The marriage and love of Hani people started early, and young men and women generally fell in love at the age of 16 or 17. Young men and women can fall in love after the bar mitzvah. The young men moved to the ovary, and the young women pretended to change, replacing the simple round cloth hat in the past with a Tibetan bamboo ring hat. The hat was decorated with colorful silver ornaments and various flowers woven with colorful chicken feathers and silk threads, and the black mountain blowing drink (decorated with bamboo figures painted in white, yellow and silk) was installed behind the round hat. Young men and women met and communicated in productive labor and entertainment activities, and they hit it off with each other, so they courted each other. Later, both men and women told their parents their worries, and the man prepared a bride price for the matchmaker to propose marriage to the woman's house. Generally, the parents of the woman will not easily agree to this marriage, and they are all excuses to stop it (not true, for the sake of not losing face after the daughter marries the man). The man's matchmaker went to the door several times, and it took a lot of effort and repeated encouragement to agree to this marriage and let them become partners.
The wedding of Hani people is usually held after the autumn harvest and before the spring ploughing. At that time, both men and women will prepare banquets to entertain relatives and friends, the groom's family will organize a wedding procession to the bride's family, and the bride's family will also organize a farewell procession to escort the bride. It is a kind of happiness to greet and bid farewell to relatives. The "Ya Xi" in the wedding team was full of joy while walking; The in-laws hid the bride indoors and deliberately seduced her. The wedding reception team tried to break through the protection of their loved ones and take the bride away. Relatives cried and chased the wedding banquet with clods, rice balls and bamboo sticks. After the bride was stolen, the woman's family arranged for several female companions of the bride to chase the bride with pig heads, wooden stakes and a pair of chicken wings and send her to the groom's house. However, when the wedding reception team comes back with the bride, it will be specially created by the bride's friends or all those who love the bride (tripping with weeds, attacking with mud blocks, etc.). ) to express regret for the bride's departure. The Hani people's "stealing girls" and "robbing marriage" initially contained the essence of resisting parents' interference in marriage. Later, "stealing girls" became a form of Hani marriage custom, which added interest and joy to Hani marriage and love. A bride was taken to Xinliang. At home, the in-laws greet them at the mouth and lead the bride across the fence. The bride takes off her hijab to recognize her in-laws. Then I went to the nearby Ziyou to eat the white skirt of Zhu Zangzi's family, put on the dresses and ornaments prepared by her husband's family, and waited for the wedding. A mushroom wedding was held in the groom's female room. The ceremony host "Xu Ma" divided the next chicken honey into two halves, recited a toast, let the bride and groom eat half, and symbolically shared a pig's foot. At this time, all the wedding emcees are busy setting banquets to entertain relatives and friends who come to congratulate. Praise the mushroom cloud; The close relatives of the bride generally do not attend the wedding banquet of the groom's house, and the man should arrange personnel to go to the bride's house to hold a banquet to recognize relatives. Hani people are free to divorce, and the procedures are simple. A divorcee only needs a little handling fee from his father, even if he has gone through the divorce formalities; Or the two sides finally went back to eat the last rice, and placed a firewood horizontally in the middle of the table, which could not put the man together, indicating that the husband and wife broke off relations from now on; If the husband and wife form a deep armor, kill a white chicken, tear the chicken in half and throw it aside, it is also a break. Zhu Qi people's marriage and childbearing strictly abide by the relevant laws and regulations of the state, and the relationship between husband and wife is stable and harmonious. Answer: "Hani is a paternal family, which is divided into big family and small family." The small family where my parents live is Zhu Feng, a married son who lives in the ovary. After getting married, the eldest son moved to his mother's room to perform the duties of parents. Women take care of themselves. Wan Zhen's uncle and daughter-in-law have great responsibilities in the big family, and she manages and distributes the expenses of food, clothing, housing and transportation for the whole family. So the Hani people are actually eldest sisters-in-law.