In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law generally can't take advantage of anything, because the daughter-in-law faces not only her mother-in-law, but also her husband. For better or worse, her husband will stand by and cheer up on her mother's side, or choose two who don't want to help her mother-in-law when she makes mistakes. This is a very common phenomenon, there is no need to be harsh.
Looking back at history, many countries have established their countries with filial piety, which is a national righteousness, but don't blindly do something wrong and offend some people because you want to show your filial piety. This kind of filial piety is not filial piety, but foolish filial piety. The range is large and wide, but it seems a little narrow.
When a woman gets married, it is inevitable to have confinement. In this weak period, they need someone to help them take care of their daily lives. During this period, most women will choose to go back to their parents' home for confinement, preferring to be disturbed by their families rather than let their mother-in-law take care of themselves. This is out of fear of the unknown.
After all, mother-in-law is not mother and daughter. During confinement, few mother-in-law serve women wholeheartedly. If you happen to meet one, congratulations, you have found a treasure. Therefore, many daughters-in-law are disgusted and rejected by their mother-in-law when they are confinement. Whether she has experienced the process of being served by her mother-in-law, women will decisively say "no" to her mother-in-law at this point.
Women in confinement are more sensitive, and some trivial things in life will be infinitely magnified in women's hearts. If there is any disagreement between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, women usually laugh it off, but if there is a disagreement with mother-in-law during confinement, then this memory will be firmly engraved in women's bones and will never be put down. Women will not choose to confinement in their husbands' families to prevent such unknown events.
In real life, many things are not what people want. Sometimes a woman wants to go back to her mother's house for confinement, but she is forced to go back to her mother's house because of some ridiculous or even irresistible factors. When she doesn't have a certain financial ability to ask for a new moon, the only person who can serve a woman is her mother-in-law. But when her husband and mother-in-law are integrated, some incredible changes will take place.
Reader Mei Lin's husband is a very filial person. Before getting married, Mei Lin chose him because she valued her husband's point of view. Mei Lin's husband has her favorite advantages, that is, other advantages of "filial piety" "Filial piety" is big and broad, and filial people are generally responsible, take care of their families and have patience. Mei Lin feels that she will not be wronged for life.
However, what Mei Lin wants is the kind of big and broad filial piety, not the kind of narrow filial piety. After the marriage, Mei Lin's husband performed well, and Mei Lin was also complacent about his original idea. Mei Lin has nothing to blame her husband except that he occasionally invites her mother to live in the new house for a while. Moreover, the filial piety of the mother can not be blamed.
Although Mei Lin openly welcomes her mother-in-law, she still feels a little disgusted because her mother-in-law has so many bad habits that she doesn't wash her feet at night. The worst thing is spitting in a clean hall. Mei Lin is not good at criticizing her face to face, so she can only talk about it with her husband in a roundabout way. But when Mei Lin's husband hears Mei Lin say this, he will stare at her and say, "My mother likes to do whatever she wants. It's not your turn to talk. It's you. " Why didn't you just wipe it when my mom threw up? "
This scene has happened more than once or twice. Mei Lin knew her husband's virtue and simply stopped talking about it, so her mother-in-law stayed for a few days. But when Mei Lin saw her mother-in-law spitting in the living room again and again, she was still very angry. When she couldn't bear it, she didn't have to bear it any longer, but Mei Lin finally chose patience because she knew that it was impossible to get a good face with her mother-in-law.
In this way, the impression of her mother-in-law in Mei Lin's heart is not much worse, but Mei Lin can't stop her mother-in-law from entering the new house. After all, she is a relative. Mei Lin flatly refused to visit relatives, and her mother-in-law was invited by her husband to stay for a few days, occupying the word "filial piety", which made Mei Lin unable to solve the current situation.
However, in Mei Lin's view, this kind of life does not take a long time to be "tortured". Less than a month, my mother-in-law has just been in her new home for more than a week. Mei Lin's husband also invited her father to live in her new home for a few days, but she was rejected by Mei Lin's father-in-law because she was "used to suffering and couldn't stand the comfortable life in the city", while Mei Lin's mother-in-law wandered around the new house like a drug addict.
It is said that when a person who is not pleasing to the eye frequently appears in front of you, you will gradually feel pleasing to the eye, but Mei Lin does not feel this way, which leads her to turn a blind eye to her mother-in-law's spit or even worse behavior. The reason for her inner peace is that she is pregnant. For the sake of the baby in her belly, Mei Lin should cheer up every day and face all the people and things with a smile.
After learning that she was pregnant, Mei Lin's first reaction was not ecstatic, but thinking about who should be confined. Theoretically, it is a woman's first choice to go to her mother-in-law's house for confinement without expecting her mother-in-law, but Mei Lin is different, because in the previous month, she learned the news that her sister-in-law was pregnant from her brother. Don't be surprised, Mei Lin's brother got married before her.
Mei Lin knows that it must be her mother who waits on her confinement after giving birth. There is no doubt that she will be considerate of her sister-in-law People say that children are better than fathers, and daughters know their mothers best in the world. Mei Lin is no exception. She knows that her mother's character will not embarrass her sister-in-law. Her sister-in-law is the kind of woman who finds treasures and has a good mother-in-law.
In sharp contrast to Mei Lin's husband, her mother-in-law's attitude. After learning that Mei Lin was pregnant, her husband jumped three feet tall with joy, but her mother-in-law looked strange and just said coldly, "Oh, I know." My father-in-law reacted better, revealing rhubarb teeth that had been blackened all the year round.
The surprise will only last for a moment, and when everyone calms down, it will return to the original pace of life. Knowing that Meilin was pregnant, her mother-in-law still showed her bad habits at Meilin's house regardless, and never thought about whether she would be angry with Meilin, thus affecting the baby in her womb. No one believes that her mother-in-law will not know that her habits are hated. The confidence that supports her next series of actions is nothing more than Mei Lin's husband.
Mei Lin tried not to think about it and tried her best to turn a blind eye to her mother-in-law. Originally, under the trend that her belly is getting bigger and bigger, Mei Lin should find someone to take care of her food, clothing and daily life. However, Mei Lin was left with her mother-in-law on the premise that her husband didn't have time to go to work. Mei Lin thought of letting her mother-in-law serve herself. It is better to order takeout and receive express delivery every day.
My stomach is getting bigger every day. In addition to refusing her mother-in-law's confinement, Mei Lin also planned to ask for a month to help her, but this proposal was flatly rejected by Mei Lin's husband. "Please lunar new year's eve is too expensive, and our family can't get so much money. Mom, forget it. I won't let her do these dirty and tired things. Let my mother-in-law come to our house to wait on you. " Meilin husband said with a frown.
"My mother has to take care of my nephew and can't give birth." After Mei Lin didn't want to finish, she heard her husband say, "Ask her which is more important, you or her daughter-in-law?" After all, it's blood ties, so I can't believe she won't take care of you. "Meilin didn't speak, smiled and skipped talking about it.
Mei Lin thinks there is something wrong with her husband's mind, but it's hard to say. She can only count the date of birth with her fingers, and then try to find a way after giving birth. Sometimes, time will slip through your fingers inadvertently, and people simply don't have much time to react. In a blink of an eye, it was yesterday. After Mei Lin gave birth, she found herself in a trance and had to face this difficult problem, but she never came up with a reasonable and happy method.
After returning home from the hospital, Mei Lin's husband gave up and went directly to work in the company. Mei Lin knows that her husband can apply for leave. She also knows that the reason why her husband doesn't apply for leave is that he doesn't like the stink of the moon ovary. In the case of poor air circulation, it will also breed a lot of bacteria, especially dirty, which is not good for his health. Mei Lin is not angry. At that moment, this woman bloomed the power that does not belong to women. She nursed the baby alone, bought food and cooked alone, and ran home in a panic, endlessly.
When Mei Lin's husband came home with her mother-in-law, although she didn't want to admit it, she still felt a little happy. Nothing is happier than a man taking her to heart. Although she hated her mother-in-law, she agreed that her mother-in-law would take care of her confinement, but Mei Lin didn't expect that all this was just her narcissism.
"My mother doesn't serve people. During this time, I took my mother to travel and went home to get some daily necessities for travel. " Mei Lin's husband saw Mei Lin's expectant face and said, "What did you say?" ? Travel? Leave me alone at home? And how did you ask for leave from work? "Mei Lin's husband packed his things and said casually," Aren't you going to have a baby? The leader approved it for me. I thought my mother had never been far away, so I took this opportunity to take her on a trip. "
Mei Lin watched the child sleep peacefully in the bed and asked, "How can I live if you leave me alone at home?" You use leadership to travel because of the holiday I gave you instead of accompanying me? Do you have a conscience? Ok, I won't talk nonsense with you. Please help me wait on me for a month, whatever. "
"How do you talk to me? What's wrong with me traveling with my mother? Do you have filial piety? Compared with my mother, you can only do great things. Besides, this trip will cost me a lot of money. How can I have spare money to buy a new moon? Can't you live without me these days? When I leave, pretend I never came. You really can't go to your mother-in-law to wait on you. I don't believe my daughter's request, and my mother-in-law won't agree. " Mei Lin's husband replied impatiently in a row.
It was not until Mei Lin's husband and mother-in-law left that Mei Lin, who heard the baby crying, came to her senses, put aside all the negative emotions in her heart, hurried to the bed, picked up the child and coaxed it slowly with her arms. Since her husband went on a trip, Mei Lin has taken care of everything at home alone. Although she is as busy as a bee, Mei Lin feels very satisfied. At that moment, however, she seemed to have shed all her strong disguise and said to her mother with tears in her eyes.
After her husband came back from his trip, Mei Lin suddenly became a virtuous and family-oriented woman, and her mother-in-law went to Mei Lin's house more and more frequently. When Mei Lin saw her mother-in-law's bad habit of keeping silent at will, she opened her mouth and said everything. Her mother-in-law is ashamed. My mother-in-law said that Mei Lin had changed. Mei Lin smiled and said, "I have never changed. I don't believe you touch my face.
Mei Lin and her husband often quarrel. Mei Lin, who has always been subservient to her husband, has become as ruthless as a machine. Even if she goes to her parents' house, Mei Lin won't go back. Mei Lin feels that she can't have a little fun until the ending that she doesn't want to face but has to face comes.
Mei Lin said: "No matter what the final result is, I won't regret it. Many people will say that I am unreasonable, and some people will say that I am unreasonable. I don't care what others think of me, but I believe that he will regret it in the end. "
Filial piety is a virtue, but filial piety at all costs is not worth advocating, because it is a kind of foolish filial piety. It is a narrow filial piety to achieve one's own goals by hurting others. Filial piety is big and wide. If you are really filial to your elders, you will have a tolerant and kind heart for the people around you. Similarly, people around you will treat you like this.
There needs to be some distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should regard each other as hedgehogs. They can only cultivate their feelings slowly, and only when their thorns become soft can they close the distance. Dare to say and do things before facing things that are fundamentally wrong. Don't be afraid of offending people. You know, blind indulgence is a sign of future disaster.