When I was working in the past, I experienced a devilish boss who was famous in the industry for being demanding on the work of his subordinates. He is also my mentor now.

How demanding are the requirements? I will tell you three things for everyone to experience.

The first thing:

Before I officially joined the company, I went in trembling because I had heard about the name for a long time, and worked hard. Three months later, I passed the probation period and was sent to the headquarters for training. Since I am the only one responsible for training in the branch, before the business trip, I carefully sorted out the work of the branch and then went to Shanghai with my luggage. Anyone who has worked in a large enterprise knows that the training at the headquarters level is very intense, and you can’t even eat, sleep or rest your brain. Especially for trainers like us, the pressure can be imagined. I got up at 6:00, finished at 22:00, and went back to the dormitory to prepare until 2:00 in the morning. This happened every day for seven days in a row. I didn’t even take a break after the business trip before returning to the branch office to attend the Monday regular meeting.

There are three levels of participants from top to bottom: general manager, heads of departments, (I was just a training specialist at the time, because I was the only one, so I attended the meeting) area store manager, one* **Seventeen or eight people. At the end of the meeting, my devilish boss asked me: What were you doing last week? I was only about 20 years old at that time, and I was still a rookie. I looked confused. I thought that I had already reported about going to the headquarters for training at the meeting, so why did I ask again? So as soon as I said the words "I went to Shanghai last week", the storm came.

"What were you doing last week? Let me tell you, if you continue to be so passive and sabotage, you can get out." (Note: The author is a woman)

What do you think about that? How I feel at that moment.

The second thing:

We are in the fashion retail industry, and performance is really more important than life.

Since the training department and the human resources department are not the direct profit makers in every enterprise, a very interesting phenomenon occurs. When the performance is good, almost all departments will not think that training and manpower have provided any help. When the performance is not good, all the reasons focus on the store's long-term shortage of staff, insufficient recruitment of manpower, poor sales skills of store employees, and lack of training. .

At a regular meeting on a Monday, I had just finished reporting on my work. I thought I had done a good job and was waiting for praise. The devil boss said: Your training is a bunch of shit. My request is that after you finish the training on Wednesday, the overall performance of the Dawei store will double on Thursday.

My first reaction at the time was: What do you, the general manager of the branch, do?

The third thing:

I have experienced a major life change, and I am physically and mentally exhausted. I think I must take a month's rest. I went to him with the leave application form, without raising my head. While looking at the data in the notebook ERP system, he told me in an understatement: You are the only one in the training department now. I can only give you 3 days to arrange for your mother, but you You are not eligible to take a month off for some trivial matter, so you cannot take a break.

So during this period of time that should have been the most heart-wrenching, I didn’t even have time to grieve.

Now that I have left this company, I am still the only one in the entire group who was directly promoted to a branch company from training specialist, skipping training senior specialist, training business manager, training senior business manager A person with a management position of training manager who was later transferred from the headquarters to become a national training manager.

I am grateful to this devil boss all my life, because he taught me a very important thing, to be able to understand words. He taught me that being able to listen and understand words is the basic ability to do things as a person.

The reason why he said, "What were you doing last week? I'm telling you, if you continue to be so passive and slow at work, you can get out." It was because although I had a hard time attending training in Shanghai, I simply He thought that training could not be carried out if I was not in the branch, so he stopped working in the branch. Since then, he has let me know how to leverage all the power in the branch to make everyone a trainer.

The reason why he said, "Your training is a bunch of shit. My request is that after you finish the training on Wednesday, the overall performance of the Dawei store will double on Thursday." It was because he felt that I have the potential to do better, and at the same time, it guides me how to implement training work into performance.

The reason why he said, "You are the only one in the training department now. I can only give you 3 days to settle your mother, but you are not qualified to take a month off for some trivial matters, so you can't take a break." It's because he knows that except for life and death, everything else in a person's life is trivial. He also knows what is truly good for you when a person goes through a major change. If he doesn't arrange work for you, your time will be used to hurt your heart.

It is true that not every subordinate likes this devil boss, and many people find him unacceptable. Those who cannot accept it will not develop very well in the end, because there is a problem that they never understand.

If you listen to him and you think he is telling you to get out, you will definitely get out if nothing happens.

If you listened to what he said, what do you think he would do as the general manager of the branch? If nothing else happens, you would still be working at the grassroots level.

If you listen to what he said, you think you are not a fucking human being. If I don’t let you rest even though I’m like this, your heart will be stabbed to death and you won’t have the brain to think about it anymore. Something happened.

The problem here is: people who cannot understand the language do not know how to treat things rationally and treat people emotionally. On the contrary, they treat people with reason (I hate you but I need this job, I can't offend you and can only tolerate it), and treat things with emotion (because I hate you, everything you say is fart and I won't listen). People who understand, although I don’t like you (treating people with emotion), I will seriously consider these tasks (treating things with reason).

It is a terrible thing not to understand the words.

Between relatives, if you don’t understand words, you will always remember that you once quarreled with me or you complained about me, which will make the family relationship become weaker and weaker;

Between husband and wife, I don’t understand the words, so I keep hiding them in my heart. What do you mean by these words? What does it mean? It will make the relationship go further and further;

Between friends, if you don’t understand the words, you will always understand that you are strong and you are awesome. Who can compare with you if you are a high-level person? I love you so much. , it will make the friendship become weaker and weaker;

Some people may say, don’t blame others for not understanding. First think about whether you can speak, and whether you speak too straight and lack of skill. This is so true, but most people don’t understand it. This is something you say to yourself, not to others. Do you think that these words are meant for you? When there is a misunderstanding, you will immediately reflect on whether there is something wrong with what you said? You think you are saying this to others, and when there is a misunderstanding, you will immediately think that it is everyone else's fault, and ignore it in the future. You will not think carefully about what others say, and you will just pass it off like farts. After that, you change nothing.

So when it comes to speaking, we cannot control others, we can only control ourselves. When we talk to others, we try our best to let others understand and improve our speaking skills. When others talk to us, we try our best to understand ourselves. We don’t have to agree or accept it, but as long as you can confirm that the other person is not that person. For those who have ill intentions toward you, please do not hurt other people's goodwill just because you don't understand.

Finally, boldly correct everyone’s three views.

Some time ago, many great writers wrote about Rohr. Let’s go to Baidu and read “The Virgin’s G-Spot is the Eternal Battlefield of Scammers” written by Lian Yue.

I have read this article. As an ordinary melon-eater like me, I think the point of view Lian Yue wants to express in this article is very clear. However, there are really many people who can't understand. I feel a little sorry for Lian Yue. Fortunately, Lian Yue's reply is to the point. We all need to learn from him.

Please replace all the "I"s above with "others" and all the "you"s with "I" and read it again.

It’s a bit regretful, because I think there may still be many people who still can’t understand the words even after reading this article, and their level is limited. I have tried my best.