the baby directly when the doctor pushed the patient out later. Take care of your daughter-in-law first. Later, every time my daughter-in-law mentioned this to me, she thought my mother was a good person.
And every time my daughter-in-law and I visit my mother, we will definitely buy something. Because the salary is due, it is customary to say what your daughter-in-law bought you. So mom is not very good at conditioning. There's another trick. I bought many things. My mother lives on the fifth floor. There is no elevator in the old house. Every time, I first carry heavy things like rice flour oil to the fourth floor and let my wife carry it to the last floor. So mom will not have the idea of conditioning.
In fact, if I sum up, under what circumstances will the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be good? Four words: "Be considerate of each other" and as a son, you should also learn to "be both right and left" and become a referee between two people when necessary. We must judge this matter fairly. As an elder, mother-in-law has her own opinions and face. As a daughter-in-law, if something has nothing to do with size, do it according to her mother-in-law's wishes. Try to respect your mother-in-law. As a mother-in-law, we should also communicate more with our daughter-in-law and respect her in many things. When two people respect each other, the problem will be solved naturally.