How to do it specifically? This paper gives four concrete action suggestions, through which we can have a more objective understanding of failure. I believe that after reading it, you can have different methods and attitudes when facing failure, just like Gu Jia in the play.

First, the concept-understand the plasticity of the brain and build the concept of plasticity.

The traditional idea is that people's ability is fixed, and they pay attention to personal talent, IQ and so on.

People's knowledge and ability are essentially specific combinations and connections of neurons in the brain, and now brain science research proves that the human brain has a high degree of plasticity. Whether learning knowledge or training skills will cause the reorganization of neurons and change the structure of the brain, thus changing our abilities.

Scientists have done a study on drivers in London. Because the traffic in London is very complicated, taxi drivers need to remember a lot of information about the road sections. Scientists have found that the part of the hippocampus that taxi drivers are responsible for remembering is larger than the average person. That is to say, through constant memory, the part of the brain responsible for memory will change, which will further strengthen people's memory ability.

In essence, every learning process is like this. Constant repetition will strengthen specific neural links in the brain and eventually become familiar skills.

The plasticity of the brain tells us that a person's abilities and skills can be acquired through acquired learning. What he can't do today doesn't mean that he can't learn in the future. Basically, almost all skills in our work and life can be acquired through deliberate practice.

This is true whether it is a new language, a musical instrument or a new method.

Therefore, if you are short of skills in some aspects or want to learn something new, you can reach the professional level only if you use the right methods and invest time and energy.

Second, cognition-give up the fascination with absolute correctness. One reason why most people dare not act is that they are afraid that their ideas are wrong and always want to make sure they are correct.

Modern society is so complicated and changeable that no one can guarantee that his ideas will always be correct.

Take Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, for example. He invented the iPhone that changed the world, but do you remember what Steve Jobs said about the classic iPhone at that time?

First, iPhone doesn't need 3G network, because Wi-Fi is everywhere in the United States, and 3G modules are dispensable.

Second, the IPhone doesn't need an App, which means it doesn't need a mobile phone application. Because the iPhone has made the experience of browsing the web very good for the first time, everyone can just use the application on the web page directly;

Third, Jobs has always said that the iPhone doesn't need a big screen, because the mobile phone that can be controlled with one hand is the most elegant.

Let's look at these three predictions now. One of the greatest entrepreneurs of our time, sometimes he predicted the future very wildly.

So we can't get everything right, and we can't get all the knowledge from the beginning. Many people know many things through practice step by step, and after trial and error step by step, they slowly find the correct answer.

For example, in the history of science, the earliest geocentric theory, the world view from Heliocentrism to the present; From Newton's universal gravitation to Einstein's general theory of relativity, and finally to the present quantum mechanics, all these have evolved step by step. From the present point of view, it was wrong before, but can we deny the value of previous scientific research results?

Teacher Wu Bofan called this evolutionary cognitive process "searchlight-style cognition". Every step we take, we will see more scenery and know things more clearly.

Third, action-give up perfectionism and refuse to procrastinate Many people dare not take risks. A large part of the reason is that they are worried that they will not do well at first, and gradually evolved into procrastination.

Anyone who has just started to do something can't do it well at once.

Learning new things, mastering new skills and starting new projects, all these things need a process from entry to mastery, and no one can easily be perfect from the beginning.

In the early days when Liu Qiangdong founded JD.COM, there were many things that he didn't understand at all. The earliest website was made by himself, and there wasn't even a webmaster. As a result, the website was destroyed by hackers only a few days later. When the company started to invest, Liu Qiangdong knew nothing about financing. Today, Xin Xu of Capital asked Liu Qiangdong about the company's valuation. As a result, Liu Qiangdong asked Finance to calculate the company's net assets to the other party, but these did not prevent Liu Qiangdong from making JD.COM one of the most successful e-commerce companies.

At the beginning of doing something, we should accept our ignorance and clumsiness, because everyone who does it has to go through this process like you.

The well-known theorem of "10,000 hours of genius" tells us that it takes 100,000 hours to master any skill, even for geniuses like Bill Gates and Mozart.

Those seemingly effortless operations have actually paid a lot of hard work and sweat.

As the saying goes: "Ten minutes on stage, ten years off stage."

Because of this, those successful people who have experienced these things will never laugh at others. On the contrary, they will encourage you to support you.

Only those bystanders who do nothing will laugh at others. These people are losers themselves, so ignore them.

At the beginning of Zuckerberg's business, he posted such a slogan on the office wall of Facebook: completion is more important than perfection. This code of conduct is to motivate employees to act quickly.

If you have any ideas, then act as soon as possible!

Fourth, the result-understand the value of failure Even if you are really wrong and you fail, there is nothing to be afraid of.

Failure is not terrible, every successful person will encounter failure. We need to correctly understand the value of failure. Failure just tells us that the current method doesn't work, and we can learn from it, which will become the ladder of our success.

Duan Yongji said: "The experience summed up when a person succeeds is often distorted, and the experience and lessons summed up when he fails are the most real."

Successful people can sum up experiences and lessons from their own failures and improve their ability to do things.

After the failure of his first venture, Shi Yuzhu comprehensively reflected on his previous problems, such as self-expansion, blind expansion, diversification, fund management and so on. When he started his second venture, Shi Yuzhu avoided all his previous mistakes and never made the same mistakes again, so Shi Yuzhu's career was smooth sailing.

For example, before the Giant Group, there were up to 300 million bad debts, and more than 200 million were sold on credit. Later, Shi Yuzhu paid special attention to cash flow, and all the products were cash-settled. If you didn't want to, you wouldn't cooperate. Melatonin sold several billion dollars, but there was not a penny.

Shi Yuzhu said: "When a person grows fastest, it is often in adversity."

Those who succeed will gain valuable knowledge and experience from it, and every setback is a ladder for their growth.

Wang Xing of Meituan constantly summed up his experience from the failure of intranet (later Renren) and Fanfan, and then created Meituan, and achieved the final success.

Mei Tuan Wang xing

The opposite of success is not failure, but mediocrity. The saddest thing in life is not failure. The terrible thing is that you have never worked hard for your dreams.