But in weddings, funerals and weddings, many rules are still very important, and we should not be careless at all, otherwise the villagers will gossip and some relatives may have opinions. Take a red wedding as an example. Generally, whether we hold a banquet at home or go to a hotel, we are very particular about the arrangement of seats. Happy events like marriage are usually attended by the man's uncle. Why? What's the story? You will understand after reading it!
I heard this old rule from my parents when I was a child. When I was very young, my mother told me many times that I should respect my uncle and treat him well, because "my uncle is like my father". In the future, I will invite my uncle to a wedding banquet and he will sit at the table. When we hold banquets here, we pay more attention to seating, and arrange seats according to the status of relatives. As long as my uncle comes to the wedding reception, everyone will sit at the dinner table.
There is a folk saying that "there is a thunder god in the sky and an uncle on the ground", which means that uncle has the greatest position among all relatives, which is what many people often say. The so-called "uncle" is the mother's brother or younger brother, who was the highest among all relatives in ancient times. As the mother's maiden, uncle is the authorized representative of the mother's maiden. He is not only in charge of everything in the family, but also the head of the family and the dependence of his mother.
Because men were superior to women in the past, women's status in the family was not high. When they get married, if they are wronged or bullied in their husband's family, it is because they need a reliable man to support them, and my uncle is a man who helps her support. This is also common in daily life. For example, some girls will cry to their brothers when they are wronged. After all, we grew up together and had deep feelings. Even after they get married, they will help each other when things happen, especially when their sister is bullied, and they will definitely support her.
As a happy event like marriage, there are many things and they are very complicated. At this time, an authoritative person recognized by both parties is needed to preside over it. And my uncle is the best candidate, because he is the highest position among all relatives, representing both the family and the nephew's family, and his words are more weighty. With the help of his authority, others will listen to him and will not gossip. In fact, in ancient times, sons would be separated after marriage, and such an important event as separation would also be presided over by uncle. After all, with such great authority, others will listen to him. Every year when I visit relatives during the Spring Festival, I also go to my uncle's home first and then to other relatives' homes, which also highlights the importance of my uncle.
In rural banquets, attendance is the most important position, reserved only for the most distinguished guests. My uncle is the highest among all relatives, so I must save a place for my uncle. Even if Grandpa is still alive, he usually gives up his seat to his uncle, which is also a traditional custom of China culture.