Is marriage really happy?
Mr. Qian Zhongshu has a very classic sentence, he said? Marriage is like a besieged city. People inside want to come out, and people outside want to go in. ?
In my opinion, this sentence is really right. There is a saying that goes well, you don't know its true colors unless you enter this mountain. People who have never experienced marriage will think that this is the happiness of love and the best thing in the world. Unfortunately, marriage is not romantic in nature.
We trace back to the source that the essence of marriage is actually a kind of cooperation. Get married? The fundamental purpose of this kind of thing is only to pass on the race, and to give the females a place to rely on and the males a place to raise. On the other hand, marriage is just to live.
Before they get married, many boys and girls expect how romantic their future marriage will be. They snuggle up in their lover's arms, or hold their beautiful wives and accept everyone's congratulations. This is the perfect life.
But unfortunately, marriage is not the most perfect ending of love, but the grave of love. From now on, you will only face daily necessities, milk powder, diapers and tuition.
Maybe you will secretly ask yourself in the dead of night, what is the purpose of marriage?
There are more than 200 million singles in China.
Who are the top six women bachelors in China? What figures have been reached respectively? According to the 20 18 single person survey report.
3.24 million single women in Guangdong; 2.56 million single women in Sichuan; Hubei single female 2 1.4 million; Zhejiang single women 2.09 million; 2.09 million single women in Hunan; There are 1.8 million single women in Guangxi.
If we don't look at these data, we will never know that the situation has actually reached this point. The number of bachelors in China has now exceeded 200 million. (Regardless of age and gender, only figures above the legal age for marriage are calculated)
It is a common phenomenon that there are more men than women in China, but there are still many women who choose to be single when there are more men than 30 million women. I remember some experts suggested it? Polygamy? System, said it might solve this problem.
In my opinion, whether this system can solve the current phenomenon or not, it is not suitable for use. This is something that has been eliminated. What's more, this system can't solve this problem, which is a big mistake for several reasons.
First, I don't want to find it.
A considerable number of these women are not unable to find their own spouses, but actively choose to live alone. If you look closely, you will find that there are more leftover women in big cities, and most of these leftover women are highly educated and high-income groups. They like a person's freedom, and would rather go to a bar to indulge and chat to comfort their occasionally empty hearts than develop a relationship with a high probability of no result.
This is also human nature. All cooperation in the world is for the benefit, and marriage is no exception. If two people are together and the quality of life is not as good as that of one person, I don't think anyone wants to do such a stupid thing.
Second, life is stressful.
There are also some girls who are single for economic reasons. Now everyone's life is under great pressure. Maybe they are glamorous in the studio outside, but only when they return to their rooms can they show their true feelings of hurting themselves. Without a certain material foundation, marriage is like a joke.
For example, I know a friend whose parents asked him not to fall in love during college, but to study hard until graduation.
However, when he joined the work, he found that colleagues of the opposite sex around him were unwilling to further associate with her, because once girls entered the workplace, they would have more choices and would come into contact with outstanding men with certain wealth status.
Often these excellent men with certain wealth status will not marry a woman of their own age after going through ups and downs and all kinds of vicissitudes, because if a man has no woman standing behind him during ups and downs, why not choose a younger and better existence after his success?
As the saying goes,? The girl who is the co-pilot of a luxury car has never let us down! ?
This is a very realistic question, man? Money? Women's looks are just what they need. Be careful not to spray me. I didn't say that girls worship money or anything. Who doesn't like money?
Will marriage be happy?
Everything has two sides. I am a demon. I have told you so many bad things, so I must cheer you up now. Is marriage good or not? Good and bad, man is always a product of the environment and a social animal.
If you live alone in a deserted place, your brain will degenerate, your language function will gradually lose, your body will become stronger, your limbs will be strengthened, and you will become a smart monkey.
What is a person? Stand tall and be a man, and be a man in the world of mortals. People will always experience these things in this life, and what we can do is to stick to our initial heart, find that person and find that happiness that belongs to us.