I watched a variety show some time ago, in which there was a happy couple.
In the barrage, I saw many people accuse the woman of being bloated and having a bad temper after giving birth, and she likes to buy this and that, while the man works hard, takes care of his wife's emotions, surprises her on the anniversary, and even when her wife loses her temper inexplicably, she can be gentle and humorous.
Many people think that this woman must have saved the galaxy in her last life. Others think that men suffer.
But few people see that after a hard day's work, the wife will rub her shoulders and soak her feet with him. When her husband and mother-in-law are in conflict, she uses high emotional intelligence to solve family embarrassment. After her husband cooked the soup carefully for her, she drank it clean and praised it.
Marriage is not when one person is tired and the other enjoys it, but when two people support and praise each other.
In this age when many people live in fear of marriage, how can we have a happy marriage? Personally, I think it is nothing more than these three points.
1, first understand the essence of marriage: boring and dull.
In marriage, whenever there is a little happiness, we should enjoy it and remember it with our heart. Even if you are not married now, happiness in life may not last forever. After love, expectation, longing, happiness and happiness, most people's marriages will be classified as dull. If you can't get used to this boring and dull, just live alone for the time being.
Don't lose yourself in marriage.
Girls should not think that marriage is a life of daily necessities, and boys should not think that marriage is their own shackles and fetters their freedom. In fact, the two sides can be better together.
Share the little things in life together, even the subtle things; Set a family day every week and go out to play together; Fitness together, studying recipes together, reading together, many, many sweet times in love can still continue after marriage.
3, give each other a sense of security, but also pay attention to parity.
Both men and women feel insecure. Everyone has the feeling of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss, which often comes from the inequality of status. Simply put, it is love imbalance.
At this time, it needs to be evenly matched.
You should be good to yourself first. Because being nice to yourself is more important than being nice to each other.
Don't love too much, be sure to leave room. If you are inferior to each other to some extent, such as appearance, education and age, then you should learn to improve yourself to make up for these gaps.